# Should I be worried about my boss's intentions? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 16, 2012, 11:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174 "2012-12-16T11:00:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2012, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/21 "2012-12-16T21:06:27Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > There isn’t a chance in hell he’s not very attracted to you. None whatsoever. It’s classic behaviour. > > Whether he’s doing this because he is actively pursuing a campaign of sleeping with you or doing it because it’s just easy to have a little pretend affair at a distance I dunno, but this stuff is supremely unethical and unprofessional. This, and > [@astro](#): > > It’s wildly inappropriate behavior for a nominal superior to have with someone under their jurisdiction. It’s pig ignorant stupid for him to be engaging you in these conversations. > > I would worry less about the sexual angle than the overall behavioral aspect. He could be fired for putting this stuff out there, and yet that’s what he doing. His judgement sounds very, very poor which makes me wonder how he got a job overseeing others. You need to distance yourself from this guy as much as possible, if the hammer comes down he will scramble to save himself and take others down in the process. this. This guy is so unprofessional, so inappropriate. My response would be to record everything he says (types) from now on, and make every attempt to bring conversations back to work/business things. I would also make a point of mentioning his wife regularly; “So, how’s your wife today?” “Did your wife go with you?” “Has your wife seen that movie/read that book/whatever?” Make it excruciatingly clear that you have zero interest in being his bitch about his wife confidante. ETA: I think your requirement here is firm up boundaries with this guy, since he doesn’t seem to have any himself. ---
**Author:** ![half-elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@half-elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/half-elf)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2012, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/22 "2012-12-16T21:33:35Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > This, and > > I would also make a point of mentioning his wife regularly; “So, how’s your wife today?” “Did your wife go with you?” “Has your wife seen that movie/read that book/whatever?” Make it excruciatingly clear that you have zero interest in being his bitch about his wife confidante. I agree with a lot of the advice given so far, namely steering the conversation away from non work- related topics and even inventing a boyfriend. Perhaps you could also not be so available if he calls during non working hours or days (being on your way out for a date with said boyfriend would be a good way of bringing him up without being too obvious). I don’t know the nature of your work, but you could perhaps even be too busy when the conversation gets derailed during workday chats. ETA: Meaning that the phone is ringing (work-related) or that email you have been waiting for just arrived so you need to wrap up the conversation and process it. You might also not be very enthusiastic or interested in the articles etc he sends you (making yourself not as interesting a person as you originally might have seemed). I would not go for the mentioning the wife advice, as he will probably be inclined to construe it as you empathizing with his woes, and therefore more buddy or mistress material. ---
**Author:** ![cougar58](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@cougar58](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cougar58)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2012, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/23 "2012-12-16T22:25:59Z")
Anafiel, please tell us this isn’t you, this person is referring to: > **[Conflict at work](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675721)** > > I have had a ongoing conflict at work where my coworker wants to pick and choose the nice jobs and leaves me with the crap. This has been going on for a year now and the supervisors have had to address this many times, It got worse recently. My... ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/24 "2012-12-17T00:36:24Z")
Why would you think it is? What about either topic suggest they are about the same person? Seriously, that is some mean shit. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 12:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/25 "2012-12-17T00:41:02Z")
> [@Anafiel](#): > > Here’s the background: I just started a new job about 6 weeks ago. I telecommute, and my boss lives in another state, so we chat daily (sometimes multiple times a day) over Skype, always IM or audio and never video. My boss is 15 years older than me, and has been married for about 25 years. I’m in my early 30s, single, and he knows that I am single. > > A few times he has said or done things that have made me uncomfortable: > > [ul] > [li] He greeted me over Skype with “hey beautiful how’s it going?” once, and I immediately told him that it made me uncomfortable. To his credit, he never did it again.[/li] > [li] The first time we met in person, he took me out to dinner at my hotel. At some point in the conversation, he mentioned that his wife had a round face, which he found pleasing, and then he said that I also have a round face like his wife.[/li] > [li] He gossips to me about the personal details of his other employees. One time he told me a female co-worker had kicked her husband out of the house after a big fight for being lazy and not finding a job, only to take him back a few weeks later.