# Should I do it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039 "2013-02-01T15:52:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cake20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/22d042/32.png) [@cake20](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cake20)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/1 "2013-02-01T15:52:33Z")
My ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 11 months, and that’s only official. We were dating for almost a year and a half if you include the unofficial stuff. He broke up with me because “He didn’t feel the same way” which was fine, I understood where he was coming from. At first things were fine, I later found out he had started talking to a girl that he had once talked to and we got in an argument. Last night I called him and explained to him where I was coming from for being mad at him and I told him that I still cared about him. We texted for a few minutes after that and he said that he appreciated everything and that him and the girl would never be anything. Yesterday, a package came to my house, his valentines day present. It’s a really nice pair of cotton boxers of his favorite team. They’re too small for me, and I paid a good about of money on them, we’re fine now and it’s not awkward so I was thinking of explaining to him the situation and giving them to him anyways. I don’t know if I should, but I don’t want to throw them away. He used to always talk about how he never had enough boxers and I think it’d be a nice gesture. I want him back more then anything, but that’s not why I was thinking of doing this. I just really have no use for them, and I don’t want to waste them. Help? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/2 "2013-02-01T15:55:39Z")
Can’t you just return them and get your money back? But, no, I would not give them to him. Also, reported for forum change. ---
**Author:** ![cake20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/22d042/32.png) [@cake20](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cake20)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/3 "2013-02-01T15:58:08Z")
No I can’t it was an online thing and the closest store is in Michigan and I live in New England. ---
**Author:** ![spifflog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c5a1d2/32.png) [@spifflog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spifflog)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/4 "2013-02-01T16:00:17Z")
Yes. You should use descriptive titles for your threads. But only for official ones. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/5 "2013-02-01T16:02:14Z")
> [@cake20](#): > > No I can’t it was an online thing and the closest store is in Michigan and I live in New England. You can’t ship it back to them? That’s weird. Anyhow, it doesn’t really change my answer. Donate it to charity if you feel bad about chucking it into the trash. ---
**Author:** ![Great\_Antibob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47c2d/32.png) [@Great\_Antibob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Great_Antibob)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/6 "2013-02-01T16:15:11Z")
No, don’t give them to him. And, yes, you are thinking of doing this to get him back. In a bit of internet pop psychology, rather than ask your friends or family, you’ve signed up on a message board for the express purpose of asking a bunch of internet strangers. That’s usually a sign you want to validate a decision you’ve _already_ made rather than asking for actual advice (because your friends/family would probably tell you something you don’t want to hear). ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/7 "2013-02-01T16:45:02Z")
No, don’t give it back. He said he didn’t feel the same way! Don’t try to get him back, move on. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/8 "2013-02-01T16:50:14Z")
Apparently, he’s moving on. You should too. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/9 "2013-02-01T16:59:43Z")
> [@cake20](#): > > No I can’t it was an online thing and the closest store is in Michigan and I live in New England. Claim the product you ordered online was the incorrect size (for you). You should be able to return it without problems. As for the relationship, there isn’t any anymore. Move on. ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/10 "2013-02-01T19:44:10Z")
Moved to IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/11 "2013-02-01T20:01:01Z")
Don’t give them to him, but don’t donate or throw them away either. Put them to good use instead! If you have a ship, you could raise it as your pirate flag! Or better yet, get back out on the dating scene but only date guys who have the same favorite team… then you can re-gift it to him for a holiday or birthday! When your new guy is wearing them you can just imagine it’s your ex who you desperately still want to be with. Win-win situation! ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/12 "2013-02-01T20:27:08Z")
Go look at the second word in your OP:\*\* “ex”. \*\* You shouldn’t be giving him Valentine’s Day gifts, much less something as intimate as underwear. You shouldn’t be getting angry at him for talking to other girls. He’s your _ex_, not your current. Move on. ---
**Author:** ![RedSwinglineOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a9adbd/32.png) [@RedSwinglineOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedSwinglineOne)\ **Post date:** [February 1, 2013, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/13 "2013-02-01T22:35:52Z")
I think you should send them to the first Doper whose favorite team matches the item in question. RedSwinglineOne is a Raider fan. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/14 "2013-02-02T01:05:17Z")
If you give them to him the new girl he’s “talking to” will see them. Crumpled up on the floor. Think about that when you’re tempted to give them to him. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/15 "2013-02-02T01:17:25Z")
> [@cake20](#): > > My ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 11 months.\<_snip_\> He broke up with me\<_snip_\>I later found out he had started talking to a girl that he had once talked to\<_snip_\> > Yesterday, a package came to my house, his valentines day present. It’s a really nice pair of cotton boxers of his favorite team. > > They’re too small for me nm ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/16 "2013-02-02T01:24:02Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > nm You do that too much. Not fair to those of us who only want what we can’t have. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/17 "2013-02-02T01:24:40Z")
Hell no don’t give them to him! You been drinkin’? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/18 "2013-02-02T01:29:45Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > You do that too much. Not fair to those of us who only want what we can’t have. Ha. Ok, well I was actually just asking for clarification about how the shorts are too small for the OP but not for the OP’s boyfriend. Given everything else said in the OP, it reads as though this is a heterosexual couple but that one aspect gives me pause. I thought better of it, however, because, given the likelihood of it not being a gay couple, I didn’t want to inadvertently offend the OP (by unwittingly bringing up her size). But there you go…🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/19 "2013-02-02T01:31:29Z")
> [@cake20](#): > > I want him back more then anything, but that’s not why I was thinking of doing this. Yes. It is. You know, if you can’t be honest with yourself, at least be honest with a bunch of faceless random Strangers on the Internet. I think we deserve that much. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/20 "2013-02-02T01:37:22Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ha. Ok, well I was actually just asking for clarification about how the shorts are too small for the OP but not for the OP’s boyfriend. Given everything else said in the OP, it reads as though this is a heterosexual couple but that one aspect gives me pause. I thought better of it, however, because, given the likelihood of it not being a gay couple, I didn’t want to inadvertently offend the OP (by unwittingly bringing up her size). But there you go…🙂 Great, now it’s my fault if she’s inadvertently offended! > [@](#): > > Last edited by Ambivalid; Today at 05:31 PM. Man…you just can’t help yourself… > [@Enderw24](#): > > Yes. It is. > > You know, if you can’t be honest with yourself, at least be honest with a bunch of faceless random Strangers on the Internet. I think we deserve that much. For real. Show some respect. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039.md?page=2)