# She's stopped loving me **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 12, 2005, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370 "2005-01-12T10:08:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2005, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/21 "2005-01-14T14:18:31Z")
> [@MrFantsyPants](#): > > If she about-faces and tells you it was a mistake, and to forget about the whole episode, please, please, please make sure you have a good talk about what went on, how each of you felt (real feelings, not just excuses to not talk about it), and what you can change to improve the situation. Oh yes. If she wants to go on with this relationship, she had better show me that she’s ready to work really hard at it. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2005, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/22 "2005-01-14T16:29:18Z")
Do you find yourself thinking of [Outside the Wall](http://home.mchsi.com/~ttint/outsidethewall.html) and [Hey You](http://home.mchsi.com/~ttint/heyyou.html)? ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2005, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/23 "2005-01-14T21:54:19Z")
I know this is probably not what you want to hear right now, but somebody once said "Like Hecate, I go for the clean cut of the blade at crossroads. Still painful but usually best and sometimes very freeing, like cutting an umbilcal cord. Jagged, weeping wounds don’t heal as well, if at all, and they always leave a scar." ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 11:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/24 "2005-01-15T11:46:57Z")
Just adding to what’s already been said, **Priceguy** , but hang in there, mate - I had my heart broken in the messiest and most painful of all ways after a two year relationship in which I was hopelessly in love: ten years on, and I’ve been living with the glorious Missus Case for eight years now, and we have a beautiful three year old son. Sometimes you just gotta move on, no matter how much it hurts now: it _does_ get better, even though sometimes you almost wish it wouldn’t, because the dulling of the pain is a sign that it’s over, and you never look at relationships the same way again - doesn’t mean you won’t or can’t love again, just that any new love will have been tempered in the fire, and will be all the stronger for it: like the man said, “He jests at scars who never felt a wound.” Enough Shakespeare: consider yourself bought a virtual bourbon. May the worst of your future be the best of your past. Cheers. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/25 "2005-01-15T11:57:26Z")
Sorry to hear about that, **Priceguy**. I know how bad that hurts. Me? I’ve been dumped by girls I loved several times. Always made me feel like the world was shit and I was done for. But I always got over it. Happily married today, to my best friend. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2005, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/26 "2005-01-15T12:09:16Z")
It’s definite now: it’s all over. I’ve gone through the grieving process extremely quickly, and right now I actually feel pretty good. Kind of relieved, if that makes sense. Packing everything up, finding a new place and so on is still going to be a fucking hassle, but I think I can handle being single. Hey, I’ve always got the Dope. Thanks for all the kind words. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Roboto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/76d3ee/32.png) [@Mr.Roboto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Roboto)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2005, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/27 "2005-01-16T00:21:34Z")
Dude, totally sympathetic She could just be Super P.M S.ing Don’t stick your Foot in your Mouth and say something you’ll regret. Give her some space & time and your new Phone Number. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgonzola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e480ec/32.png) [@Gorgonzola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgonzola)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2005, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/28 "2005-01-16T00:43:34Z")
Also, if I may make a suggestion: Try not to think about being lonely, or think about what she might be doing at any given time, or all that morose stuff. Don’t decide you need someone else right now - relationships on the rebound suck. Instead, focus on your freedom, and on the little pleasures of being beholden to no one but yourself. Learn to enjoy being single. Make the most of your new free time. Enjoy life. Take up a new hobby. Sleep 'till noon on Saturday. If you’ve let yourself go a bit, now’s the time to work out, get back in shape, get your teeth fixed, or whatever it is you think you’re lacking that you want to fix up. You’ll be motivated. ---
**Author:** ![Sam\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Sam\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sam_Stone)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2005, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/29 "2005-01-16T00:45:11Z")
Oops. Posted the above from my wife’s account. \ ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2005, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/30 "2005-01-16T01:15:43Z")
> [@Sam Stone](#): > > Oops. Posted the above from my wife’s account. \ Good god. Super lurker. ---
**Author:** ![NicePete](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ee7513/32.png) [@NicePete](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NicePete)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2005, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370/31 "2005-01-16T04:57:57Z")
Anybody else read the thread title and hear George Jones singing it? I’m very sorry Priceguy. I know it isn’t much solace, but time heals all wounds. Think of it this way. There’s someone out there for you to love who loves you back just as much. Now you’re free to find her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/shes-stopped-loving-me/284370.md?page=1)