# signs that you like someone **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 6, 2003, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637 "2003-11-06T00:26:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Nvme77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Nvme77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nvme77)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/21 "2003-11-07T05:58:56Z")
AQA- I think your method is wonderful and should be duplicated in some way or form at least once by a guy who doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere with what he has tried. my signals are: I ask more questions about them- or what they excel at (I am so out of control crazy for intelligent/nerdy men- gets me hot) Respond appropriately to their pop references as it would apply to my beliefs (boo and hiss star trek- which instantly cancels many intelligent men, rock out to their air guitar if its a band we both like) and only until then do I remove my bra… ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/22 "2003-11-07T06:21:07Z")
Hmm, there’s a woman at work that I’ve never really had a conversation with, who I don’t work with directly (she’s in another department), and that I don’t really know, who I think is interested in me. Whenever I walk past her while she’s outside smoking she always says ‘Hi Badtz’ (or rather, my real name) and smiles at me, and she doesn’t do this with just everyone. I catch her looking at me a lot too. I guess she picked up on some vibes I sent her way several months ago, I thought she was cute, and considered asking her out but never did, then I got wrapped up in another relationship for a few months. ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/23 "2003-11-07T06:47:11Z")
I have read that the absentminded gesture of picking a piece of lint off of someone’s jacket or sweater is a sign of interest and is rather primal – similar to the grooming that apes do for each other. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/24 "2003-11-07T07:00:23Z")
I turn into a giggling giddy idiot. But, men being what they are, they still fail to see that. A cruel trick of God’s I think. You just know he’s laughing his butt off at we stupid humans. Drives me nuts though, my boyfriend and I were good friends for almost 2 and a half years before he asked me out. I had found him attractive and would have definitely pursued him had I thought I was remotely in the running. Since I’m a lot older than he is, I figured that it had likely never crossed HIS mind. In fact, I guess I’m pretty much “clueless” when it comes to “does he like me” too. If he hadn’t casually asked me if I’d like to go see a movie, we’d probably still be “just friends”. ---
**Author:** ![Empress\_Jolrael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@Empress\_Jolrael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Empress_Jolrael)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/25 "2003-11-07T07:38:10Z")
I’ll start fumbling for words, and leave sentences unfinished. I’m usually quite articulate. I stop making eye contact. And when talking to friends, I mention the other person’s name way too often. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/26 "2003-11-07T08:16:52Z")
My usual approach is to do exactly what **Medea’s Child** recommends. Unfortunately, this is liable to be interpreted as “I just want to be friends.” I was talking about this (on a date) just tonight; the entire system of “dating” is bizarrely unnatural. You’re supposed to go out and fake romantic sentimentality or something with someone you hardly know? Or at least that’s how I understand it. I’m no good at this stuff at all. This evening, my date and I went to see _The Matrix: Revolutions_ and spent the entire time leaning over and whispering smartass cracks about how stupid the movie was, then covering our mouths and giggling. I really like this gal. ---
**Author:** ![RecklessA1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecccb3/32.png) [@RecklessA1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RecklessA1)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/27 "2003-11-07T11:25:10Z")
I’ll go with Giraffe.Have wasted too much time on fancy schemes. ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/28 "2003-11-07T11:30:18Z")
- Lots of eye contacts, particularly in a crowded place, or just the complete opposite - She look at you intensely, then quickly look away when you look back - Her feet point straight at you regardless where her torso is facing (only if she is standing) - She laughs at your unfunny comments - She is either more shy than usual, or absolutely giddy - She makes lots of small body contacts with you, or picks lint/hair off your clothes - She’s always in your presence, or just the complete opposite - She looks at you out of the corner of her eyes - When she walks by you, she looks back at you, perhaps multiple times - She smiles at you, a lot - In a group of mutual friends, she’s closer to you in proximity than everybody else - She pays intense attention to you in one form or another - She remembers your birthday (actually this is a good trick for men - trying to find out when her birthday is and give her a pleasant surprise) etc., etc. ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/29 "2003-11-07T15:08:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Age Quod Agis \* > \*\* When she’s stepping off a curb, I’ll touch her elbow or put my hand in the small of her back. It’s a light touch to let her know that I’m there if she needs me, and that I’m thinking of her. If that’s annoying to you, then we’ll just have to limit our relationship to sex, and never venture outdoors together. > > –Err, uh, wait. . . Am I getting ahead of myself? \*\* If you let your fingers get that close to me, dont be surprised if I grab them and do terrible, terrible things to them. Actually, do be surprised, that’s the fun part. Sex…indoors? _confused_😉 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/30 "2003-11-07T15:43:05Z")
