# Should I forgive these two bullies or not? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 24, 2018, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411 "2018-01-24T21:38:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dr.Crap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.crap/32/3131_2.png) [@Dr.Crap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Crap)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/21 "2018-01-27T03:59:57Z")
No, you should steal their livestock. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/22 "2018-01-27T04:23:53Z")
That’s a random and oddly specific taunt from two unrelated bullying incidents. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/23 "2018-01-27T04:31:18Z")
I almost wrote “You should read **The Tale of Despereaux** and take its advice.” But I have a better plan. You should read **The Count of Monte Cristo** and take its advice. Whether you read all the way to the end before acting will determine the quality of your outcome. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/24 "2018-01-27T06:04:37Z")
> [@Dr.Crap](#): > > No, you should steal their livestock. Especially their sheep. ---
**Author:** ![BloodStalk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee59a6/32.png) [@BloodStalk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BloodStalk)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/25 "2018-01-27T11:26:15Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > That’s a random and oddly specific taunt from two unrelated bullying incidents. No, the incidents are the same. These guys are from the same group. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/26 "2018-01-27T12:03:53Z")
How is your brother handling all this? ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/27 "2018-01-27T12:14:08Z")
> [@BloodStalk](#): > > I mean, they did apologize… This is why you keep getting targeted. You have no moral obligation to give people third and fourth chances to stop being a dick to you. ---
**Author:** ![mr\_horsepower](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@mr\_horsepower](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mr_horsepower)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/28 "2018-01-27T12:58:28Z")
if the first one straight up stole money from you, that’s the only reason you need for him to be dead to you. fuck thieves. the second person is messing with you because you’ve already made it known you’re sensitive to the subject. you all are young. people act like that sometimes. the quicker you laugh with them, the quicker it stops. the more you seem upset by it, the more it seems like you might actually be banging your brother. ---
**Author:** ![BloodStalk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee59a6/32.png) [@BloodStalk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BloodStalk)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/29 "2018-01-27T17:49:52Z")
No. Other people said I have the right to be upset and they wouldn’t have found it funny either. ---
**Author:** ![BloodStalk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee59a6/32.png) [@BloodStalk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BloodStalk)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/30 "2018-01-27T17:50:52Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > How is your brother handling all this? He told he’s let it go, but I was more around these two, which is why it effects me more. ---
**Author:** ![Merneith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Merneith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merneith)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/31 "2018-01-27T18:05:00Z")
One of the real advantages of uni is that you no longer have to interact with jerks from high school. Forgive them, forget them, and just move on. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2018, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/32 "2018-01-27T22:39:07Z")
> [@BloodStalk](#): > > He told he’s let it go, but I was more around these two, which is why it effects me more. You should follow your brother’s example. Seriously, if he can let it go, so can you. That’s what mature adults do. ---
**Author:** ![SigMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@SigMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SigMan)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2018, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/33 "2018-01-28T04:32:55Z")
> [@Typo\_Negative](#): > > When you forgive someone, it’s not letting _them_ off the hook, it’s letting _yourself_ off the hook. > > You cannot be free of it till you forgive. That is too true. You can suffer or you can have a life. All up to you. You want to hold resentment? By all means go for it. But you don’t have to forgive, just don’t worry about it. You are what you do, that’s your life. I have a friend who’s just a cheap ass. I like him though and he’s real friend besides this fact. I did work for him and he paid me crap. What made up was that when I got in a jam he was there. He put me down a lot before (when we were younger) but the more he knew me the more he appreciated me. It was a weird friendship but now that he’s in bad health I can’t help but feel bad for him. ---
**Author:** ![BloodStalk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee59a6/32.png) [@BloodStalk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BloodStalk)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2018, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/34 "2018-01-29T05:00:07Z")
> [@mr\_horsepower](#): > > if the first one straight up stole money from you, that’s the only reason you need for him to be dead to you. fuck thieves. > > the second person is messing with you because you’ve already made it known you’re sensitive to the subject. > > you all are young. people act like that sometimes. > > the quicker you laugh with them, the quicker it stops. > > the more you seem upset by it, the more it seems like you might actually be banging your brother. NO, the second guy was a jerk. Don’t use the ‘just joking’ BS. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2018, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/35 "2018-01-29T05:05:25Z")
If they are acting like that at their age then they won’t change. They are bullies and always will be. Don’t waste anymore time thinking about them. ---
**Author:** ![mr\_horsepower](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@mr\_horsepower](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mr_horsepower)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2018, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411/36 "2018-01-29T14:25:20Z")
> [@BloodStalk](#): > > NO, the second guy was a jerk. Don’t use the ‘just joking’ BS. nm [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-forgive-these-two-bullies-or-not/807411.md?page=1)