[/li] > [li] He tends to praise his wife when she comes up in the small talk we sometimes make on our Skype calls, but he has also divulged some very unflattering personal information about her. For example, he told me that she is having a hard time going through menopause, and that she freaks out almost daily and calls him with crazy rantings and ravings. [/li] > [li] Occassionally he sends me emails with news articles he thinks I should read, or that he thinks I will find interesting. Most of the time he sends these over the weekend, and I find it weird that a married man would be thinking of me enough to send me non-work related emails over the weekend…that’s never happened to me at any of the 3 previous places I’ve worked.[/li] > [li] On one Skype call where we were discussing ways to destress, he mentioned that he had relaxed the previous evening by running 10 miles at a 6-minute pace (he seemed to really want me to know he could run a 6-minute mile), then taking a long relaxing bubble bath with a bottle of nice wine.[/li] > [li] He tried weed for the first time last week and, while he was high, he sent me several emails about the transcendent effects of weed on the mind. The next day, he spent twenty minutes on our daily Skype audio status mtg telling me what a transformational experience it was, and he tried to make me promise to do weed with him next time I fly out for an in-person business trip. When I protested, he said he wouldn’t have mentioned it if he hadn’t thought of me as an open-minded person. (Note: weed is currently LEGAL where he lives, so he’s not breaking any laws.)[/li] > [li] He also told me he really wants to get his wife to try weed so that she will calm the heck down and not freak out so often.[/li][/ul] > So…I’m not sure what I should make of any of this. I’ve never telecommuted before, so I’m not sure if the lack of face-to-face contact (or even video contact) makes some people feel like confessing details of their personal lives? I should mention that other than the issues outlined above, my boss is a very easy person to get along with, and he is very encouraging and praises the work I’ve done so far. I really want to like him as a person (platonically, of course) but I just can’t shake the nagging feeling that his feelings towards me are more than platonic. > > Is this guy hitting on me? Should I be worried? Anything I should do going forward to find out if he has unprofessional intentions towards me, or to protect myself? I really, really like my job, much better than any of my previous ones, and I really want things to work out at this new company. What should I do? No advice. Welcome to the boards, though, and congratulations on a first post that I’m sure will garner a lot replies. ---
**Author:** ![Simple\_Linctus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Simple\_Linctus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simple_Linctus)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/26 "2012-12-17T01:52:23Z")
I don’t know if this helps or not, but as a data point that’s pretty much how my dad behaves with his employees (and pretty much everyone else too) and he doesn’t mean anything by it, he’s just a friendly gossipy guy. So it’s not definitely inappropriate. But if it makes you feel uncomfortable I don’t see why you should have to put up with it, just let him know. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/27 "2012-12-17T02:22:10Z")
> [@Simple\_Linctus](#): > > I don’t know if this helps or not, but as a data point that’s pretty much how my dad behaves with his employees (and pretty much everyone else too) and he doesn’t mean anything by it, he’s just a friendly gossipy guy. So it’s not definitely inappropriate. > > But if it makes you feel uncomfortable I don’t see why you should have to put up with it, just let him know. Your dad casually talks about getting high and discusses intimate personal information about his wife or girlfriend with his employees? There’s gossip and there’s creepy. This is not just “gossip”. Does he own the company? ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/28 "2012-12-17T04:38:54Z")
Welcome to the Dope, \*\*Anafiel \*\*. When I was a manager, I never would have said almost any of that stuff to women who reported to me. Do you work for a big company with an HR department and on-line handbooks? If so, I’d refresh myself on what the harassment rules are. If he makes you uncomfortable, he is breaking them. Good for you for telling him to cut out the beautiful stuff, but that should have been a warning to restrain himself. It doesn’t seem like he has gone far enough to really bother you, but it is a good idea to document things now so if he ever does you have a record of a continuous problem, so he won’t be able to say “I never did this before, she’s taking one conversation wrong.” BTW, taking you out to dinner in a hotel is perfectly appropriate. Gossiping about your co-workers, not so much. At the moment my guess is that he is trying to get you to act interested. If you are lucky he’ll give up when you don’t. But, be prepared! ---
**Author:** ![Anafiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Anafiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anafiel)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/29 "2012-12-17T07:27:47Z")
> [@cougar58](#): > > Anafiel, please tell us this isn’t you, this person is referring to: > > [Conflict at work - In My Humble Opinion - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675721) Nope, definitely not me, since there is only one supervisor at work, and that’s my boss aka the CEO. ---