People preen themselves when they see a person they are attracted to, they might not even been aware they are preening. But it’s neat to see. ---
**Author:** ![Age\_Quod\_Agis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d07c76/32.png) [@Age\_Quod\_Agis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Age_Quod_Agis)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2003, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/31 "2003-11-07T23:27:29Z")
> [@](#): > > _Medea’s Child:_ > If you let your fingers get that close to me, dont be surprised if I grab them and do terrible, terrible things to them. Actually, do be surprised, that’s the fun part. [moving closer] And what will you do to the other parts of my body that get too close? ---
**Author:** ![Horseflesh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/horseflesh/32/7502_2.png) [@Horseflesh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horseflesh)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2003, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/32 "2003-11-08T02:52:44Z")
I take my cues from my cats – I’ll groom someone I’m interested in with my tongue until they either shoo me away or pick me up and cuddle me. ---
**Author:** ![Eternal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecb155/32.png) [@Eternal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eternal)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2003, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/33 "2003-11-08T04:45:11Z")
I act like a cat all the time and all it gets me is dirty looks. But I am agile and speedy, so they can not catch me. ---
**Author:** ![Urban\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Urban\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urban_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2003, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/34 "2003-11-08T05:22:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Age Quod Agis \* > When she’s stepping off a curb, I’ll touch her elbow or put my hand in the small of her back. And then you get slapped with a sexual harrassment suit. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2003, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/35 "2003-11-08T16:54:57Z")
I went out (once) with a guy who kept touching the small of my back as we were walking along, as if he were guiding me. I found it annoying. ---
**Author:** ![smersh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/54ee81/32.png) [@smersh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smersh)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2003, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/36 "2003-11-09T07:46:11Z")
-Major eye contact -Don’t look at her boobs -the odd casual touch of her hands -Don’t talk too much -Be well-shaven -Wash daily -Be gallant but not too much. -Use minor sexual innuendo but not too dirty. ---
**Author:** ![SJSB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@SJSB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SJSB)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2003, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/37 "2003-11-09T15:20:46Z")
If I really, really like someone then I tend to go beet red, my hands will start to shake and I have to avoid eye contact at all times. That tends to wear off after a couple of weeks though, and I’ll go into sarcasm mode, which is very similar to pulling pigtails. It has worked in the past - it seems that when I am bitter and insulting, people are endeared to me. FYI, I’m in week two of being beet red, hands trembling and lack of eye contact. I’ll keep you updated, but I’m very keen on taking Giraffe’s approach. ---
**Author:** ![Duderdude2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cdc98d/32.png) [@Duderdude2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duderdude2)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2003, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/38 "2003-11-09T18:03:18Z")
SJSB, I’m the same way, though I skip to the sarcastic portion far sooner, and I too have noticed it works. I think they find that little touch of asshole endearing. ---
**Author:** ![Tamryne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3e96dc/32.png) [@Tamryne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamryne)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2003, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/39 "2003-11-09T18:14:08Z")
Heh, if I like a guy, then Im like you SJSB, I turn beet red and start to shake. One thing I liked though about my current guy is that when he sees that, then it means extra cuddle time! Other than the blushing and shaking, I get really shy and giggly. But putting your hand on the small of my back? Major turn-off. Major, major turn-off. Just hold my hand and the guiding thing is done! Opening doors is sweet too, but not to be taken to extreme (opens every door we come to, takes door out of your hand and ushers you in, exc.) :smack: Giraffe’s approach sounds nice though, simple, easy, and to the point. I need to try it one day.🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2003, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637/40 "2003-11-09T18:21:23Z")
If I like someone, I tend to convince myself of the following: 1. They don’t really like me at all 2. Any signals I get from them aren’t really signals at all, but I’m mis-interpreting things. 3. I somehow manage to convince myself that they hate me and find me really unattractive. Then, I sit at work at weekends, feeling depressed because I’m working on a weekend, and that no one fancies me, even if I fancy them. Of course, the _only_ way a guy finds out if I fancy him is if we’re both drunk. That way I can deny everything when sober. I’m not really very expressive with affairs of the heart. Explains a lot really. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/signs-that-you-like-someone/211637.md?page=3)