# Should I just ignore this and be kind? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 14, 2012, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140 "2012-06-14T14:34:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/21 "2012-06-14T15:32:25Z")
> [@stpauler](#): > > Also, I’d make all future meetings with this friend outside of both of your domiciles. This would be my solution as well. But I’m curious… why were you poking around between the cheese and the lettuce in the first place? Do you make a point of dissecting any sandwiches offered to you in the presence of your host? Or were you specifically checking for boogers given the state of the apartment? ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/22 "2012-06-14T15:35:40Z")
> [@Wheelz](#): > > This would be my solution as well. > > But I’m curious… why were you poking around between the cheese and the lettuce in the first place? Do you make a point of dissecting any sandwiches offered to you in the presence of your host? Or were you specifically checking for boogers given the state of the apartment? Normally I’d never notice, but it was haphazardly assembled and I saw just one… but, I suspect, there might have been more. When I saw it, I said I had a stomach ache and she proceeded to eat it. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/23 "2012-06-14T15:36:56Z")
And you thought those were sprinkles on your ice cream. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/24 "2012-06-14T15:37:53Z")
You’re using ‘‘dried boogers’’ as a metaphor for something else, right? Ants? Cat hair? Please tell me yes. ---
**Author:** ![blondebear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blondebear/32/1022_2.png) [@blondebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blondebear)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/25 "2012-06-14T15:40:13Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > You two had planned on watching movies… Booger Nights, perhaps? ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/26 "2012-06-14T15:41:35Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > You’re using ‘‘dried boogers’’ as a metaphor for something else, right? > > Ants? Cat hair? Please tell me yes. I’m afraid not. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/27 "2012-06-14T15:45:49Z")
> [@sparky\_1](#): > > How the hell does someone get dried snot everywhere? Well, duh! It doesn’t start out dried. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/28 "2012-06-14T15:58:16Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > She doesn’t have many friends; I wonder why. This is not normal behavior. Putting bodily waste on furniture or food is not a sign of a healthy personality. Please help her. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/29 "2012-06-14T16:00:19Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > I wonder why. > > This is not normal behavior. Putting bodily waste on furniture or food is not a sign of a healthy personality. Please help her. But how can I help? We’ve only known each other for a short time… wouldn’t it be inappropriate for me to question how she lives her life? ☹ I like her, I just don’t know what I would accomplish by saying anything (besides possibly a hateful glare) and I don’t even know what to say. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/30 "2012-06-14T16:02:11Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > I wonder why. > > This is not normal behavior. Putting bodily waste on furniture or food is not a sign of a healthy personality. Please help her. Yes, this is the type of thing where you’re _not_ doing her a favor by keeping politely silent. Part of friendship is having people who can be honest with you. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/31 "2012-06-14T16:04:42Z")
How about “This is an astonishing collection of boogers! You know this is kind of gross, right? Have you always done this or do you just really hate the furniture?”. I hadn’t realized you’d known her only a short time. I had imagined she’d been a normal seeming coworker for some time and this just happened to be the first visit to her house. I would have run screaming about the boogers everywhere, let alone on the sandwich. :: shudders :: ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/32 "2012-06-14T16:06:35Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > How about “This is an astonishing collection of boogers! You know this is kind of gross, right? Have you always done this or do you just really hate the furniture?”. I laughed aloud! Oh but how harsh! ---
**Author:** ![Double\_Foolscap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/85e7bf/32.png) [@Double\_Foolscap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Double_Foolscap)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/33 "2012-06-14T16:12:58Z")
I was hoping that this was one of **Skald** ’s hypothetical situations. Tell her. Explain that the reason that you’re telling her is that you _want_ to hang out, but it’s a weird situation. ---
**Author:** ![sparky\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@sparky\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sparky_1)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/34 "2012-06-14T16:15:29Z")
Or just deposit your own boogers. Maybe make little booger people out of them and arrange them in interesting positions. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/35 "2012-06-14T16:25:39Z")
Shag her anyway. Then wash. Often. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/36 "2012-06-14T16:26:01Z")
You say, “Oh, my! It looks like something’s gotten into this sandwich! Never you mind, it happens. I don’t mind making myself another if you don’t mind!” With a smile. Then you gauge her reaction. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/37 "2012-06-14T16:27:24Z")
> [@Cicero](#): > > Shag her anyway. Then wash. Often. Haha, uhhh, I’m not interested in having sex with her. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/38 "2012-06-14T16:29:16Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > You say, > > “Oh, my! It looks like something’s gotten into this sandwich! Never you mind, it happens. I don’t mind making myself another if you don’t mind!” > > With a smile. Then you gauge her reaction. I suppose that might work, if she ever offers me another one. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/39 "2012-06-14T16:49:25Z")
You know what’s really bothering me about this scenario? That booger was deliberately placed. _Carefully_ placed, between the cheese and lettuce. No way does it just fall in there, especially considering they were everywhere. Which means she was hoping you’d not notice it and eat it. Which means she wants you to eat her leavings. Is she casting a love spell on you? Did you wrong her somehow? ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/40 "2012-06-14T16:56:12Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > You know what’s really bothering me about this scenario? That booger was deliberately placed. _Carefully_ placed, between the cheese and lettuce. No way does it just fall in there, especially considering they were everywhere. Which means she was hoping you’d not notice it and eat it. Which means she wants you to eat her leavings. Is she casting a love spell on you? Did you wrong her somehow? I don’t remember wronging her… and she seems fairly heterosexual (she regaled me with the tale of a man who she loved but never returned her affections). However. I have a theory… I’m not sure that she places them on surfaces but instead, they just fall out of her nose. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140.md?page=3)