# Silly Things That Make a Man/Woman Unnatractive To You **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 10, 2009, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254 "2009-02-10T18:40:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/21 "2009-02-10T21:00:09Z")
Guys with long fingernails. It creeps me out to no end. Can’t deal with it, can’t deal with it, can’t deal with it. I once asked my mom if it would be impolite to put nail clippers in the offering plate for the pastor, because everytime he preached, he would flick his fingernails to gesticulate, or he would point at us, and I just couldn’t stand it. ---
**Author:** ![jali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecae2f/32.png) [@jali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jali)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/22 "2009-02-10T21:01:21Z")
Non tippers. The worst. A guy with no books at home. I can’t be bothered. I can’t take stupid racial shit either. I’m Black and some of the guys I’ve met think it’s funny to mock an Asian, ESL speaker in person. Total deal breaker if you do it. ---
**Author:** ![Freejooky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ba8739/32.png) [@Freejooky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freejooky)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/23 "2009-02-10T21:02:27Z")
> [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > Asking me if I’m vegetarian when I tell you I’m a vet. Yes, I know you’re joking, but corniness is not attractive. Never was and never will be. What’s the joke here? I’ve known two vet students, one working vet, and two people that worked as vet assistants. All five of them were vegetarians as a direct result of their vet work and schooling. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/24 "2009-02-10T21:02:44Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > Back in the dim, dark days when I was still playing the field, I had three things that were absolute drop-dead deal breakers: smoking, tattoos, drugs. I can’t say that drugs and smoking qualify as silly things. But point taken. [Similar thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=459470) from about a year ago. My answer pretty much remains the same. The inability to process substances in your mouth quietly with your lips together. No interest in hearing your gum chewed/popped. Not going to stick around to see what your hamburger looks like after you’ve masticated it even once. And a solid agreement with those opposed to talking just to fill the silence. ---
**Author:** ![SaharaTea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SaharaTea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SaharaTea)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/25 "2009-02-10T21:09:03Z")
Sticking with “silly” things: Anyone who checks himself out in the mirror more than I do. Someone who was really into gaming, online or otherwise. We ain’t gonna have much in common. Someone who lacked basic grammar or spelling skills. ---
**Author:** ![pbbth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@pbbth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pbbth)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/26 "2009-02-10T21:11:33Z")
Oooh, I thought of another one! If you are a man who wears your pants around your thighs and shows 6" of boxers sticking out of the top of your pants I will never, ever date you. Even if I did date you I know you would quickly dump me because I would buy you a belt every single day. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/27 "2009-02-10T21:15:10Z")
Basic inability to smile. Suspicious of motives, as in always trying to find out what my “angle” is. Pessimism. Actually, none of those are silly. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/28 "2009-02-10T21:17:02Z")
> [@pbbth](#): > > Even if I did date you I know you would quickly dump me because I would buy you a belt every single day. I think we should date for about a week. I could use some new belts. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/29 "2009-02-10T21:29:18Z")
Being picky/rude to the waiter/sales person/movie ticket taker/other stranger. ---
**Author:** ![mauxlicious](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/bc8723/32.png) [@mauxlicious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mauxlicious)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/30 "2009-02-10T21:30:45Z")
I can’t date a woman who does not have cute feet. I actually passed on a girl in college, strictly because of her monkey feet. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/31 "2009-02-10T21:31:15Z")
Most of the things I could think of are already posted. However, another thing I can think of that’s pretty arbitrary and may be very minor to others is how the guy smells. And I’m not talking just B.O. If he’s doused in cologne, I won’t like him. If he has an “off” odor to him, whether it’s caused by his body chemistry, things he ingests (like garlic or cigarette smoke), or has horrid breath, being around him will make me nauseated at the worst, physically distant at best. I have a really strong visceral reaction to scent. I can’t help it. I even react that way to my husband when he’s had beer because it does something funky with his chemistry that makes his breath and his skin smell strange. Plus, when my kid gets sick, he smells strange to me. It doesn’t make me want to stay away (he might need me), but I notice it immediately. So, even though I know that 9 times out of 10 they probably can’t help it, if I were single, I wouldn’t be able to date someone who smelled weird. Let’s see here. Other petty stuff includes sloppy table manners. I don’t care whether the guy uses the right fork or not, or even if he eats with his hands or licks his fingers (I eat with my hands at home a good 70% of the time anyway), but loud lip smacking and chewing with the mouth open or, worse, having food fall out his mouth, are big turn offs. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/32 "2009-02-10T21:35:06Z")
