# Should I just ignore this and be kind? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 14, 2012, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140 "2012-06-14T14:34:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/61 "2012-06-14T19:00:35Z")
Oh, I’d forgotten about that! That thread was CLASSIC. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/62 "2012-06-14T19:02:41Z")
> [@stpauler](#): > > This thread reminds me of the guest towel thread (that I think has been deleted, not sure). The poster’s mom would have friends over and one of them was morbidly obese and would use a towel to wipe herself in lieu of toilet paper. The guest would then fold the towel back up and put it back in the linen cabinet. They, uh… never said anything to her? ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/63 "2012-06-14T19:03:54Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > She said, “Are you judging me?” > > I said no no, of course not, and before I could finish my sentence, she laid into me by saying I was just like every other rude person out there, I had no right to judge her, and she apparently hopes I die alone somewhere. She stormed out of the restaurant and left me with the bill. I’m laughing at this because people just suck, don’t they? If you see her again, tell her to go flick herself. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/64 "2012-06-14T19:04:16Z")
[Why would a person do this?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/65 "2012-06-14T19:05:25Z")
> [@stpauler](#): > > The poster’s mom would have friends over and one of them was morbidly obese and would use a towel to wipe herself in lieu of toilet paper. The guest would then fold the towel back up and put it back in the linen cabinet. So let me get this straight: because this person was so obese, they couldn’t use toilet paper? They instead had to use towels to wipe their ass? I don’t follow…😕 ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/66 "2012-06-14T19:06:40Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I’m laughing at this because people just suck, don’t they? If you see her again, tell her to go flick herself. It was very sucky. On the upside, the waiter said I didn’t have to pay for her meal! Silver linings, folks. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/67 "2012-06-14T19:06:52Z")
From the other thread: > [@](#): > > My mother-in-law has several friends that she gets together with from time to time…sometimes at her house, sometimes at one of the other friends’ houses. > > Make a long story short…all of these friends have begun to realize that, when visiting, whenever friend “Kathy” uses the bathroom she uses the terrycloth bath towels to wipe (#2) rather than the t.p. and then neatly puts them back in order to (one can only assume) hide the “evidence”. > > They are all too embarassed to call her on it, and no one can figure out why on earth someone would do such a thing. She’s a very heavy woman (they all are in fact) and there has been speculation that possibly she can’t reach the area needing wiping with a wad of t.p., and must therefore use something larger that she can manipulate more easily. > > But still, you know somebody’s going to eventually find their neatly folded bath towels soiled with fecal matter and eventually, if you visit enough, they’ll put 2 and 2 together and know it’s you. So what could possibly be the thought process that leads one to believe this is a reasonable thing to do? I DON’T KNOW WHY ---
**Author:** ![stpauler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@stpauler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stpauler)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/68 "2012-06-14T19:07:25Z")
> [@DCnDC](#): > > [Why would a person do this?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523) Awesome find! > [@Ambivalid](#): > > So let me get this straight: because this person was so obese, they couldn’t use toilet paper? They instead had to use towels to wipe their ass? I don’t follow…😕 Here’s the relevent bit: > [@](#): > > They are all too embarassed to call her on it, and no one can figure out why on earth someone would do such a thing. \*\*She’s a very heavy woman (they all are in fact) and there has been speculation that possibly she can’t reach the area needing wiping with a wad of t.p., \*\*and must therefore use something larger that she can manipulate more easily. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/69 "2012-06-14T19:07:45Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > So let me get this straight: because this person was so obese, they couldn’t use toilet paper? They instead had to use towels to wipe their ass? I don’t follow…😕 I’ve heard of such things before; obese people using the likes of a sponge on a stick or hand rag. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/70 "2012-06-14T19:09:06Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > I’ve heard of such things before; obese people using the likes of a sponge on a stick or hand rag. Not other people’s towels! ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/71 "2012-06-14T19:12:09Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > I’ve heard of such things before; obese people using the likes of a sponge on a stick or hand rag. To wipe their asses? Or to clean their bodies? Because I’ve heard of such things for the latter use; not the former though. How does obesity negatively impact one’s ability to wipe away the excess fecal matter from one’s anal region with toilet paper, but not with a towel? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/72 "2012-06-14T19:12:19Z")
I must admit, **TinyInfinity** I’m a little sorry I encouraged you to speak up. But, your description seems to indicate a level of crazy that it probabaly better to stay far away from. My brain is still reeling in horror about the house covered in boogers, so I’m \*really not \*going to read the thread about the towels. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/73 "2012-06-14T19:16:08Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > To wipe their asses? Or to clean their bodies? Because I’ve heard of such things for the latter use; not the former though. How does obesity negatively impact one’s ability to wipe away the excess fecal matter from one’s anal region with toilet paper, but not with a towel? Ah yes! I’ve watched documentaries on such things. Their bodies can get to be so wide and cumbersome that they cannot simply reach to wipe as thinner people can. So they use sponges on sticks or, if they have an aid, the aid wipes for them. If they don’t do the aforementioned things (including also bathing after going to the bathroom) then horrifying circumstances may arise. ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/74 "2012-06-14T19:17:50Z")
> [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](#): > > I must admit, **TinyInfinity** I’m a little sorry I encouraged you to speak up. But, your description seems to indicate a level of crazy that it probabaly better to stay far away from. My brain is still reeling in horror about the house covered in boogers, so I’m \*really not \*going to read the thread about the towels. Oh, don’t be sorry. I was scared and, yes, embarrassed for the scene that was caused but I’m naturally meek and quiet. If no one ever encouraged me to speak on my own behalf, I’d be burdened to the nth degree! People here have been so kind. I’m going to tell my other friends who also have problems to come here and get advice! ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/75 "2012-06-14T19:18:23Z")
> [@DCnDC](#): > > [Why would a person do this?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=220523) Holy shit, Batman! ---
**Author:** ![TinyInfinity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/34f0e0/32.png) [@TinyInfinity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TinyInfinity)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/76 "2012-06-14T19:18:53Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Not other people’s towels! HAHA. Yes, right, that IS the horrible part. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/77 "2012-06-14T19:19:36Z")
The thing is, you DO have every right to judge her. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/78 "2012-06-14T19:20:53Z")
> [@TinyInfinity](#): > > Ah yes! I’ve watched documentaries on such things. Their bodies can get to be so wide and cumbersome that they cannot simply reach to wipe as thinner people can. So they use sponges on sticks or, if they have an aid, the aid wipes for them. If they don’t do the aforementioned things (including also bathing after going to the bathroom) then horrifying circumstances may arise. [“I wash myself with a rag on a stick.”](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSJQEl5vcAo) ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/79 "2012-06-14T19:28:05Z")
Wow, what a piece of work she is. I think you’re lucky to be rid of her now, before you got too deep into a friendship with her. She sounds like nothing but trouble. But, seriously, she thinks you are rude and wonders why she has no friends? This makes me think this situation has happened before. Really, how clueless can you be to think it’s ok to have boogers all over the place and people are just going to accept it? She is going to be very lonely forever, I’m afraid. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2012, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140/80 "2012-06-14T19:30:08Z")
Seriously, when I saw the thread title of course my kneejerk reaction was “When in doubt, always be kind!” Sometimes kindness isn’t “eat the booger sandwich” though. HAHAHAH BOOGER SANDWICH oh god you guys I can’t stop. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-just-ignore-this-and-be-kind/625140.md?page=5)