# \*sigh\* I hate dating \*grumble grumble grumble\* **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 20, 2007, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886 "2007-09-20T17:28:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/1 "2007-09-20T17:28:14Z")
I had dinner with a potential suitor last night, and ended up liking him rather more than I expected to. Sent a particularly charming rendition of the traditional “thanks again for a lovely evening” email this morning … zip. nada. zilch. ☹ I am so fucking sick of this shit. ---
**Author:** ![Kevbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e47774/32.png) [@Kevbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kevbo)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/2 "2007-09-20T17:33:00Z")
Buck up, maybe he doesn’t check his email that often. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/3 "2007-09-20T17:33:16Z")
Perhaps he’s in meetings or not at work today? Don’t jump to conclusions just yet. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/4 "2007-09-20T17:34:44Z")
Just this morning? I’d wait at least two days before I thought he didn’t feel the same. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/5 "2007-09-20T17:35:45Z")
[QUOTE=Maastricht] Just this morning? I’d wait at least two days before I thought he didn’t feel the same. [/QUOTE] This is my take as well, especially if it was sent to a personal account. ---
**Author:** ![Shryn\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c2a13f/32.png) [@Shryn\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shryn_King)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/6 "2007-09-20T17:38:11Z")
Hang in there, **Twickster**. It would have been wonderful if you had opened your email this morning and found a charming note from him telling you how much he enjoyed your company last night. Since it’s so early in the day, can we chalk it up to maybe he has been busy this morning? Plus, they don’t think like us. Sometimes I’m thankful for that. Other times, I’m not so thankful!! ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/7 "2007-09-20T17:46:24Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] Sent a particularly charming rendition of the traditional “thanks again for a lovely evening” email this morning … zip. nada. zilch. [/QUOTE] Doesn’t mean anything. It’s part of the “man code” that you don’t call a woman the next day. You don’t want to appear too interested and desperate. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/8 "2007-09-20T17:50:11Z")
[QUOTE=engineer\_comp\_geek] Doesn’t mean anything. It’s part of the “man code” that you don’t call a woman the next day. You don’t want to appear too interested and desperate. [/QUOTE] There’s that. But I’m also curious as to what you said in your e-mail. If it really was just “thanks for a lovely evening”, he might misinterpret it as “thanks but no thanks.” ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/9 "2007-09-20T17:54:05Z")
Do you know him well enough to know how often he checks his email? I check mine regularly. But I have too much damn time on my hands. But I have friends who don’t check it at all. In fact, I wonder why they even claim to \*have \*an email address. I recently was trying to get two friends together and I literally would call up one, tell him he had email, and then call up the other to tell him that \*he \*had email. It was a weird experience. Anyway, I think it is \*much \*too soon to be disappointed. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/10 "2007-09-20T17:54:07Z")
> [@twicks being charming](#): > > Just wanted to say thanks again for a delightful evening – the food was wonderful, as was the company. I really enjoyed talking with you – just hope I didn’t make too much of an ass of myself with what I said about [name of company he works for, I said something fairly tactless]… or anything else, for that matter. > > In case you’re curious, you can see pix of the kittens\* here: [Private Group Photo & Video Sharing](http://s56.photobucket.com/albums/g161/twickster/kitties/) (plus many other pictures in the other albums – we never did get around to talking photography last night; perhaps we can do so some other time). > > Have fun watching the paint dry today\*\* – it should be at least as much fun as dealing with The Slug\*\*\* – > > [twicks] \*My new kittens, who we talked about – he also has two cats. \*\*He’s a materials tester. We were joking about the fact that this is what he does for a living. \*\*\*A not-quite-satisfactory underling of mine, who we joked about last night. ---
**Author:** ![CateAyo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@CateAyo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CateAyo)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/11 "2007-09-20T17:54:24Z")
Consider it a filter, **Twickster** \*\*. If he ascribes to the “man code” he isn’t worth your time. hawk ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/12 "2007-09-20T18:03:18Z")
Way too early to stress about it. Give it a couple days. His internet could be jacked up at home now. Don’t be Stereotypical Woman and do this… Things will be fine. He’ll get in touch with you in a few days…probably in time for the weekend. ---
**Author:** ![Foxy40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a9a28c/32.png) [@Foxy40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foxy40)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/13 "2007-09-20T18:07:49Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] I had dinner with a potential suitor last night, and ended up liking him rather more than I expected to. Sent a particularly charming rendition of the traditional “thanks again for a lovely evening” email this morning … zip. nada. zilch. ☹ I am so fucking sick of this shit. [/QUOTE] How did you meet? If it was on line or through on internet dating service, no email response is a bad sign. If you met off line, I agree that no email is no big deal as he may not check it often. From my experience, if there is no email within 24 hours from an on line suitor after an initial date, he isn’t that into it. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/14 "2007-09-20T18:10:22Z")
[QUOTE=twickster] \*My new kittens, who we talked about – he also has two cats. [/QUOTE] Awwwww! ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/15 "2007-09-20T18:10:56Z")
[QUOTE=Foxy40] How did you meet? If it was on line or through on internet dating service, no email response is a bad sign. If you met off line, I agree that no email is no big deal as he may not check it often. From my experience, if there is no email within 24 hours from an on line suitor after an initial date, he isn’t that into it. [/QUOTE] Yup – OKCupid. OTOH, he’s gone a couple of days without checking his email before. Sigh. I was really hoping that posting about this would somehow cause a wrinkle in the space-time continuum that would result in my getting an email from him. I’m so lame. ---
**Author:** ![SomeUserName](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e480ec/32.png) [@SomeUserName](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SomeUserName)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/16 "2007-09-20T18:12:03Z")
I agree with the others. Way to early to expect a response. It is email not IM. I thought that was a very charming message and your kitties are real cuties:) ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/17 "2007-09-20T18:16:36Z")
I have to concur with two points from this thread: 1. No immediate reply to an email could mean a bunch of things. Don’t freak out now (there’s plenty of time for that later). But set something else up for Saturday night all the same. 2. Dating sux. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/18 "2007-09-20T18:21:29Z")
Dating always gets all the blame. ☹ (In all seriousness, he’s probably playing it cool and waiting until this evening / tomorrow evening to phone. Don’t stress.) ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/19 "2007-09-20T18:32:28Z")
[QUOTE=Scuba\_Ben] But set something else up for Saturday night all the same. [/QUOTE] I have to agree. Be cool with him calling, and be cool with him not calling. But this is far too late in the week to wait for his call. It ups your social value to already have plans. Even if you don’t. He doesn’t have to know that you don’t. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2007, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886/20 "2007-09-20T18:35:27Z")
I do, actually. Have plans. For Saturday. And for tonight, now that you mention it. Damn, y’all are making the whole self-pity thing really hard! 😃 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/sigh-i-hate-dating-grumble-grumble-grumble/419886.md?page=2)