# Should i contact my ex after 7 months apart? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 1, 2015, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391 "2015-06-01T22:12:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Rossiekerr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6de8d8/32.png) [@Rossiekerr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rossiekerr)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391/21 "2015-06-04T00:28:56Z")
UPDATE: I thought about this more and I now decided not to contact my ex.Deep down I knew that it wasn’t a good idea but I just wanted to hear other people take on it.I would like to say hi but I might open old wounds and start expecting for something more than that. I was crushed when he told me that he met someone new .It was one of the reasons why I decided to cut off contact because it was painful knowing that he was with another girl. We got back in touch months prior and we were planning to meet up but the plans kept falling through due to conflicting scedules.Then he lost his job and coudnt afford to come visit me.Then he got distance that’s when I find out he met someone else closer. cliffs -Op thought it over and decided not contact her ex because -We are still 4 hours apart and nothing has changed -I was crushed and jealous when he told me that he met someone new -I could open old wounds again and have old feelings to come back -I don’t know if I would handle it if he still with the same girl and going strong -I could set myself for more heartache I guess I was just feeling nostalgic and needed to be reminded why I should move on ---
**Author:** ![Melbourne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Melbourne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melbourne)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391/22 "2015-06-04T11:52:12Z")
> [@Barnes66](#): > > UPDATE: > I thought about this more and I now decided not to contact my ex. I was reading the thread, keeping an open mind, thinking about both sides of the argument, but I can see know that I was _lying to myself_. Because when we got to this post, I wasn’t open minded about it, I was happy and relieved. Right decision. More strength to your arm. Get well soon. New day, new life. Cheers. ---
**Author:** ![Rossiekerr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6de8d8/32.png) [@Rossiekerr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rossiekerr)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391/23 "2015-06-04T23:14:10Z")
> [@Melbourne](#): > > I was reading the thread, keeping an open mind, thinking about both sides of the argument, but I can see know that I was _lying to myself_. > > Because when we got to this post, I wasn’t open minded about it, I was happy and relieved. > > Right decision. More strength to your arm. Get well soon. New day, new life. > > Cheers. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2015, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391/24 "2015-06-04T23:22:01Z")
You made the right choice. Now forget that zero and find yourself a hero. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-contact-my-ex-after-7-months-apart/721391.md?page=1)