**Author:** ![Anafiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Anafiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anafiel)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/30 "2012-12-17T07:43:13Z")
To everyone: thank you very much for the replies! It looks like the consensus is to set boundaries and gently remind my boss that I’m uncomfortable when he steps out of bounds. One more detail: my boss is also the CEO. I made the mistake of telling him during our intro dinner that I had recently broken up with my boyfriend and was more interested in working on improving my health than dating for the next few months, so an invented boyfriend might sound a little fake to him, but I’ll keep that in mind. Some of you have suggested contacting HR or refreshing myself on the HR policies. Well, my company is a startup with only 16 employees, including myself and the boss, so there isn’t really any HR. And also, with only 16 employees, a request for the HR documentation might sound a little suspicious, and word would definitely get back to my boss the CEO. One of the things I should have mentioned in my original post is that I’m angling for an executive position at some point in the next year or two, which is one of the reasons why I don’t want to push him away too much. The main reason why we chat so much is because I’m slowly taking on more and more of his managerial duties, and I hope to prove to him that I can be a good second in command. The more he sees me as his friend and confidante (but not his shrink or lover!) the more likely he will be to listen when I press my case for an executive appointment…at least that’s the way I see it. I just don’t want him to fall for me along the way! ---
**Author:** ![Anafiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Anafiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anafiel)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/31 "2012-12-17T08:20:58Z")
> [@half-elf](#): > > I agree with a lot of the advice given so far, namely steering the conversation away from non work- related topics and even inventing a boyfriend. > Perhaps you could also not be so available if he calls during non working hours or days (being on your way out for a date with said boyfriend would be a good way of bringing him up without being too obvious). I don’t know the nature of your work, but you could perhaps even be too busy when the conversation gets derailed during workday chats. ETA: Meaning that the phone is ringing (work-related) or that email you have been waiting for just arrived so you need to wrap up the conversation and process it. > > You might also not be very enthusiastic or interested in the articles etc he sends you (making yourself not as interesting a person as you originally might have seemed). > I would not go for the mentioning the wife advice, as he will probably be inclined to construe it as you empathizing with his woes, and therefore more buddy or mistress material. Unfortunately, my default status needs to be “available” on Skype during normal business hours, because we work very closely together managing several projects, and when I’m not available he gets cross because things move very quickly at work. I can definitely not respond during off hours though, and I can stop responding to the off-topic emails. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/32 "2012-12-17T13:24:19Z")
> [@Simple\_Linctus](#): > > I don’t know if this helps or not, but as a data point that’s pretty much how my dad behaves with his employees (and pretty much everyone else too) and he doesn’t mean anything by it, he’s just a friendly gossipy guy. So it’s not definitely inappropriate.\ Just because your dad doesn’t mean anything by it doesn’t make it appropriate. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/33 "2012-12-17T14:09:05Z")
For the OP: the main question is are you feeling sexually harrassed by all of this or just weirded out? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/34 "2012-12-17T15:10:36Z")
> [@Saint\_Cad](#): > > For the OP: the main question is are you feeling sexually harrassed by all of this or just weirded out? Honest question (not snark) - does that make a difference? ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Cad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saint_cad/32/18907_2.png) [@Saint\_Cad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Cad)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/35 "2012-12-17T15:47:12Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Honest question (not snark) - does that make a difference? I would say yes because based on what the OP wrote about her future goals, she may realize that sexual favors may eventually need to be exchanged for promotion or quit or file a lawsuit. Also, if it eventually comes to a harrassment lawsuit she should be keeping records of everything. If he’s just weird, then how much strangeness is she willing to put up with and she can be assured she won’t have to make the spread legs vs. losing job/promotion choice in the future. ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/36 "2012-12-17T17:26:08Z")
> [@Anafiel](#): > > T > > One more detail: my boss is also the CEO. > > I made the mistake of telling him during our intro dinner that I had recently broken up with my boyfriend and was more interested in working on improving my health than dating for the next few months, so an invented boyfriend might sound a little fake to him, but I’ll keep that in mind. > > Some of you have suggested contacting HR or refreshing myself on the HR policies. Well, my company is a startup with only 16 employees, including myself and the boss, so there isn’t really any HR. And also, with only 16 employees, a request for the HR documentation might sound a little suspicious, and word would definitely get back to my boss the CEO. This is why I asked if it was a big company. 16 people scratch HR. > [@](#): > > One of the things I should have mentioned in my original post is that I’m angling for an executive position at some point in the next year or two, which is one of the reasons why I don’t want to push him away too much. The main reason why we chat so much is because I’m slowly taking on more and more of his managerial duties, and I hope to prove to him that I can be a good second in command. The more he sees me as his friend and confidante (but not his shrink or lover!) the more likely he will be to listen when I press my case for an executive appointment…at least that’s the way I see it. I just don’t want him to fall for me along the way! My advice is for you to document, just in case, and start networking outside, but hope he loses his semi-crush on you, and hope that his wife improves. Only you can determine if the situation is intolerable. If it starts getting that way, take a shot at sitting down with him and telling him upfront that you like working for him but he is making you uncomfortable. It might work. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/37 "2012-12-17T17:50:05Z")
