# Should I say something about this nurse? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 14, 2015, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837 "2015-08-14T14:46:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/81 "2015-08-16T14:12:15Z")
> [@KarlGrenze](#): > > If a male nurse had restrained you the way she did, would you have said anything? No? Then you shouldn’t have done what you did. Bullshit. Having your hand placed on a man’s chest is not the same as having your hand placed on a woman’s breast. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/82 "2015-08-16T14:21:59Z")
> [@romansperson](#): > > I have had this happen to me too but I’ve never thought twice about it … maybe because I am a (straight) woman and it just wouldn’t occur to me that she’d be doing anything other than her job. Me too, its how some percentage of nurses do a blood pressure check. It just happens to be that there is boob there. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/83 "2015-08-16T14:26:47Z")
> [@chappachula](#): > > Next time, think before you post. Bwahahahahaha! ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/84 "2015-08-16T16:12:30Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > “Their place?” Fuck you. And thank you for finally just coming out and saying it, you misogynist asshole. This has nothing to do with someone providing subpar medical care (because she didn’t) or your concern for her well being (because you don’t give a shit about her or her career). This is because you can’t handle your pathetic chubby when women conduct themselves like human beings in public. Fuck. You. > > Yes, mod, I’ll take my Warning now. Worth it. I non-sexually love you. > [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Another time a friend of mines son got accused of “exposing” a teachers aide. What happened was this 1rst grade boy in special education with mental issues had this aid and this woman who was around 50 but thought she was still a hot looking 20 something, was wearing this sexy button top. Well the boy decided to grab her shirt and pull and when he did, it ripped open and everything fell out. The school tried to blame the 1rst grader when it should have fired the aid for wearing inappropriate attire. BTW, she would also wear big dangling earrings. Unless your friend’s son was an extra in a Van Halen video, bullshit. ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/85 "2015-08-16T16:18:03Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Bullshit. > > Having your hand placed on a man’s chest is not the same as having your hand placed on a woman’s breast. > > Regards, > Shodan In a medical situation, it should be. In a lot of cases, it should be. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/86 "2015-08-16T16:19:22Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > The whole “oh, I’m just so afraid that I’ll be accused of sexual harassment by some crazy woman when I’m totally innocent” thing is a form of sexism, and a pernicious one at that. It implies that one has to tiptoe around women because they’re irrational and looking for offense. And it’s even worse when the man points out “I’m not sexually harassing you but…” and makes some perfectly ordinary comment like “you look nice today.” That’s not just sexist, but creepy as fuck. Meanwhile men pat themselves on the back for being so “sensitive.” Ugh. > > That said - I assume that the sexism that underlay Urbanredneck’s concern was unconscious, and he handled the situation appropriately. Guess I was wrong about that last bit. Rather spectacularly wrong. Thanks, WhyNot. You said it better than I ever could. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/87 "2015-08-16T16:42:06Z")
Very well said, WhyNot. ---
**Author:** ![Nametag](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nametag/32/406_2.png) [@Nametag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nametag)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/88 "2015-08-16T16:58:47Z")
Pardon him, WhyNot; he is a barbarian, and thinks that the customs of his tribe are the laws of nature. ---
**Author:** ![purplehearingaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@purplehearingaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehearingaid)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/89 "2015-08-16T17:13:41Z")
> [@Dorjan](#): > > It would encourage me to get regular checkups 😃 If it was a good looking male nurse it might encourage me to go to my doctor, I hate going for checkups. ---
