# Should I not get involved with this woman? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2013, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484 "2013-05-27T20:01:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/61 "2013-05-28T00:19:14Z")
> [@jtgain](#): > > I may very well have emotional hangups. šŸ™‚ > > But from my experience, during the early stages of the dating process, when a woman fires away talking about honesty (and not in the course of a relevant discussion like **Kaio** referred to) she has been shit all over in the past, and you will have to have the honesty of Abraham Lincoln for a period of many years before she doesnā€™t automatically assume you are like her last boyfriend/husband. In other words, they do exactly the same thing that you did in your previous post: given a small amount of information about a strangerā€™s new girlfriend, you immediately dropped that tidbit into an inventive context solely of your own creation, so that it now evokes in you an ominous significance that casts grave doubt on the character of said girlfriend. > [@](#): > > She likely has emotional baggage. Not that we all donā€™t, but this one is particularly bad, because she will likely be checking up on you. It is odd that the OP was the one that did it in this situation, so it seems like he has trust issues. > > Two people with trust issues in a relationship seem to be destined to be on an episode of COPS, shown drunk at 1:30am with knives or guns involved. Iā€™m pretty sure **everyone** has ā€œtrust issuesā€, so it seems like a pretty weird dealbreaker to me. ---
**Author:** ![BROWNEYES](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@BROWNEYES](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BROWNEYES)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/62 "2013-05-28T00:32:36Z")
I really canā€™t believe that I am sitting here reading this about me ā€¦ I did take those pics for you , boy am I sorry I did ā€¦ Making that accusation is hurtful enough especially when u know what Iā€™ve been through but to say all this is not right ā€¦ And then to admit here you lied to me , Honesty and trust are important in a relationship and it was brought up because we were talking about what we were looking for in a relationship .they should def not be red flags ā€¦ . Yes I have only been with three guys in my life and yes I am 42 ā€¦ My ex husband was my first and we were together for 16 years , the other two were two relationships I had after my divorce , I donā€™t sleep around so your bullshit detector is wrong ā€¦ I am telling the truth and I am not ashamed of that number ā€¦ I have self respect ā€¦ I do not use my boobs to get attention as you say ā€¦ They are there and I wanted to look pretty and sexy for you , so I wore a summer dress, I will rethink that dress in the future ā€¦ I donā€™t say Iā€™m a goody goody ., I do think Iā€™m a good person with a good heart who tries to see the best in people ā€¦ No I donā€™t have tons of hang upsā€¦ I am just looking for someone to love and love me in return ā€¦ Everyone has been through rough times , some more than othersā€¦ Dating is hard enough as it is , but to start a relationship like this is pretty sad ā€¦ I do wish you luck and hope you find happiness , but I can not be in a relationship thatā€™s like this ā€¦, I deserve better than that , whether Iā€™m alone forever Or not I will never put myself in that position again ā€¦ Itā€™s ironic I happened to see this post ā€¦ It was very hurtful to be judged like that by you ā€¦ I guess there is such a thing a fate ā€¦ ā˜¹ ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/63 "2013-05-28T00:35:59Z")
Quit being a dick when someone sends you naughty pictures. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/64 "2013-05-28T00:37:40Z")
Whoa, that canā€™t be real, can it? ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/65 "2013-05-28T00:39:57Z")
:eek::eek::dubious::D:dubious: No way! ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/66 "2013-05-28T00:40:59Z")
Lady, if that IS you. Run. Seriously. Though it does sound like youā€™ve already got the right idea. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/67 "2013-05-28T00:42:31Z")
Yeeaah right. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/68 "2013-05-28T00:45:29Z")
Oh Internet, I love u! ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/69 "2013-05-28T00:46:54Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Whoa, that canā€™t be real, can it? Unlikely ā€¦ but if only it were. Of course on second thought given the OPā€™s initial Rainman style interpersonal behavior, would be really be completely out of character for him to link her to this thread as evidence that he is super sincere about trying to work it out. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/70 "2013-05-28T00:54:00Z")
Or maybe she googled up a username that he uses in multiple places, or was researching exif data and found this. Not too hard to believe, but could just be someone having fun. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/71 "2013-05-28T00:57:23Z")
So, BROWNEYES, maybe youā€™re looking for a better class of loser. May I introduce myself? šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/72 "2013-05-28T00:59:47Z")
Line has already formed over here dude. ---
**Author:** ![BROWNEYES](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@BROWNEYES](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BROWNEYES)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/73 "2013-05-28T01:00:19Z")
I was actually looking for another thread he told me wrote last week under a different user name and just started to read others and came across this one and knew it was him ā€¦ he wrote our texts verbatim , changed my name but not my sons ā€¦ Creepy and sad ā˜¹ ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/74 "2013-05-28T01:00:33Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Iā€™ve been entertained by this thread all afternoon and I just have to say that Iā€™m still shocked the OPā€™s join date is anything other than May 2013. Yet somehow Iā€™m not surprised that BROWNEYES does have a join date of May 2013 and that her one and only post is about how she ā€œhappened to see this post.ā€ My advice to both of you - you both have issues, you both should deal with them. Separately. And not on this Board. ---
**Author:** ![BROWNEYES](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@BROWNEYES](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BROWNEYES)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/75 "2013-05-28T01:06:22Z")
Thank you for the advice ā€¦ But I only joined so I could reply to this post and defend myself ā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/76 "2013-05-28T01:06:43Z")
Hey. This boardā€™s advice has made me the person I am today! ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/77 "2013-05-28T01:07:37Z")
> [@BROWNEYES](#): > > I was actually looking for another thread he told me wrote last week under a different user name and just started to read others and came across this one and knew it was him .. he wrote our texts verbatim , changed my name but not my sons .. Creepy and sad ā˜¹ Are you saying that he wrote a thread under a different username? ---
**Author:** ![BROWNEYES](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@BROWNEYES](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BROWNEYES)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/78 "2013-05-28T01:09:59Z")
Yep ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/79 "2013-05-28T01:10:53Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Are you saying that he wrote a thread under a different username? Well he is a 'Fantome" after all. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [May 28, 2013, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484/80 "2013-05-28T01:13:01Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Are you saying that he wrote a thread under a different username? What other user name dud he use? And Iā€™m available, and I promise to never accuse you of using your breasts for anything but Good. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-not-get-involved-with-this-woman/659484.md?page=5)