# Should I go to this BDSM meeting? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 3, 2003, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085 "2003-04-03T00:23:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/61 "2003-04-10T23:10:41Z")
Yup, right address, thanks, bunny! ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/62 "2003-04-11T11:36:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*They’re not mutually exclusive 🙂 . \*\* You wouldn’t happen to be in _Southern_ NH, would you? Like, close enough to attend the Mini-Dope? ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/63 "2003-04-12T04:45:55Z")
Go to a Dopefest!! Hey I was just talking about S&M meetings here, I’m not sure I want to get mixed up with a bunch of degenerates! (When is it again?) ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/64 "2003-04-12T21:08:47Z")
Well? Doesn’t anybody want to know how it went? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/65 "2003-04-12T21:25:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by moi \* > \*\*I’ve never been brave enough to go to a specifically kink gathering or club, so I’m awaiting your report, betenoir, with bated breath. 😃 \*\* :eek: Please. I’ve been holding this breath in for a week now. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/66 "2003-04-13T03:07:28Z")
Is this some S&M thing, making us wait like this? ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/67 "2003-04-13T06:04:48Z")
Tell us. Now. Or you won’t be punished. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/68 "2003-04-13T13:45:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tristan \* > \*\*Tell us. Now. > > Or you won’t be punished. \*\* :eek: I have to go to work in a minute, but I guess I better say something. Ummm…I didn’t have any trouble finding them, right after a walked in, a guy said, “You look confused, you’re probably supposed to be over here.” What can I tell you. About half a dozen perfectly normal folks (with the possible exeception on the chick with the naked woman tatoo, I was the least normal looking one there) talking about good “play” places in the area, whether it’s love then weird sex, or weid sex then love, good places to buy leather whips (the opinion was expressed that a venian blind works just as well and is cheaper), and gossiping about old boyfriends etc. (like the jerk who tied her up and didn’t come back.) Nobody threw any cheesy slogans at me, thankfully. Somebody took exeption to my use of the word “pervert” but I stood my ground. It was a little weird hearing a woman who looks like she could be a friend of my mother’s talking about golden showers, but…I had fun 🙂 . And…and…a dom talked to me :eek: _swoon_ More later, I guess… ---
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/69 "2003-04-13T13:58:17Z")
You did well. ---
**Author:** ![Carcosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b3f665/32.png) [@Carcosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carcosa)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2003, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/70 "2003-04-13T14:25:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\* … > Somebody took exeption to my use of the word “pervert” but I stood my ground. > \*\* That’s odd. Within my own circles referring to someone as a “perv” is fairly standard and I’ve never taken offense to the word. Of course, it’s a difficult charge to refute if you’re in the middle of spanking a grown woman who is handcuffed to the coffee table.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/71 "2003-04-14T14:28:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Carcosa \* > \*\*That’s odd. Within my own circles referring to someone as a “perv” is fairly standard and I’ve never taken offense to the word. Of course, it’s a difficult charge to refute if you’re in the middle of spanking a grown woman who is handcuffed to the coffee table.🙂 \*\* Well you have to understand…this was from the “It’s important we’re accepted by the normals” (we call y’all vanillas, btw:p )“This is a Lifestyle Choice and my Lifestyle Choice must be taken seriously” corner of the table. There’s one at every meeting. Fortunatly everybody else laughed. ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/72 "2003-04-14T16:28:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > \*\*Go to a Dopefest!! Hey I was just talking about S&M meetings here, I’m not sure I want to get mixed up with a bunch of degenerates! (When is it again?) \*\* We’re not mixed up! We’re just a little confused. [Date: Friday, May 2.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=170374&highlight=boston+and+minidope%2A) ---
**Author:** ![Davebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@Davebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Davebear)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085/73 "2003-04-14T16:32:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by betenoir \* > **And…and…a dom talked to me :eek: _swoon_** That’s it. Play hard to get. :rolleyes: 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-go-to-this-bdsm-meeting/166085.md?page=3)