# She spins me about **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 2, 2010, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358 "2010-01-02T01:38:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/41 "2010-01-02T10:02:57Z")
Lets try another perspective. Crazy bitches have feelings, too. The whole “hold me tight” thing kind of implies that she is looking for more than some good clean uncomplicated NSA sex. From the tone of your post, it seems like you have no interest in having anything more than a purely sexual relationship with her. Dude, don’t lead her on. I know she’s a crazy bitch, but you should be the bigger man. It’s not right to lead anyone to believe that they are in a relationship when really it’s just about sex. Do the right thing and find someone who has the same relationship expectations that you do. ---
**Author:** ![mecaenas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/91b2a8/32.png) [@mecaenas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mecaenas)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/42 "2010-01-02T12:01:19Z")
Speaking of crazy exs, if you need a laugh checkout the [funny short web series, Psycho Girlfriend](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMoGj9QtZts). ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/43 "2010-01-02T17:21:54Z")
> [@Klaatu](#): > > Why the fuck did you post this bullshit? Much less in the Pit. Who gives a fuck? > > Yet another new year starting with lame-ass personal shit nobody cares about. > Why do people post whiny bullshit here? > > No wonder the Pit has gone to shit. I demand this be moved to MPSIMS. Hi! You may _request_ a thread move by clicking on the report this post button. We don’t really have a procedure for demanding things from the moderation staff. Thanks! **Gfaptor** Pit Mode ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/44 "2010-01-02T17:28:17Z")
Moved from The BBQ Pit to Mundane Pointless Stuff I Must Share. **Gfactor** Pit Moderator ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/45 "2010-01-02T17:38:00Z")
> [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](#): > > As amusing as all this advice is, consider this: The time you spend on her is time you aren’t meeting the woman you should be with. I think you could paper the OP’s walls with this post and he would only reply “Wha…?” as if he was reading 2007 Tax Code. Good effort though. Good Sex + Wants To Be Fooled = Can’t Help him “Don’t believe the devil I don’t believe his bunk But the truth is not the same Without the lies he made up…” ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/46 "2010-01-02T18:39:57Z")
Poor guy. Such self-inflicted suffering! Reminds me of the summer- long relationship I had with a sweet, cute, funny co-worker who was separated from his “beautiful” psycho bitch (a big titted black-rooted blond drunk with a red face and loud mouth). Not separated long enough, I guess. We had things in common; we worked together every day; we had chemistry, dammit! I thought it was going somewhere, hapless fool living in a dream world that I was. When the leaves started falling in September, he hemmed and hawwed and finally told me he was getting back together with his drunk, promiscuous, lying, cheating ex who moved back in with him over a weekend I was out of town. Why? Why??? I asked, foolishly. Even more foolishly, he just looked down and said, “well, she needs me, and …and…well, she’s just so pretty!” I was hurt and flabbergasted and all of that, but there was the comfort of knowing if he wanted to bail her out of her messes, and actually thought that the pig was “so pretty”, he deserved a life of living hell… Some people like that kind of thing. The drama (she got thrown out of her apartment for not paying the rent and they’re keeping all her stuff!), the excitement of spying on a lying cheating SO (I followed her from the club and she was parked outside a strange apartment until 4 a.m.), the great make-up sex (she swore she was drunk at the time and she loves me, and damn! she’s good! How could I say no?). Makes life with a boring cow (like me) a long, slow, boring slog to the graveyard, no drama! Have at it, then. … This situation is actually “why do women like bad boys and not nice guys?” in reverse. Why, indeed. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/47 "2010-01-02T19:26:04Z")
> [@Ferret\_Herder](#): > > Whose shoulder does she cry on about you, I wonder? Might wanna get yourself checked out just in case. And no, you don’t have to let her in if she’s crying on your doorstep, as long as she isn’t physically injured or something similar. Yeah, that’s pretty much what I was going to say. You don’t owe someone who cheated on you anything at all, especially not consolation over having broke up with the dude she cheated on you with. Cut off the contact. If she tries this kind of thing again, don’t answer the door. Call the cops if she won’t leave. After all, just think about how pissed off you would have been about her showing up and making that kind of scene on your doorstep if you had a new, non-crazy chick over that you were trying to impress. ---
