# “She’s your daughter. Not your date” anti-incest billboards OK? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 23, 2016, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648 "2016-07-23T02:27:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/41 "2016-07-23T22:31:52Z")
We need billboards for this? Starting to think that CCW isn’t such a bad idea. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/42 "2016-07-23T22:37:50Z")
Way back when I was a kid my family would make the yearly vacation trip from Tennessee down to Perry to stay with the relatives. All along the way there were all these “See Incest City” signs. Or “Incest City Only 272 miles!”. Or the like. On top of barns, sides of buildings, giant billboards, even ones plowed into farmers fields. Those things were everywhere. Glad to see our social standards finally starting to take a turn for the better. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/43 "2016-07-23T22:57:16Z")
All billboards should be taken down. Fucking eye-sores. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/44 "2016-07-23T22:57:44Z")
“She’s your niece – not your piece!” ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/45 "2016-07-23T23:06:51Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > Is it a warnable offense if I write all my posts on this board like this from now on? If you’re really going for Burma-Shave-style authenticity, you need to post one line at a time. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/46 "2016-07-23T23:10:00Z")
Not mentioned in the article, I think, but the [billboard](https://sli.mg/veuwer3966.jpg) also includes the text: “Getting drunk is never an excuse.” Oh, come _on_. ---
**Author:** ![MEBuckner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mebuckner/32/2896_2.png) [@MEBuckner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MEBuckner)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/47 "2016-07-23T23:16:43Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > How about “She’s your daughter not your dinner” to combat cannibalism? Eatin’ ain’t cheatin’! ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/48 "2016-07-23T23:17:43Z")
Make an orange your main squeeze…not your daughter Buy real Indian River oranges! ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2016, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/49 "2016-07-23T23:54:51Z")
There’d be more outrage if the young woman on the billboard looked like this: [![](http://politicalhate.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Screen-Shot-2016-02-02-at-9.37.40-AM-640x642.png) ](http://politicalhate.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Screen-Shot-2016-02-02-at-9.37.40-AM-640x642.png) And yeah, I chose that photo for a reason. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/50 "2016-07-24T00:00:43Z")
You know a photo is bad when parrots are throwing up 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/51 "2016-07-24T01:11:20Z")
> [@Eliahna](#): > > IMO a billboard aimed at telling victims how and where to get help has a better shot at being effective. This. And very well put as well. ---
**Author:** ![zweisamkeit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zweisamkeit/32/4360_2.png) [@zweisamkeit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zweisamkeit)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/52 "2016-07-24T01:46:54Z")
> [@Jophiel](#): > > I guess I’m in a minority here because I didn’t see it as accusing ME of incest and\*\* I assumed the idea of it was more of a veiled way of letting children know this isn’t okay (despite being told otherwise by their aggressors).\*\* Me too. And I really don’t get how someone can see that billboard and think it’s accusing THEM personally of incest just because you happen to be a father. If you’re not inclined to commit incest (and I’ll go out on a limb here and say that most Dopers will probably fall into this category ;)), then it’s just.not.about._you_. Do you also think Smokey Bear is accusing you of abetting forest fires? Or that Carly Cardinal is saying that you personally hate trees and don’t think they’re terrific? ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/53 "2016-07-24T02:02:18Z")
> [@zweisamkeit](#): > > Do you also think Smokey Bear is accusing you of abetting forest fires? But you see, people can and do neligently start forest fires through carelessness without meaning to so it’s not out of place to remind us to pay attention and be careful with fire. Otherwise reasonable folks do mistakenly think they’re not as drunk as they really are and try to drive so yes, point out to us that if we do and live through it we’re getting arrested. But I’m pretty sure tapping your daughter is not something that happens by mistake. That said, the part about where to call for help, which IS in the billboard, IMO is what should have been displayed much more prominently. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/54 "2016-07-24T02:05:15Z")
What, like you’ve never tripped and fallen before? ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/55 "2016-07-24T03:33:05Z")
I’ve worked in a high school, a jail, and am now working as a nurse so there may be some confirmation bias at work here, but I hear about incest with depressing frequency. One woman who was a jail inmate had been turned out to prostitution by her father after he “taught” her how to please men. She was 12.:eek: I personally reported a man who molested his own granddaughters and other girls and was criticized by family members of the perp who refused to believe a young girl outside the family who disclosed to me. Fuck them. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/56 "2016-07-24T03:55:48Z")
I’ll go one step further in my “defense” (such as it is) of the billboard: If it’s a billboard that just says “Hey kids, call for help” then it’s setting its message against the message of your abusive parent. If it’s a billboard saying “Hey parent, it’s not cool for you to rape your kids” in front of the kids then it’s eroding the authority of the parent to tell the child that this is okay, it’ll be their fault if they tell, no one will believe them, etc. I don’t really get the “People will think this town is all about incest” angle – I don’t see a PSA for other abusive behaviors and think “Hey, this town has a billboard for battered women to seek help, they must all punch their wives here”. I just know that some behaviors are sadly universal beyond geographic or socioeconomic boundaries. There’s no anti-incest billboards in my town but I bet that some poor kid is getting abused by a family member. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/57 "2016-07-24T06:59:30Z")
> [@enipla](#): > > We need billboards for this? > > Starting to think that CCW isn’t such a bad idea. How does this relate to the issue of guns _at all_? ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/58 "2016-07-24T17:19:07Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > How does this relate to the issue of guns _at all_? Well, if your daughter knows where you keep the guns and where you keep the keys to the gun safe… > [@Aerosmith](#): > > _Janie’s got a gun…_ ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/59 "2016-07-24T18:36:24Z")
> [@Alley\_Dweller](#): > > So you are driving with your family and you pass that sign. Your child says “Mommy/daddy, what does that mean, she’s not your date? … Why did they have to put up a sign that says that?” > > What do you say? You use it as an opportunity for open communication with your child about abuse and inappropriate behavior. Incest doesn’t always involve parents or stepparents. It can be other relatives. Most children are abused by people they know and trust. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2016, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648/60 "2016-07-24T18:43:53Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > You know, it’s probably a good thing to tell your children that there are homosexuals in the world, and that we used to have slaves in the US but don’t any longer. But i don’t really see any upside in explaining to your 6 year old that some people rape their children. > > And a billboard accusing every random man of incest seems nasty, also to no benefit. > > I’d oppose that sign. The upside is if the find out another child, one of their friends or acquaintances is being abused, they are more likely to tell you or another authority figure. They also better prepared in general to deal with avoiding bad people and bad situations if they know what’s out there and likely to hurt them. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-s-your-daughter-not-your-date-anti-incest-billboards-ok/760648.md?page=4)