# Should I go to this BDSM meeting? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 3, 2003, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085 "2003-04-03T00:23:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![nogginhead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5e9695/32.png) [@nogginhead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nogginhead)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/41 "2003-04-09T18:14:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Pammipoo \* > \*\*Hijack- > > You’re just following me around from thread to thread, collecting information, aren’t you? 🙂 When we finally get to this Boston dopefest, you’ll see me, and be like, “Oh _you’re_ the one who loves giving blowjobs, always swallows, and has had a history of BDSM…AND you’re single…hmm…” > I should really learn to be less revealing in these threads… > > \*\* He’s not going to be the only one from now on! ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/42 "2003-04-09T18:48:48Z")
Great, I’ve just found another thing I have to hunt down online and get up the guts to go do. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/43 "2003-04-09T20:46:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mr. Matthew \* > \*\*\*\*R\*\*isk **A** ware **C** onsensual **K** ink. It’s another feel good, aren’t I fuzzy phrase. Possibly with sugarplums as well. > > \*\* Oh, Lord. Yeah, that really makes ME hot. :rolleyes: I mean I’m all for avoiding broken bones, real rape, or acting out your fantasy about cutting off your penis and having it fed to you and REALLY regretting it the next morning, but why do people have to try to wrap up their complicated exeriecnes in cutise little slogans? ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/44 "2003-04-09T20:48:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\* Chicken! 😛 \*\* Oooooh! Vebal abuse! Now call me worthless and weak 😃 ! ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/45 "2003-04-09T20:50:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by guitarmax\_99 \* > \*\* > I have always thought that people into kinkiness were cool. Personally I think there is a direct correlation between intelligence/imagination and kinkiness. > > \*\* 🙂 And I think you’re remakablly perceptive and insightful.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/46 "2003-04-09T20:57:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Munch \* > \*\*I gotta ask - is this group called “Munch”? Because that’s what the Indianapolis group is. Nothing like going through the independent newspaper’s activity listings, seeing your username from the SDMB alongside an anagram for SDMB. That _really_ took me by suprise! \*\* It’s not the name of the group but it’s apparently what these groups call their meeting (they do here). I would think it would be more appropriate for a cunningligus society, but what do I know? So my friend Jeff was talking about coming with me. He has his own kinks, but not this one. But he’s a very curious person and has a tendency to innoucously ask very direct, personal questions other people just wonder about. So that could make this even more entertaining. (On the other hand I might be too embarrassed to pick anybody up in front of him.) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/47 "2003-04-10T01:48:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Oooooh! Vebal abuse! Now call me worthless and weak 😃 ! \*\* Hey! I resent that! I’ve never abused a vebal, in my life. And, no. No more abuse for you until you’ve earned it. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/48 "2003-04-10T01:52:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nogginhead \* > \*\*He’s not going to be the only one from now on! \*\* [highjack]Hey! Another Bostonian. You should come to the Boston Mini-Dope, and meet her (and the rest of us). There’s a thread in MPSIMS. [/highjack] ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/49 "2003-04-10T02:04:52Z")
Mr. Matthew: Has anyone actually used the hanky code since 1985? I’ve been around the block, and I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone actually using it, barring the occasional “costume”-type effect. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/50 "2003-04-10T05:36:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*And, no. No more abuse for you until you’ve earned it. \*\* :o Yes, Sir. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Pammipoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/87869e/32.png) [@Pammipoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pammipoo)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/51 "2003-04-10T07:39:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*[highjack]Hey! Another Bostonian. You should come to the Boston Mini-Dope, and meet her (and the rest of us). There’s a thread in MPSIMS. [/highjack] \*\* Great…I’ve become the figurehead for the MiniDope…“Meet Pammipoo! (And, a bunch of other people too…)” I should sign autographs 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/52 "2003-04-10T11:06:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Pammipoo \* > \*\*Great…I’ve become the figurehead for the MiniDope…“Meet Pammipoo! (And, a bunch of other people too…)” I should sign autographs 🙂 \*\* Well, hell, he wasn’t going to show up to meet me. You’re lucky guys aren’t flying in from all over the country to meet you, after that post of yours. Can I get a free autograph for setting up the signing? ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/53 "2003-04-10T12:10:25Z")
Hey! How come someone’s getting hit on in my sex thread and it’s not me ☹ ? ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/54 "2003-04-10T14:19:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Hey! How come someone’s getting hit on in my sex thread and it’s not me ☹ ? \*\* How you doin’? 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![nogginhead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5e9695/32.png) [@nogginhead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nogginhead)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/55 "2003-04-10T15:56:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*[highjack]Hey! Another Bostonian. You should come to the Boston Mini-Dope, and meet her (and the rest of us). There’s a thread in MPSIMS. [/highjack] \*\* Ooh, now that would be scary-- I lose my temper too often around here. Plus my wife might object to my meeting women who actually share my interests and tastes. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/56 "2003-04-10T16:31:16Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Hey! How come someone’s getting hit on in my sex thread and it’s not me ☹ ? \*\* Ummm…because we thought you wanted to be whipped, not hit (on)? Because you’re worthless and weak? Because you’re too much of a wuss to go meet a bunch of chocolate chips in a mall? 😉 Just a little abuse to make you feel better. I _think_ that actually makes sense. It sure doesn’t look like it, though. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/57 "2003-04-10T16:38:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by nogginhead \* > \*\*Ooh, now that would be scary-- I lose my temper too often around here. Plus my wife might object to my meeting women who actually share my interests and tastes. \*\* Not sure what to make of that. But, unless, you’ve had a flame war with one of the other locals, I don’t see the problem. As long as you’re nice to them/us, in person. And, you don’t want the advice of a twice-divorced man on marriage issues. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/58 "2003-04-10T20:21:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Davebear \* > \*\*Ummm…because we thought you wanted to be whipped, not hit (on)? > \*\* They’re not mutually exclusive 🙂 . ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/59 "2003-04-10T20:23:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lost4life \* > \*\*How you doin’? 🆒 \*\* That’s better. 🙂 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![missbunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/76d3ee/32.png) [@missbunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missbunny)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/60 "2003-04-10T21:29:02Z")
betenoir, I sent you an email to the address given in your profile. If not interested, that’s fine, no problem, no need to answer. Just want to make sure I’m using your correct address. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085.md?page=4)