# Should I do it? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2013, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039 "2013-02-01T15:52:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/21 "2013-02-02T01:43:29Z")
Have you never been in relationship where you were the one less into it, than the boy? I’m guessing you have. Do not give him a Valentine’s gift. It is inappropriate, no matter how righteous you rationalize. Let him go, since he’s already gone. If you do end up back in a relationship, that would indicate that the both of you are just playing head games, using other people in the process, while you dance the codependency tango. You should flee from this like a refugee, not get drawn in like a magnet, to this sort of dysfunctional sink hole. Tread carefully. I am going to just wish you the very best of luck with whatever you choose. I have a feeling you’re going need it. ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/22 "2013-02-02T16:30:50Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ha. Ok, well I was actually just asking for clarification about how the shorts are too small for the OP but not for the OP’s boyfriend. Given everything else said in the OP, it reads as though this is a heterosexual couple but that one aspect gives me pause. I thought better of it, however, because, given the likelihood of it not being a gay couple, I didn’t want to inadvertently offend the OP (by unwittingly bringing up her size). But there you go…🙂 You _do_ know that you can delete the quote as easily as you delete your own comment, though, don’t you? Then people wouldn’t wonder so much about it. ---
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/23 "2013-02-02T19:12:24Z")
> [@cake20](#): > > I want him back more then anything, but that’s not why I was thinking of doing this. I just really have no use for them, and I don’t want to waste them. > Help? Use them for a dust rag. Problem solved. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/24 "2013-02-02T19:50:26Z")
On the size issue, I’m thinking she has some nice hips and he is a wispy fella. On the gifting, I wouldn’t. But, you’re in control of your actions. You _can_ also be in control of your emotions. Try it, you might be a little happier tomorrow. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2013, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/25 "2013-02-02T19:51:51Z")
On yeah, almost forgot… My Teams: Broncos Avalanche Thunder ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2013, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/26 "2013-02-03T02:54:51Z")
Guys who didn’t get YOU a valentine gift don’t deserve a valentine gift from you. 🙂 If you can’t return them, I would sell them on Craigslist or eBay. Yes, there are people out there who will buy underwear of dubious origin from strangers on the internet. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2013, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/27 "2013-02-03T02:58:59Z")
Cotton boxers? how expensive could the possibly be? ---
**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2013, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/28 "2013-02-03T03:00:19Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#): > > Yes, there are people out there who will buy underwear of dubious origin from strangers on the internet. [Nobody buy the blue ones!](http://www.hrwiki.org/wiki/Bug_In_Mouth_Disease) ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2013, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039/29 "2013-02-03T04:02:15Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ha. Ok, well I was actually just asking for clarification about how the shorts are too small for the OP but not for the OP’s boyfriend. Given everything else said in the OP, it reads as though this is a heterosexual couple but that one aspect gives me pause. I thought better of it, however, because, given the likelihood of it not being a gay couple, I didn’t want to inadvertently offend the OP (by unwittingly bringing up her size). But there you go…🙂 Women are a lot more curvy than men. Even when I was in great athletic shape, **Suburban Plankton** ’s boxers didn’t fit me. Too narrow in the hips. And of course, not all men date women smaller than them in the hips, waist and/or thigh. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-do-it/649039.md?page=1)