# Should the female partner be a "princess"? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 9, 2013, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472 "2013-03-09T09:55:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2013, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/41 "2013-03-09T23:39:09Z")
> [@missred](#): > > A princess? Most royalty marries other royalty, In movies often there are knights in shining armor that pursue and rescue the princess… he’d do anything for her. Though he perhaps isn’t a doormat. ---
**Author:** ![hussle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/f4b2a3/32.png) [@hussle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hussle)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/42 "2013-03-10T00:01:07Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I’ve read PUA materials and they say to do things like tease super hot girls a bit, etc… not think they’re “the one” or put her on the pedestal like she’s the perfect girl. In the past I did think some girls were 9’s - **there was one young teen I talked to on the phone… I suggested she come with me to my friend’s house and watch porno’s. i.e. I didn’t really put her on a pedestal.** BTW I do show my wife a lot of love, just not the princess level where I consistently always put her first. Anybody else go huh on the bolded part? ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/43 "2013-03-10T00:03:37Z")
> [@hussle](#): > > Anybody else go huh on the bolded part? It gave me pause, I admit, however since I was already in a JohnClay thread it gave me less pause then it probably would have otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/44 "2013-03-10T00:05:09Z")
Yeah I’ve been pretty clueless and inappropriate about picking up girls… ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/45 "2013-03-10T00:13:00Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Yeah I’ve been pretty clueless and inappropriate about picking up girls… When was that and how old were you? Can you describe the situation? I confess that, in my limited pick-up skills, pulling out the porno card while trying to get a girl to come over has never been on my radar. ---
**Author:** ![Katriona](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/katriona/32/113_2.png) [@Katriona](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Katriona)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/46 "2013-03-10T00:14:59Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Princess? No. Duchess? Maybe. Hell, I’d settle for Countess if it’d net me a spread like Downton Abbey! ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/47 "2013-03-10T00:56:06Z")
Love your woman as much as you can, as best you can. Princess? Maybe she treats you like a prince & this is natural. But. The minute she treats YOU like she’s a whinny self-entitled Prima-Donna customer while treating YOU like a lowly sub-human clerk scum? Dump Her Ass Curbside Like Weekly Garbage. Yes, You MAY Spike That Ball. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/48 "2013-03-10T01:26:58Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > When was that and how old were you? I’m not sure… maybe 18 and she was 13… BTW Elvis met Priscilla when she was 14. > [@](#): > > Can you describe the situation? I confess that, in my limited pick-up skills, pulling out the porno card while trying to get a girl to come over has never been on my radar. This was before I came across PUA materials… well I rang her up a lot… one time she told me she shaves her legs every day in the shower… anyway she’d never meet up with me… when I asked if she could meet up with me in the next year and she replied “I don’t know” I knew it wasn’t going to happen. ---
**Author:** ![Beastly\_Rotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Beastly\_Rotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beastly_Rotter)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/49 "2013-03-10T02:45:22Z")
Why is it that whenever I read your posts I find myself really warming to Francis Galton? ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/50 "2013-03-10T04:08:40Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > When was that and how old were you? > > Can you describe the situation? I confess that, in my limited pick-up skills, pulling out the porno card while trying to get a girl to come over has never been on my radar. I assume it worked out fine for Travis Bickle, but I’ll admit I didn’t watch all the way through. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/51 "2013-03-10T05:00:59Z")
BTW after I broke up with my wife (when she was my girlfriend) a guy friend of hers put on a porno and she just left after a while. (she didn’t want to create a scene by getting upset I guess) ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/52 "2013-03-10T07:20:57Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I’m not sure… maybe 18 and she was 13 Not that this wouldn’t always make me sick, but my daughter is turning 13 this month and just…OMG. This is really, really sick. Not to mention probably criminal. It’s not going to get through to you how disturbing you actually are, but maybe you could just opt not to have kids anyway because you could just trust every single person here that you seriously shouldn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/53 "2013-03-10T19:13:14Z")
Disturbia ---
**Author:** ![Beastly\_Rotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Beastly\_Rotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beastly_Rotter)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/54 "2013-03-10T21:40:40Z")
> [@Katriona](#): > > Hell, I’d settle for Countess if it’d net me a spread like Downton Abbey! Hell, nobody spreads like Downtown Abby. ---
**Author:** ![Altivu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a8b319/32.png) [@Altivu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Altivu)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/55 "2013-03-10T21:51:05Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > > [@JohnClay](#): > > > > I’m not sure… maybe 18 and she was 13 > > Not that this wouldn’t always make me sick, but my daughter is turning 13 this month and just…OMG. This is really, really sick. Not to mention probably criminal. It’s not going to get through to you how disturbing you actually are, but maybe you could just opt not to have kids anyway because you could just trust every single person here that you seriously shouldn’t. Hell, the implication alone already seems illegal. What the hell was going through your mind when you brought that up? > [@EmilyG](#): > > When my mother has called me “princess”, she’s clearly implied that I’m spoiled or always want to get my own way, so I hate the term. I see the term mostly used in the same fashion, so I’d stray away from it either way. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/56 "2013-03-10T22:23:53Z")
> [@Altivu](#): > > Hell, the implication alone already seems illegal. What the hell was going through your mind when you brought that up? I was saying that I don’t treat 9’s as a princess. BTW we didn’t even kiss. Also I wouldn’t dare try and date an underage girl now. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/57 "2013-03-10T22:57:57Z")
BTW in the past one doctor thought I had Asperger’s… I didn’t know much about what wasn’t appropriate - I didn’t talk about my actions with girls to others at all… e.g. when I was in grade 8 I was on a bus and I kept on staring at the hot body of a year 9 girl. After a while she gave me the finger. Another time a guy told me to ask a girl who I was good friends if if she’d give Edward Furlong a head job - so I asked her… I don’t think she replied. Then the guy asked me if I even knew what a head job was - I didn’t. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/58 "2013-03-10T22:59:12Z")
BTW when I was 18 I hadn’t heard about sexual predators that prey on teens/kids… ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/59 "2013-03-10T23:01:34Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > BTW when I was 18 I hadn’t heard about sexual predators that prey on teens/kids… You were one, but had never heard of their existence? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/60 "2013-03-10T23:03:30Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > You were one, but had never heard of their existence? I didn’t think what I was doing was criminal as long as I didn’t have sex with her before the age of consent. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472.md?page=4)