**Author:** ![black\_rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@black\_rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/black_rabbit)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/48 "2010-01-02T20:05:00Z")
You need to tell this woman the same thing that I told my ex-wife when she asked me if we were still going to have sex after I told her I wanted a divorce: “Only if it’s anal.” ---
**Author:** ![cuauhtemoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ecb155/32.png) [@cuauhtemoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cuauhtemoc)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/49 "2010-01-02T20:20:22Z")
Plenty of good old-fashioned self-righteousness in this thread, from people who think they’re above it all, just as expected. No, not you, just half the other people who have posted to this thread. They know who they are. **A Monkey With a Gun** , my wish for you is that you have the strength to do the right thing, as you probably already know what it is. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/50 "2010-01-02T20:25:34Z")
> [@black\_rabbit](#): > > You need to tell this woman the same thing that I told my ex-wife when she asked me if we were still going to have sex after I told her I wanted a divorce: “Only if it’s anal.” Turn about is only fair play right? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/51 "2010-01-02T20:32:38Z")
Yeah, tell her you’re sorry, it is all your fault, and you forgive her for her mistake. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/52 "2010-01-02T20:33:47Z")
If she says she wants you back, and promises not to cheat on you this time, go for it! ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/53 "2010-01-02T20:44:16Z")
> [@cuauhtemoc](#): > > Plenty of good old-fashioned self-righteousness in this thread, from people who think they’re above it all, just as expected. No, not you, just half the other people who have posted to this thread. They know who they are. Not self-righteous at all, just been there, done that, and had all the symptoms back in my 20’s: now in my 40’s I can look back with a wry grin and think “Yeah, I didn’t listen either”. He’ll come to his senses sooner or later: in the mean time he can enjoy the crazy sex and look forward keenly to family gatherings. ---
**Author:** ![garygnu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garygnu/32/2924_2.png) [@garygnu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garygnu)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/54 "2010-01-02T21:06:33Z")
You should ask a good friend to try to get her a job where he works. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/55 "2010-01-02T21:12:32Z")
> [@A Monkey With a Gun](#): > > She spins me about, and I end up traveling over my own wake. I get lost, and it takes a few days to get my bearings again. > > I caught her cheating on me last Super Bowl Sunday. Ugly breakup, and I hadn’t talked to her since. But I come home after spending Christmas with my nieces 10 months later, I pour a glass of wine and click on the TV. Then the doorbell rings. > > It’s 10:30 at night and it’s her. Crying her damned eyes out. > > What do I do here? This is where you say “Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn !” ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2010, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/56 "2010-01-02T21:30:03Z")
> [@cuauhtemoc](#): > > my wish for you is that you have the strength to do the right thing, as you probably already know what it is. Joint savings account. ---
**Author:** ![E-Sabbath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e19adc/32.png) [@E-Sabbath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E-Sabbath)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/57 "2010-01-03T01:51:47Z")
> [@Gfactor](#): > > **Gfaptor** > Pit Mode … Whut? ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/58 "2010-01-03T02:55:20Z")
> [@Gfactor](#): > > Moved from The BBQ Pit to Mundane Pointless Stuff I Must Share. > > **Gfactor** > Pit Moderator This is quite apropo since the OP has a _Mundane Pointless Stuff He Must Share_ with her. It even has a double entendre. 8100 ---
**Author:** ![MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MPB_in_Salt_Lake)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/59 "2010-01-03T02:59:42Z")
> [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > Three tips for life: never play poker with a man named Doc, never eat at a place called Mom’s, and never sleep with someone crazier than you. Mr Abbey? Are you feeling better? ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2010, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358/60 "2010-01-03T05:03:26Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > I think you could paper the OP’s walls with this post and he would only reply “Wha…?” as if he was reading 2007 Tax Code. > > Good effort though. > > Good Sex + Wants To Be Fooled = Can’t Help him I figure it’s like a message in a bottle. Eventually it may reach it’s destination. We’ve all been in that situation, and it sucks. **Monkey with a Gun** , good luck. You’re a good guy, you deserve better. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/she-spins-me-about/523358.md?page=4)