# Should you expect to know what genitals a person has before a first date? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 12, 2019, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329 "2019-11-12T15:31:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 19
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/361 "2019-11-21T23:36:21Z")
> [@muldoonthief](#): > > What, you’ve never been on a date where you start with HR, then meet 3 or 4 people who’d really rather be doing something else, maybe one at a time, maybe in a committee, then finally get to meet the person who decides whether or not there will be second date? Exchange matchmaker for HR and have the next level of 3 or 4 people very enthusiastic and diligent about meeting the candidate and you have more or less described the structure of dating in cultures of arranged marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/362 "2019-11-21T23:36:35Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > I think it’s appropriate to ask about dealbreakers within the first minutes of conversation with a potential life partner. So if, today, you were to go on a first date, you would ask your potential partner if they were trans or not within the first minutes of the conversation? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/363 "2019-11-21T23:43:57Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > I think it’s appropriate to ask about dealbreakers within the first minutes of conversation with a potential life partner. If you did that to me that would be a dealbreaker - if I’m looking for romance or even a friendly conversation, leading with an interrogation would show me you’re not the sort of interaction I’m looking for. However I can see it coming up pretty soon after the ice has been reasonably broken, perhaps even before the first date is set up. ---
**Author:** ![octopus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/octopus/32/3716_2.png) [@octopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/octopus)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/364 "2019-11-21T23:49:15Z")
> [@Ronald\_Raygun](#): > > There was an Ask Me Anything Reddit thread many years ago started by a man with two functional penises. Should he have to disclose his genital status? That’s a good question. Now I got some googling to do. ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/365 "2019-11-22T00:47:15Z")
> [@Babale](#): > > So if, today, you were to go on a first date, you would ask your potential partner if they were trans or not within the first minutes of the conversation? :dubious: I would have asked that and expected an answer to the question (and a number of others) before even agreeing to meet with the person. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/366 "2019-11-22T07:59:06Z")
> [@Ronald\_Raygun](#): > > There was an Ask Me Anything Reddit thread many years ago started by a man with two functional penises. Should he have to disclose his genital status? I think each penis should have its own independent account on the dating site, that is, if penises are indeed such an important and deciding factor in all of this. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329/367 "2019-11-22T20:24:05Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > I would have asked that and expected an answer to the question (and a number of others) before even agreeing to meet with the person. By doing that you’re also going to be selecting for other people who think this is a reasonable sort of thing to do before agreeing to meet; because the others will get annoyed, or offended, or worried that you’ll turn out to be overcontrolling, or just decide they don’t want to bother with all that before meeting for coffee, and they’ll bow out. That might quite possibly be a good idea for both of you; but I suspect it’s going to narrow your pool of potential dates pretty sharply. If having or not having the sort of personality which tries to check for all possible dealbreakers before meeting is itself one of your dealbreakers, it may be worth it. If that isn’t one of them, however, you’d be potentially missing out on meeting whoever you’re looking for. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/should-you-expect-to-know-what-genitals-a-person-has-before-a-first-date/843329.md?page=18)