# Should the female partner be a "princess"? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 9, 2013, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472 "2013-03-09T09:55:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/61 "2013-03-10T23:11:51Z")
BTW my dad was saying that the girl’s dad didn’t like it or something - and he didn’t say it was due to the age gap. I said that the girl seemed happy to talk to me on the phone - she’d just talk and talk and not say that she was busy. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/62 "2013-03-10T23:11:57Z")
You can’t go wrong treating your wife well. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/63 "2013-03-10T23:13:11Z")
> [@Eliahna](#): > > You can’t go wrong treating your wife well. Not putting them on a pedestal doesn’t mean you have to treat them like dirt… ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/64 "2013-03-10T23:17:47Z")
I think it depends on how one defines “being a princess.” My last pre-marriage girlfriend liked me because, in her view, I treated her like a princess. It wasn’t something I was consciously doing; it was rather that I was going out of my way not to treat her like shit, and she’d so often been treated like shit that her bar was really low. And as I think on it, I don’t even object to the notion of each partner in a loving relationship treating the other as a prince/princess–if by that you mean “regularly affirming that one’s partner is the most important person in one’s life.” ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/65 "2013-03-10T23:40:07Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > BTW in the past one doctor thought I had Asperger’s… I didn’t know much about what wasn’t appropriate - I didn’t talk about my actions with girls to others at all… e.g. when I was in grade 8 I was on a bus and I kept on staring at the hot body of a year 9 girl. After a while she gave me the finger. Another time a guy told me to ask a girl who I was good friends if if she’d give Edward Furlong a head job - so I asked her… I don’t think she replied. Then the guy asked me if I even knew what a head job was - I didn’t. Dude, you are an adult. Even if, at 12/13 you did feel the 9 year old had a “hot body”, you certainly wouldn’t now (right?). I understand that you are just expressing yourself, trying to be honest, but you have to admit you are odd. Saying stuff like the above isn’t helping this perception. Real talk. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/66 "2013-03-10T23:54:58Z")
He said “year 9” not “9-year-old”. I read it that way at first too and was relieved when I reread it. ---
**Author:** ![Meatros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Meatros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meatros)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2013, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/67 "2013-03-10T23:58:30Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > He said “year 9” not “9-year-old”. I read it that way at first too and was relieved when I reread it. Ah, thank you. My apologies JohnClay. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2013, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/68 "2013-03-11T00:03:21Z")
> [@Meatros](#): > > I’ve always thought of the notion as viewing your wife as the most important person in world or something to that effect. I’m pretty hazy on why anyone of either sex would marry someone who _didn’t_ treat them that way, frankly. If that means I expect to be a princess, I guess I’ll just be over here in my frilly dress and pointy hat with the streamers. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2013, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/69 "2013-03-11T07:03:24Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I think it depends on how one defines “being a princess.” … Try googling “princess syndrome”… I mean that kind of thing… ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2013, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/70 "2013-03-11T19:15:51Z")
The female partner should be a princess. And like a princess she should poop in the corner into a pot. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2013, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/71 "2013-03-12T08:45:12Z")
We were watching TV and my wife said something like “I’m your princess”. I didn’t like the sound of that but decided to say “I’m your doormat”. She hit me and said “naughty”. I said “I’m your king” and she was pleased. (and so was I). She then said that I’m not a creep (like in the song by Radiohead that we heard on the radio the day before). ---
**Author:** ![Svejk\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Svejk\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Svejk_1)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2013, 9:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/72 "2013-03-12T09:07:11Z")
Hey, if your wife is getting uppity, just remind her that she’s a 5 out of 10 at best. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [March 12, 2013, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472/73 "2013-03-12T09:20:14Z")
In some very flattering photos she looks like about a 7 or 8… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-the-female-partner-be-a-princess/652472.md?page=3)