Wasn’t close when growing up, maintain regular contact now.
I just pretend I am deaf when the political, religious etc talk starts and concentrate on the fact that they are my siblings and I am not going to be getting any new ones when they are gone.
Quite close to the one I was closest to when we were kids.
My youngest brother’s GF, while lovely, prefers he not be close to his siblings. So be it. We were closer before she came into the picture.
My other sister-well, as Mother’s favorite, the wounds she inflicted on the rest of us run very deep. And sadly she hasn’t changed. We’ve made attempts over the years and while we may be gingerly close for a bit, it doesn’t last. It doesn’t help that her daughter, who she thinks hung the moon, is a conniving, narcissist, user and liar. Which the rest of the family agrees on. But of course, we’re wrong. And meanies.
My over-50 siblings and I didn’t have a lot of contact over the years because whenever we did, our mother had to be involved. Now that our mother’s finally dead, those of us that want to contact each other do so freely. So we have more contact.
Wife has a mid 50’s sibling, and she’s nothing more than a drama queen. I can’t stand to hear her voice, let alone be around her. Thankfully she doesn’t live near us. I could go on and on about her, but suffice to say I know a lot of our family/friends that can’t stand her. Wife knows she’s a pain in our rear but is generally nice to her to keep the peace.
There are five of six left, all of us in our fifties.
Most of the contact with BabySis revolves around caring for Dad (and Mom, when she was living). She’s a SAHM who only lives four hours from where we grew up, so she handles a lot of Dad’s business and medical issues.
We all scattered to the four winds (although Bubby came back to where we grew up after he left the military), so it’s rare that we’re all in one place together. The last time was a year ago when Mom passed and before that, 2001.
My sister in Texas and I are very close, but we always have been. We see each other several times a year and even vacation together. The sister in California is a narcissistic asshole and always has been. When she deigns to visit Dad, somehow or other, none of the rest of us can manage to be there at the same time. :rolleyes:
So, mostly the same, but with the close one somewhat better.
I’m 58 and my brother’s 54. I live in Arizona and he lives in Pennsylvania. We haven’t seen each other in 12 years because neither of us is in the greatest of health and really can’t afford to travel. We call each other on holidays and are friends on Facebook. I suppose we’d be closer to each other if we lived in the same city.
I’m 55; I have three older brothers. We hardly ever communicate, and when we do, it’s because one of us needs something else from the other. We’re all getting together this sprint for our neice’s wedding, and it’s going to be weird. I haven’t seen any of these guys in years, and one of them I’d be happy if I never saw him again.
It’s about the same, but I never had much contact with my brothers once I moved out.
No particular reason. We’d meet at holidays and things were fine, but I’m not one to keep in touch with people.
Sister and I are both late 50s, estranged for decades.
Me, 60. Sisters 58 and 56. Brother 52. We have always been pretty close. We live all over the US and get together at least once a year, and different combos of Sibs several times a year.
Edit: By “together,” I mean shared vacations.
I’m over 50 and close to my oldest brother (he’s 9 years older) and almost zero contact with my 2nd oldest brother (1.5 years older). My oldest bro and I talk at least weekly and have gotten closer ever since I had kids 15 years ago. He’s got 4 kids and started much earlier than I did.
Yes. Unfortunately this has happened with me. Me and my 3 older brothers all live in the same relatively small town. Once our parents passed things changed. Not right away, but little by little. We were always a pretty tight knit family (or so I thought). One of my brothers and I see each other at Christmas. I haven’t spoken or seen my oldest brother in almost 12 years. He literally lives a stones throw away. It makes me sad that our relationships have deteriorated so badly. In the past I tried very hard to keep things going. I finally gave up. 