# She's Single Again... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 22, 2001, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962 "2001-10-22T22:30:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dr.Lao](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@Dr.Lao](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Lao)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/21 "2001-10-23T02:07:52Z")
I am with **rocking chair** on this one. Your instincts told you something wasn’t right, you followed through on them, and now you are better off because of it. That is what I call a victory for the good guys. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/22 "2001-10-23T02:27:06Z")
Ginger, sorry you had to run into my ex-husband like that. I hope you kicked him in the balls for me. Trust that woman’s intuition! {{Ginger}} ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/23 "2001-10-23T02:44:53Z")
You realize, of course, that Tripler will probably desert just to be with you, and with him will go our chances at winning the war. And it will all be your fault. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/24 "2001-10-23T02:52:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Muffin \* > \*\*You realize, of course, that Tripler will probably desert just to be with you, and with him will go our chances at winning the war. And it will all be your fault. 😛 \*\* I only wish that were true, **Muffin**. I haven’t heard from him since the US military started blowing stuff up ☹ ☹ ---
**Author:** ![panzermanpanzerman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e9bcb4/32.png) [@panzermanpanzerman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panzermanpanzerman)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/25 "2001-10-23T02:52:56Z")
…And all that because you found out he wasn’t REALLY a DJ? \ ---
**Author:** ![dunne\_u.wurrie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@dunne\_u.wurrie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dunne_u.wurrie)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/26 "2001-10-23T03:01:08Z")
This sucks. HE sucks. But never feel guilty for protecting yourself. Guys like this prey on people’s guilt. I’m with Muffin. Change the locks, close the accounts, remove all the risks you can. Then go treat yourself. The line of available suitors forms to the left. One at a time, gentlemen, please! ---
**Author:** ![detop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@detop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/detop)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/27 "2001-10-23T03:07:56Z")
Quite frankly, I don’t know what to say, “Sorry that it happened to you” or “Good for you, your sensors are up and running”. A little bit of both I guess (choose which part you want to emphasize and you can change your mind any time you want, as often as you want). However, lots of good advice is being provided in this thread and I’m happy to be here to help if needed. Your friend Dick ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/28 "2001-10-23T03:10:15Z")
Coupla thoughts from a broad who has been around the block a few times: As has been pointed out, you were hardly a complete fool–you ran the check, didn’t you? And as far as “flaws” go, being trusting and taking people at face value and believing in them is hardly a trait one should have to apologize for. Better to get burned a few times for this tendency, IMHO, then to be a distrustful misanthrope who never gets to know all the truly fantastic people in the world. This whole thing says volumes about him. He sounds pathetic, and I pity him. All this, and he’s probably _underinsured_ too… ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/29 "2001-10-23T03:16:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CrankyAsAnOldMan \* > \*\*All this, and he’s probably _underinsured_ too… \*\* The bastard! ---
**Author:** ![croaker67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@croaker67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/croaker67)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/30 "2001-10-23T03:31:18Z")
Hey Ginger. I don’t know how old you are, your background, or what you do for a living. Something inside said that this was wrong. You thought… then acted. CONGRATS on the call. You know guys can be “difficult”. As everyone has said, keep looking for the right ones. We are out there 😃 ---
**Author:** ![DarkWriter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ee59a6/32.png) [@DarkWriter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DarkWriter)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/31 "2001-10-23T03:38:09Z")
Bid on [this](http://home.houston.rr.com/surrenderownz/auction.htm) using his name. Sorry this happened to you, but glad that you found out sooner rather than later. Sheri ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/32 "2001-10-23T03:50:50Z")
Christ! **Ginger** , you flirted with me when I was but a wee newbie on this board (even sent me an e-mail [sub]which I still have[/sub]) and was totally bummed out about some female that had given me the royal screwing, and now here you are, in a shitty situation yourself. ☹ Damn, girl, you’re a major, major, babe, and any asshole who doesn’t worship the ground you walk on isn’t fit to be called human. My parents bitch at me constantly that I’m not married (Oh yeah, like I really wanted to be 32 [sub]almost 33[/sub], and still screwing my hand! :rolleyes: ), when the simple fact is that all the really cool women are too far away for me to even have a chance at dating 'em. Ya ever get to this part of the States, look me up, and I’ll do my best to show you a good time and make you forget about bozo. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/33 "2001-10-23T04:02:44Z")
Just wanted to chime in with a “me, too” for being sorry that this person was so astonishingly dishonest with your trust. So much for all Canadians being nice, eh? (Uh, **Tuck** , just a thought, but if you ever want a real woman, maybe you should stop talking about “screwing your hand”. Maybe institute a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy on that.:D) ---
**Author:** ![MannyL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba8739/32.png) [@MannyL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MannyL)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/34 "2001-10-23T04:14:35Z")
Ginger I’m sorry you were treated this way. ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/35 "2001-10-23T04:44:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by featherlou \* > \*\*Just wanted to chime in with a “me, too” for being sorry that this person was so astonishingly dishonest with your trust. So much for all Canadians being nice, eh? > (Uh, **Tuck** , just a thought, but if you ever want a real woman, maybe you should stop talking about “screwing your hand”. Maybe institute a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy on that.:D) \*\* What should I say? That I’ve got a blowup doll? (No, I don’t, damn it! I’d pay for it first!) And really, that’s more polite than how I usually put it. Besides, its not like you ladies don’t do something similar. (Or so I’m told. 😃 ) ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/36 "2001-10-23T04:51:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by panzermanpanzerman \* > \*\*…And all that because you found out he wasn’t REALLY a DJ? \ \*\* I’m afraid I don’t even know what this means. Thank you for your kind words, everyone. I honestly have not been overly upset about this, not sad, just mad. Really mad. Mad like if-he-was-in-front-of-me-now-I-would-step-on-his-neck mad. I started to tear up a bit when I read **My Gay Boyfriend** [sup]TM[/sup]'s and **rocking chair** ’s posts. I’m sure the anger will give way to sadness, yadda yadda, but right now I’m just pissed. ---
**Author:** ![AmbushBug](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ambushbug/32/4600_2.png) [@AmbushBug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AmbushBug)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/37 "2001-10-23T05:50:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GingerOfTheNorth \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by panzermanpanzerman \* > > \*\*…And all that because you found out he wasn’t REALLY a DJ? \ \*\* > > I’m afraid I don’t even know what this means. > \*\* [Helpful link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=94643) ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/38 "2001-10-23T06:37:00Z")
It was looking like fate. I’ve already had a background check so I’m clear. I’ve never impersonated a DJ. I have insurance. I’m half-Canadian so I already speak the language, eh. I’m all set to make my move when I see this… > [@](#): > > He’s three years older than he told me. What a numpty. The age issue. I’m nine years older than Ginger. I’d be a triple numpty. ---
**Author:** ![Wicked\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/2acd7d/32.png) [@Wicked\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wicked_Blue)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 7:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/39 "2001-10-23T07:15:06Z")
Ginger, that’s horrible. I’m sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2001, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962/40 "2001-10-23T15:05:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Little Nemo \* > \*\*It was looking like fate. I’ve already had a background check so I’m clear. I’ve never impersonated a DJ. I have insurance. I’m half-Canadian so I already speak the language, eh. I’m all set to make my move when I see this… > > > [@](#): > > > > He’s three years older than he told me. What a numpty. > > The age issue. I’m nine years older than Ginger. I’d be a triple numpty. \*\* It’s not that he’s eight years older than me, it’s that he told me he he was five years older than me. This just makes less and less sense the longer I think about it. So, it’s a new day. Was that line on the left? Who’s next? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-single-again/88962.md?page=3)