# Should one's past as an adolescent bully be used against them in adulthood? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 28, 2020, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-ones-past-as-an-adolescent-bully-be-used-against-them-in-adulthood/924131 "2020-10-28T17:36:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 45
**Author:** ![Esprise\_Me](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprise_me/32/2947_2.png) [@Esprise\_Me](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprise_Me)\ **Post date:** [October 29, 2020, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-ones-past-as-an-adolescent-bully-be-used-against-them-in-adulthood/924131/45 "2020-10-29T03:22:10Z")
It’s interesting to contrast some of the sentiments in this thread with others in this one: [Is it silly to reach out after 40 years, out of the blue, to send an apology? - #113 by Mallard](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-silly-to-reach-out-after-40-years-out-of-the-blue-to-send-an-apology/923554/113) While a lot of the “nah, don’t apologize” posts focused on the fact that the transgression in question occurred 40 years ago, there was a little sideline discussion about the appropriateness of contacting someone you’d wronged at any time to apologize, because doing so might cause your victim more pain. There was a link in there to another thread in which people who had been contacted by 12-steppers making amends spoke about their experiences, and mostly did not care for it. Like many here, I’m not necessarily convinced this kid is genuinely sorry. But I do wonder what, hypothetically, a genuinely sorry person in his position should do. --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-ones-past-as-an-adolescent-bully-be-used-against-them-in-adulthood/924131)._