# Should I say something about this nurse? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 14, 2015, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837 "2015-08-14T14:46:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/101 "2015-08-17T15:24:25Z")
Got it, thanks. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/102 "2015-08-17T16:40:19Z")
(Note, I am not an IMHO mod, but the mods for this forum are unavoidably occupied right now, so I’m stepping in to help). **WhyNot** , while I appreciate the fact you recognize that your language was over the top and wholly inappropriate for this forum, it is for exactly these types of situations that the Pit was designed. The Pit is to prevent derailing a thread with personal frustration and bringing that tone to a more mild forum. I don’t doubt your frustration, but next time bring it to the pit, or avoid the language altogether. **Warning Issued** > [@WhyNot](#): > > “Their place?” Fuck you. And thank you for finally just coming out and saying it, you misogynist asshole. This has nothing to do with someone providing subpar medical care (because she didn’t) or your concern for her well being (because you don’t give a shit about her or her career). This is because you can’t handle your pathetic chubby when women conduct themselves like human beings in public. Fuck. You. > > Yes, mod, I’ll take my Warning now. Worth it. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/103 "2015-08-17T17:06:04Z")
Thank you, **IvoryTowerDenizen**. That Mod Hat looks good on you. Warning absolutely accepted and warranted. And still worth it. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/104 "2015-08-17T18:57:00Z")
To answer the OP- say nothing. ---
**Author:** ![Fiveroptic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiveroptic/32/8257_2.png) [@Fiveroptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveroptic)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/105 "2015-08-17T19:27:43Z")
Too late. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/106 "2015-08-17T22:29:49Z")
[QUOTE=Urbanredneck;18605474BTW, she would also wear big dangling earrings. .[/QUOTE] No,\* not\* **big dangling earrings!?!** :eek::eek::eek: The slut! :rolleyes::dubious: ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/107 "2015-08-17T22:48:05Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > No,\* not\* **big dangling earrings!?!** :eek::eek::eek: The slut! > :rolleyes::dubious: Well, I think in that example the issue was safety. Dangling earrings are frequently pulled, so not a good idea. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/108 "2015-08-17T22:53:09Z")
[QUOTE=Urbanredneck] Should I say something about this nurse? [/QUOTE] You should say that you are sorry to her. ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/109 "2015-08-17T22:53:18Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Thank you, **IvoryTowerDenizen**. That Mod Hat looks good on you. Warning absolutely accepted and warranted. And still worth it. 😃 We’ll miss you, **WhyNot**. Maybe you can come back as a sock and never get caught? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2015, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/110 "2015-08-17T23:07:45Z")
I’ve hesitated to post here but this quote bothered me: > [@](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > It would encourage me to get regular checkups > > If it was a good looking male nurse it might encourage me to go to my doctor, I hate going for checkups. I think it’s just as bad to speak that way about a male employee as a female one. FWIW-I did one have a patient say to me “I always look forward to coming here because you put your hand right next to your breast when you check my blood pressure-but that’s maybe why my blood pressure is high.” I apologized, and reassessed how I check blood pressures and hopefully haven’t had the problem since. I do see how the nurse could have been totally ignorant of the problem. I had NO IDEA of what I was doing; I was concentrating on checking his blood pressure, ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2015, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/111 "2015-08-18T05:07:13Z")
> [@Muffin](#): > > You should say that you are sorry to her. Why? ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2015, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/112 "2015-08-18T05:42:22Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > this aid and this woman who was **around 50 but thought she was still a hot looking 20** something, was wearing this sexy button top. Well, you’ve explained the dangling earring thing, so perhaps you can explain the bolded part as well. From the way you’ve presented the story, it sounds like it would have been okay for her to wear sexy clothes if she was “a hot looking 20.” Is that true - or do you think her clothing was inappropriate regardless of her age? If her clothing was inappropriate regardless of her age, I’d appreciate knowing why you think the “hot looking 20” reference was necessary. If her clothing was appropriate for a 20-year -old in that situation, perhaps you could explain how the 6-year-old would have acted differently based on the age of the aid wearing a “sexy button top.” ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2015, 8:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/113 "2015-08-18T08:53:34Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Why? For considering reporting her despite her doing her job properly. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2015, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/114 "2015-08-18T11:36:32Z")
I assumed he was just guessing as to why the woman wore the shirt she did. The part that struck me as odd was “sexy button top”. I have never once looked at a ladies top (either that I might wear, or that someone else was wearing) and think “wow, those buttons make it sexy!” Maybe he was trying to say that the top had a low neckline, so the kid could reach it? I doubt that mattered, my guess is that unless the top was really snug-fitting, the kid wouldn’t have had trouble grabbing it and tugging. But I wasn’t there, of course. I hope the kid gets the discipline and other help he needs. Doesn’t sound promising if the parents are suing the teacher’s aid for wearing the wrong clothing. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2015, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/115 "2015-08-18T13:55:38Z")
That was actually the description given to me by the parents who had met the woman. But yeah, I guess it does make me sound sexist. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2015, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/116 "2015-08-19T00:28:13Z")
The description may have been from a friend, but you chose to include it so yes, it does give that impression. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2015, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/117 "2015-08-19T03:27:07Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > That was actually the description given to me by the parents who had met the woman. But yeah, I guess it does make me sound sexist. You guess? ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2019, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/118 "2019-12-15T14:22:46Z")
> [@Cub\_Mistress](#): > > Sometimes body parts just get in the way. I don’t tuck patient’s arms under mine to take their BP, but I have had other issues. One young man for whom I was doing a weekly dressing change on his chest is a case in point. I had to get close to the point where I am almost in his lap. He says “I don’t know where to put my hand except on your knee.” I just laughed and said that would be fine, I wasn’t too worried about him. I bet you showed him your ankles too, you dirty strumpet, you absolute soiled dove. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2019, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/119 "2019-12-15T15:35:44Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > NO, I didnt get a “thrill” out of it! But yeah, some thoughts definitely popped into my head but I try to be a moral person and I dont want to do inappropriate things. > > Now I’ve had my blood pressure taken dozens of time and never had this happen. Most times they just have me stretch out my arm and I never touch them. > > Should I report the nurse? You should definitely report her. Although you didn’t get a thrill out of it, you easily could have, which could have had disastrous results. You should contact the hospital administration and report the incident exactly as you’ve stated it here, and don’t leave anything out. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2019, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-i-say-something-about-this-nurse/727837/120 "2019-12-15T16:05:13Z")
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