It would be nice if they at least offered a rider you could purchase. Since most of us have limited insurance options (basically, the few plans your employer offers) it is difficult to job shop based of which insurance will cover your infertility. That said, we paid almost 5K just to conceive our 2 beautiful children (plus deliveries). And they are worth every penny. It would have been super swell if my insurance had helped out. I do pay over $500 a month for it. My brother and his wife just paid 18K for IVF to have the son she now carries. Unreal. Its hard to say whether it is truly “elective” until you are the one peeing on the little stick praying for 2 blue lines every month, and only get one.
As for adoption, if they would make it easier for folks to adopt children of any race it would be a great option. Unfortunately most kids up for adoption are mixed race or black. And the state apparently thinks the color of their skin is more important than the love they would receive in my home. It is very difficult to adopt a child if you are a white couple. I would happily take a child of any color. But the state is racist, and m,akes policies mandating that children go to parents the same “color” that they are. Stupid, stupid, stupid.