**Author:** ![JackieLikesVariety](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackielikesvariety/32/296_2.png) [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/90 "2015-08-16T17:14:40Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > “Their place?” Fuck you. And thank you for finally just coming out and saying it, you misogynist asshole. This has nothing to do with someone providing subpar medical care (because she didn’t) or your concern for her well being (because you don’t give a shit about her or her career). This is because you can’t handle your pathetic chubby when women conduct themselves like human beings in public. Fuck. You. > > Yes, mod, I’ll take my Warning now. Worth it. WhyNot, you rock 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/91 "2015-08-16T19:31:42Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > “Their place?” Fuck you. And thank you for finally just coming out and saying it, you misogynist asshole. This has nothing to do with someone providing subpar medical care (because she didn’t) or your concern for her well being (because you don’t give a shit about her or her career). This is because you can’t handle your pathetic chubby when women conduct themselves like human beings in public. Fuck. You. > > Yes, mod, I’ll take my Warning now. Worth it. I’ve reported this post… for a post of the year nomination. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/92 "2015-08-16T20:36:18Z")
> [@KarlGrenze](#): > > In a medical situation, it should be. In a non-emergency situation like getting your blood pressure checked? It isn’t. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/93 "2015-08-16T21:14:44Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > “Their place?” Fuck you. And thank you for finally just coming out and saying it, you misogynist asshole. This has nothing to do with someone providing subpar medical care (because she didn’t) or your concern for her well being (because you don’t give a shit about her or her career). This is because you can’t handle your pathetic chubby when women conduct themselves like human beings in public. Fuck. You. > > Yes, mod, I’ll take my Warning now. Worth it. Perfectly said. This thread is embarrassing to men who don’t have the mentalities of sniggering 14 year old boys. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/94 "2015-08-16T21:49:19Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Bullshit. > > Having your hand placed on a man’s chest is not the same as having your hand placed on a woman’s breast. > > Regards, > Shodan Yes it is. The fact that you are inappropriately sexualizing the situation is your problem, not the nurse’s. All the bullshit here is in your head. ---
**Author:** ![Cub\_Mistress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea666f/32.png) [@Cub\_Mistress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cub_Mistress)\ **Post date:** [August 16, 2015, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/95 "2015-08-16T21:52:01Z")
Sometimes body parts just get in the way. I don’t tuck patient’s arms under mine to take their BP, but I have had other issues. One young man for whom I was doing a weekly dressing change on his chest is a case in point. I had to get close to the point where I am almost in his lap. He says “I don’t know where to put my hand except on your knee.” I just laughed and said that would be fine, I wasn’t too worried about him. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/96 "2015-08-17T02:39:42Z")
> [@Cub\_Mistress](#): > > He says “I don’t know where to put my hand except on your knee.” I just laughed and said that would be fine, I wasn’t too worried about him. You TROLLOP! You Jezebel! Why, if the right and honorable **urbanredneck** had been there, you would have received the thrashing that you so roundly deserved! ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/97 "2015-08-17T12:12:04Z")
> [@SmartAleq](#): > > Yes it is. The fact that you are inappropriately sexualizing the situation is your problem, not the nurse’s. All the bullshit here is in your head. No it’s not. There is no medical necessity to put the patient’s hand on the nurse’s breast, since it is perfectly possible to take a blood pressure in some way that does not make the patient uncomfortable. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/98 "2015-08-17T13:32:04Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Thank you. I already reported my post, folks. No need to inundate the mods with multiple reports. I hope I’m not suspended or banned over it, but I absolutely know it broke more than one rule, and I knew it before I hit submit. But I could not let that stand and sleep tonight. If I’m gone in the morning, it was great knowing you. Truly. I don’t disagree with your post and I’m not siding with UR, but if you knew it was wrong why not just start a pit thread and link to it here. Just being passionate is no excuse for abandoning board mores and there exists a perfectly good and board legal way to accomplish the same thing. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/99 "2015-08-17T14:03:37Z")
_Attempts to uninstall NetNanny_ ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/100 "2015-08-17T14:28:49Z")
> [@White SIFL](#): > > I don’t disagree with your post and I’m not siding with UR, but if you knew it was wrong why not just start a pit thread and link to it here. Just being passionate is no excuse for abandoning board mores and there exists a perfectly good and board legal way to accomplish the same thing. Good question. Check your PMs for an answer; it’s off topic here. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837.md?page=6)