> [@Anafiel](#): > > One more detail: my boss is also the CEO. > > I made the mistake of telling him during our intro dinner that I had recently broken up with my boyfriend and was more interested in working on improving my health than dating for the next few months, so an invented boyfriend might sound a little fake to him, but I’ll keep that in mind. > > Some of you have suggested contacting HR or refreshing myself on the HR policies. Well, my company is a startup with only 16 employees, including myself and the boss, so there isn’t really any HR. And also, with only 16 employees, a request for the HR documentation might sound a little suspicious, and word would definitely get back to my boss the CEO. > > One of the things I should have mentioned in my original post is that I’m angling for an executive position at some point in the next year or two, which is one of the reasons why I don’t want to push him away too much. The main reason why we chat so much is because I’m slowly taking on more and more of his managerial duties, and I hope to prove to him that I can be a good second in command. The more he sees me as his friend and confidante (but not his shrink or lover!) the more likely he will be to listen when I press my case for an executive appointment…at least that’s the way I see it. I just don’t want him to fall for me along the way! You are treading on dangerous ground. You started this job six weeks ago and you have a plan to become second in command of a startup company within a year or two while working remotely. You want to be the friend and confidante of the CEO, but you consider what he’s doing overstepping his bounds. It’s a very shaky tightrope to walk. You could easily end up out of a job by taking the wrong step. I’d say you should choose between taking a ‘just business’ attitude or dealing with a friendship with a guy who may have a thing for you. If your going to be that kind of friend you have to be able to talk to him about those things in some way. You can’t ignore those facets of his life if he insists on discussing them. Being a friend and confidante doesn’t mean being a lover, but it usually involves being a shrink. Now I do understand your approach. You get paid for ability, you get promoted for trust. There’s nothing better than having both those attributes. But you are being asked for a level of trust you may not be able to handle. Even if he gets the idea you’re not interested in him, are you prepared to hear about an affair he’ll have with someone else? Will that person also be an employee? And in the end, how does your reactionss to these things affect his view of you? Each circumstance is different. Good luck with whatever path you take. You won’t get the brass ring unless you reach for it. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/38 "2012-12-17T18:11:35Z")
> [@Anafiel](#): > > So…I’m not sure what I should make of any of this. I’ve never telecommuted before, so I’m not sure if the lack of face-to-face contact (or even video contact) makes some people feel like confessing details of their personal lives? No, no it doesn’t. I’ve worked mostly via telecommuting for the last 4+ years, and no one has ever discussed personal information with me. They tell me what I need to know about the project to do my job, and that’s it. If we talk on the phone, we might engage in small talk, but it’s the same kind of impersonal small talk you’d get at an office – the weather, holidays coming up, _maybe_ what we did over the weekend. No one mentions whether they got drunk/high last weekend, either. You need to enforce your boundaries every time he crosses them. You can do this nicely – hopefully he’s a civil enough guy to accept your gentle corrections without making a big deal of it. Whatever he says that makes you uncomfortable, just reply “I don’t think this is really an appropriate conversation for work. Let’s get back to Project XYZ.” If he pushes even after that, you’ll need to push back harder, which may get into territory of considering whether this is really a good place to work. Hopefully it is, so it won’t get to that point. Maybe he’s just a gregarious guy who needs to be shown where the boundaries are before he sees them. Also, if he’s attracted to you, that’s his problem to deal with, not yours. If he tries to make it yours, redirect back to work. ---
**Author:** ![Simple\_Linctus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Simple\_Linctus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simple_Linctus)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/39 "2012-12-17T18:19:27Z")
> [@astro](#): > > Your dad casually talks about getting high and discusses intimate personal information about his wife or girlfriend with his employees? There’s gossip and there’s creepy. This is not just “gossip”. > > Does he own the company? He is very anti-smoking (not any particular drug, just the act of smoking) so doesn’t take cannabis (although I keep trying to get him to have some) and wouldn’t speak badly about anyone, never mind my mum (who also works with him at their company, yes). What I was getting at was: > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Just because your dad doesn’t mean anything by it doesn’t make it appropriate. Absolutely, in fact all you need to know that this is inappropriate is that Anafiel is bothered by it, therefore it’s de facto inappropriate. All I’m saying is that this person may not be being inappropriate unintentionally, and whatever the case is they need to be told. Trust me, my dad wouldn’t mind. Although everyone loves my dad so I don’t think this problem would arise in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174/40 "2012-12-17T18:25:23Z")
> [@Saint\_Cad](#): > > …she may realize that sexual favors may eventually need to be exchanged for promotion… daFUQ?!? Are you serious? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-be-worried-about-my-bosss-intentions/644174.md?page=3)