# Should my wife report this guy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 16, 2011, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137 "2011-11-16T17:08:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/181 "2011-11-30T19:13:44Z")
I’m disappointed that Incubus hasn’t come back to this thread. I’m not going to jump to negative conclusions, so I’ll just say that I hope that they’re still trying to find a way to get that girl out of this situation and not just going to let it drop. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/182 "2011-11-30T19:23:50Z")
> [@lavenderviolet](#): > > I’m disappointed that Incubus hasn’t come back to this thread. I’m not going to jump to negative conclusions, so I’ll just say that I hope that they’re still trying to find a way to get that girl out of this situation and not just going to let it drop. I’m glad you bumped it. I’ve been wondering what’s going on and I bet lots of others are as well. Very disappointing he hasn’t come back. ---
**Author:** ![Patience\_Jones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ec9cab/32.png) [@Patience\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patience_Jones)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/183 "2011-11-30T20:09:22Z")
I’ve been waiting and wondering, as well. Hoping for the best. ---
**Author:** ![phantom\_lamb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@phantom\_lamb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phantom_lamb)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/184 "2011-11-30T20:11:46Z")
I’m also hoping for some good news/update. Poor girl ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/185 "2011-11-30T20:18:26Z")
Still wondering… ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2011, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/186 "2011-12-01T00:10:44Z")
Living Well: > [@](#): > > Very disappointing he hasn’t come back. Considering the bashing he’s taken, even after reporting to CPS, what do you expect? ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2011, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137/187 "2011-12-01T00:19:09Z")
> [@Lucretia](#): > > Let me tell you a story. My son was in Germany, and was chatting online with both me and a friend in Canada. Said friend was talking about killing himself. There was no way a kid was going to commit suicide if I could stop it. So, first I called regular 911. Yeah, they said, we can’t do anything about anything in Canada. Okay. I googled, and found, a number for the police in his province (Prince Edward Island). But it was a Sunday, and I got an answering machine. So, I think, someone somewhere on that island has a phone, and will answer it. I found the number of an emergency room on Prince Edward Island. I called them, and explained the situation. They gave me the local number for the RCMP there, and I called _them_ and I explained the situation. I had no address, only a name. I told them that this kid was talking about suicide. I have only second-hand reports, and a name, no more. The RCMP found him, and took him to get help. > > What’s the point of all that, besides patting myself on the back? To make the point that, when a kid is in danger, and you can do something about it? You _do_ something about it. If the first thing you do doesn’t work, then you do something else. And if that doesn’t work, you do something else. Until whatever you’ve done _does_ work. Because you, and they, are fucking human beings. Well, like I said, I did try to report it, in multiple ways. And I could have reported it with my first call, if I’d been willing for them to pass my name on to the man I was reporting, which would have been very unsafe indeed for me and my daughter; given that he’d already burgled my flat and had lots of really dodgy mates, I don’t think I was cowardly not to pass my name on. Being able to report one incidence of someone threatening to commit suicide doesn’t mean you can so easily report child abuse too. That’s good investigative work from you there though - glad it worked. > [@chiroptera](#): > > What I meant was that the wife would a: surely know whether or not to report this and b: would know the proper channels to go through in order to get someone’s attention. Ah, I get you. Yes, I agree - though it looks like she did know the latter part. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-my-wife-report-this-guy/603137.md?page=9)