> [@Freejooky](#): > > What’s the joke here? I’ve known two vet students, one working vet, and two people that worked as vet assistants. All five of them were vegetarians as a direct result of their vet work and schooling. Merely asking me if I’m vegetarian is not what I’m talking about (sorry for the conufison). Playing off the word similarity between veterinarian and vegetarian is. As in: “I’m a veterinarian by training.” “Oh, my cousin doesn’t eat meat either. HA-ha!” ---
**Author:** ![Algorithm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/algorithm/32/12204_2.png) [@Algorithm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Algorithm)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/33 "2009-02-10T21:46:01Z")
I agree with the racism thing, but I don’t think that’s silly. Girls who say “dude” frequently. Ugh. I can’t stand that for some reason. Calling me just to chat while you’re busy with something else. Driving, cooking, working, or talking with someone else…you’re wasting my time. Call when you aren’t busy. Not returning your shopping cart. Rushing me when we don’t have any time constraints. We don’t have anywhere to be, who cares if we take the long way home? Being unable to find something you’ll eat at a restaurant. You aren’t 8. Order something and eat it. ---
**Author:** ![MichaelQReilly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@MichaelQReilly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelQReilly)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/34 "2009-02-10T21:47:58Z")
Bad teeth, hands down. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/35 "2009-02-10T21:48:11Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > **Illuminati** – people say ‘‘axe’’ in the UK? To my understanding it’s a part of African American Vernacular English – just a small dialect differentiation. Personally I don’t care what dialect people use as long as I understand what they’re trying to say. Yes they do. As for it being in the African-American vernacular, what’s the excuse for people in this country saying it? Anyway, does being gay mean I get to punctuate every sentence with “girlFRIEND!” and get away with it? I don’t think so. 😉 [QUOTE=Algorithm] Girls who say “dude” frequently. Ugh. I can’t stand that for some reason. [/QUOTE] In a similar vein men who call me mate. Yes, it’s what men in Britain call each other, I accept this. But we’re gay, and we’re on a date so please don’t refer to me as “mate”. Even worse, if you are going to do it for god’s sake at least don’t have an American accent! (thinking of the last guy I dated and it was an abomination hearing that word coming from his lips…) ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/36 "2009-02-10T21:51:26Z")
> [@Algorithm](#): > > Being unable to find something you’ll eat at a restaurant. You aren’t 8. Order something and eat it. Ooh, I hate that. One of my exes would order sweet tea. It had to be sweet tea, not tea with sugar she added and stirred in. We actually had to leave a restaurant because of that once, they had nothing she would drink. She wouldn’t drink water. She also ordered mashed potatoes without butter, sandwiches/subs without mayo, things like that. And her order was frequently messed up. She wouldn’t/couldn’t eat Chinese food. It was a chore going out to eat with her sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![AngryIrishLass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/bbce88/32.png) [@AngryIrishLass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngryIrishLass)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/37 "2009-02-10T21:59:36Z")
> [@melodyharmonius](#): > > Guys with long fingernails. It creeps me out to no end. Can’t deal with it, can’t deal with it, can’t deal with it. > > I once asked my mom if it would be impolite to put nail clippers in the offering plate for the pastor, because everytime he preached, he would flick his fingernails to gesticulate, or he would point at us, and I just couldn’t stand it. This right here. It creeps me out to no end. I have a friend who loves to point out long fingernailed men just to see me squirm. I’m not in the market, but smokers, dopers, and wet rags/complainers were/are a big turn off. I remember my 3rd date with a guy was after a Superbowl that his team had lost. It was just shy of a week after the game, and he was still moping about and talking incessently about bad calls, stats, shoulda, coulda, wouldas. My first clue it was a waste of time should have been him showing up in a team jersey with a black band on his arm. :rolleyes: After 2 hours and several attempts to redirect the monologue, I finally just tossed $10 on the table for my share of the drinks and told him not to call me again. I figure I gave him something to moan and groan about for the following week or two. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/38 "2009-02-10T22:05:51Z")
> [@MichaelQReilly](#): > > Bad teeth, hands down. Crap. Oh wait. You’re a guy. Never mind… [sub]I have an amazing amount of dentistry scheduled for this year. I might even get my teeth straightened once and for all… Imagine! A 45-year-old with braces! (Yes, I have English teeth.)[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![jali](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ecae2f/32.png) [@jali](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jali)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/39 "2009-02-10T22:06:34Z")
> [@mauxlicious](#): > > I can’t date a woman who does not have cute feet. I actually passed on a girl in college, strictly because of her monkey feet. This made me laugh so hard just now. The word monkey gets me, but monkey feet? Ahhh. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254/40 "2009-02-10T22:09:03Z")
> [@AngryIrishLass](#): > > This right here. It creeps me out to no end. I have a friend who loves to point out long fingernailed men just to see me squirm. Hey, what about guitarists? I wouldn’t last too long with a cockeyed optimist. Actual racism or sexism (versus genuinely funny jokes from someone with real understanding and empathy). Can’t think of anything really silly that would turn me off. If the person is great, I’m not sure a weird mole or something would overshadow that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/silly-things-that-make-a-man-woman-unnatractive-to-you/485254.md?page=3)