# Should a 27 year old virgin lose his virginity to an escort? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 15, 2014, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270 "2014-12-15T07:09:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/101 "2014-12-17T02:59:48Z")
As for “escorts,” a local Kiwi who goes by the monicker Stickman recently interviewed three of Bangkok’s most popular. This is his most recent interview of the type. You can find other ones too. The interview is at the beginning of his weekly column, and I’ll break the link due to it being a little NSFW: > **[Chit Chat With 3 Girls Of The Week | Stickman Bangkok](https://www.stickmanbangkok.com/weekly-column/2014/12/chit-chat-with-3-girls-of-the-week/)** > > The escort industry in Bangkok is booming with new agencies opening all the time. Some punters swear by escorts, claiming they offer a better experience while others say they are mutton dressed as lamb. In an effort to learn more about escorts and... ---
**Author:** ![breezman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@breezman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/breezman)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/102 "2014-12-17T03:01:30Z")
I’m a 39 year-old guy, and I was a virgin until I was 31. I say no, don’t do it. It’s not worth it. Rather than repeat what I’ve said in the past, I’ll link to my former post [former post.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11656647&postcount=26) That whole thread might be worth reading. It’s on the same topic, but the OP was female. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/103 "2014-12-17T03:07:40Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > There are plenty of attractive features to completely, truly, no-strings-attached sex that is catered to your personal kinks. No doubt. Better still when there’s no charge and your partner actually likes you. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/104 "2014-12-17T03:12:09Z")
> [@Peremensoe](#): > > No doubt. Better still when there’s no charge and your partner actually likes you. Well that’s bringing emotions into it. And emotions complicate. And complications are to be avoided. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/105 "2014-12-17T03:22:07Z")
“Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good.” – Woody Allen ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/106 "2014-12-17T05:01:36Z")
And just to mention, it’s not always men using these services. A small but not-insignificant number of ladies use them too. I know the mamasan of the long-running Annie’s Massage Parlor in Bangkok (trust me, this is a pure brothel, no massages on offer), and she’s told me some of her girls have regular farang (Western) lady customers. And while it’s rare, it’s not unheard-of for a farang lady to be a customer in the BJ bars. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/107 "2014-12-17T06:45:57Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > I haven’t read the whole thread, but wanted to explain my no vote quickly here. > > The way I see it, a 27-year-old virgin is not a virgin due to mechanics. It not like he’s had dozens of girlfriends and just kept missing the hole when they tried to have sex. In real life, beginners at sex mostly laugh over the awkward moments and figure out how to finish the act. Even if he’s really bad, he’s still getting laid the first time at least. > > No, the guy’s problem is going to be how he meets and relates to women. He’s either not trying or he’s doing something wrong. I think \*\*dracoi \*\*has hit the nail on the head. **TheBuilding** , we could spend all week telling you that yes, you should see a hooker, or no, you shouldn’t see a hooker. But if what you’re really wondering is “why can’t I get a girlfriend, and why don’t girls like me?”, then you might want to start a new thread where we can debate that instead. The answers you’ll get there will probably be more helpful. ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/108 "2014-12-17T14:37:11Z")
You certainly do not want to enlist the help of a prostitute to teach you how to kiss and have sex. That is a very bad idea. Prostitutes have germs and low moral fiber. Besides, what would your mother say? What you need is an inflatable woman. Inflatable women offer essentially all of the qualifications for teaching you the ins and outs of human sexuality that a real woman does, with none of the drawbacks (like nagging you into post-coital chit-chat). And, with material science now at its nadir, this is truly the golden age of inflatable doll acquisition! It is now virtually impossible to tell the difference between a real woman and a [modern inflatable woman](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41zyiy2oWwL.jpg). So much so, that you can take your inflatable companion out in public on dates on a regular basis without detection. And what a wonderful date she will make! She’ll be an incredibly good listener, with none of that blathering on about herself. Take her to a fine restaurant and simply order for her. Later, just tell the waiter she’s feeling a little “gassy” and to please box up her meal—that’s dinner for you tomorrow! She travels light. Fill her with helium and she can even participate in the Macy’s Day Parade. After a few evenings with your faux-amour, you won’t even be looking for anything with a pulse again. ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/109 "2014-12-17T14:53:41Z")
anti-nadir ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/110 "2014-12-17T14:53:45Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > You certainly do not want to enlist the help of a prostitute to teach you how to kiss and have sex. That is a very bad idea. Prostitutes have germs and low moral fiber. Besides, what would your mother say? > > What you need is an inflatable woman. Inflatable women offer essentially all of the qualifications for teaching you the ins and outs of human sexuality that a real woman does, with none of the drawbacks (like nagging you into post-coital chit-chat). > > And, with material science now at its nadir, this is truly the golden age of inflatable doll acquisition! It is now virtually impossible to tell the difference between a real woman and a [modern inflatable woman](http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41zyiy2oWwL.jpg). So much so, that you can take your inflatable companion out in public on dates on a regular basis without detection. > > And what a wonderful date she will make! She’ll be an incredibly good listener, with none of that blathering on about herself. Take her to a fine restaurant and simply order for her. Later, just tell the waiter she’s feeling a little “gassy” and to please box up her meal—that’s dinner for you tomorrow! She travels light. Fill her with helium and she can even participate in the Macy’s Day Parade. > > After a few evenings with your faux-amour, you won’t even be looking for anything with a pulse again. Of course, in Thailand you have to make sure you don’t get one like this (WARNING: VERY, VERY NSFW): [http://www.spicetoy.com/lovin-ladyboy-doll-inflatable-transexual-love-doll.html](http://www.spicetoy.com/lovin-ladyboy-doll-inflatable-transexual-love-doll.html) ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/111 "2014-12-17T15:07:02Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Of course, in Thailand you have to make sure you don’t get one like this (WARNING: VERY, VERY NSFW): > > [http://www.spicetoy.com/lovin-ladyboy-doll-inflatable-transexual-love-doll.html](http://www.spicetoy.com/lovin-ladyboy-doll-inflatable-transexual-love-doll.html) Hold on. I can’t put my finger on it, but one of those things is not like the other. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/112 "2014-12-17T15:16:59Z")
> [@Tibby or Not Tibby](#): > > What you need is an inflatable woman. Now that you mention it, it wouldn’t be a bad idea for the OP to watch the movie _Lars and the Real Girl_. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/113 "2014-12-17T16:39:38Z")
I must second **Thudlow** , in that **TheBuilding** could be better served by a conversation on the broader, more general subject of how can he overcome his obstacles to getting the sort of relationship he seeks. Bringing up the subject of using the services of sexworkers has the effect of turning the thread into a debate on sexwork itself. … **Siam Sam** , however, if in Thailand I’m sure quite a few farangs ARE looking for that one. “Ladyboy surprise penis”? > [@stui\_magpie](#): > > Had to? Or chose to? Even in some cases preferred to? Well, one HAS to pay prostitutes. Otherwise don’t hire them: doing a dine-and-dash is rude 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/114 "2014-12-17T18:01:26Z")
> [@JRDelirious](#): > > “Ladyboy surprise penis” Band name? ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2014, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270/115 "2014-12-17T18:30:46Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > No, the guy’s problem is going to be how he meets and relates to women. He’s either not trying or he’s doing something wrong. And being self-conscious about his lack of experience is certainly going to hinder him when he relates to women. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-a-27-year-old-virgin-lose-his-virginity-to-an-escort/707270.md?page=5)