# Single Straight Men - would you sleep with your female friends if they asked you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 11, 2010, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562 "2010-01-11T21:44:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Locrian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/locrian/32/14146_2.png) [@Locrian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Locrian)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/21 "2010-01-12T05:53:26Z")
This is a tough one! I find my female friends attractive, and let’s face it. You always have better, more intimate conversations with already established friends than you do with girls you’re hitting on initially. That said, I’d still have to go with “no”. Girls discuss all the details with each other. Since the girls in my scene hang with the GUYS in my scene, I don’t want to hear things like, “Ooooh, so you’re a cuddler, hey, Stud Locrian,” from my “brothers” of the circle. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Locrian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/locrian/32/14146_2.png) [@Locrian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Locrian)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/22 "2010-01-12T05:55:36Z")
> [@YogSosoth](#): > > Hell fucking yes! > > I’m in the unenviable position of “Guy with hot female friend who are all taken”. If I had a chance with any one of them I’d take it up in a second Hmmm… Didn’t consider that before I typed. I am the International Champion of being the third, fifth, seventh and ninth wheels with my friends and their relationships. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/23 "2010-01-12T06:16:39Z")
Most of them yes. Assuming they are single and not ugly. Or crazy. ---
**Author:** ![Nametag](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nametag/32/406_2.png) [@Nametag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nametag)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 6:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/24 "2010-01-12T06:55:17Z")
Are you kidding? Most of my female friends are either women I’ve slept with or women I tried to sleep with. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/25 "2010-01-12T07:23:37Z")
> [@Nametag](#): > > Are you kidding? Most of my female friends are either women I’ve slept with or women I tried to sleep with. Hah. I was just thinking while reading this thread that most of my guy friends have tried to sleep with me at some point. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/26 "2010-01-12T17:51:05Z")
> [@toofs](#): > > Very happily married here. Really, honestly dig my wife. > > However. Pre-married **toofs** woulda rolled around naked with almost every female friend I had. And coworkers, neighbors, teachers, etc. On a few occasions, usually involving a party and alcohol, we did. > > Shit yeah. Single and horny with cool, attractive, fun female friends. I’m amazed this is even a poll. What **toofs** said. When I was single, I’d have been _delighted_ to sleep with most of my female friends. I had a few female friends over the years that I wasn’t also attracted to sexually, but they were the exceptions. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/27 "2010-01-12T18:06:55Z")
Every girlfriend I’ve ever had started as “just a friend”, so yeah. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/28 "2010-01-12T18:09:28Z")
I’ve only asked one of my male friends to sleep with me. He said yes. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/29 "2010-01-12T18:20:24Z")
Oh, ok. My question was not so much, “Is it feasible that you would do such a thing?” But more like, “Don’t you consider them friends mainly because you have already set their ‘attractive’ quotient at a lower level?” But I guess not low enough not to fuck! 🙂 As for attractiveness, I mean just a perfectly ordinary girl. Maybe she’s a little fat, maybe she’s skinny but plain, whatever. No supermodels - just the girls in your life. Since most men have said they’d roll around with any of their female friends, I guess that answers my question. ---
**Author:** ![Scougs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scougs/32/3158_2.png) [@Scougs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scougs)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/30 "2010-01-12T19:13:03Z")
Thought I’d join MeanOldLady and chime in from the lady’s point of view. I have done precisely this. Six months after I threw my husband out, I was feeling… lonely, shall we say. I was having a pint or two with one of my male friends prior to a football match. We’ve been friends for years. He’s been divorced for five years, and wasn’t seeing anyone. I said “Can I ask you something? In exactly the kind of matter of fact way that I would ask you if you wanted a pint?” He said “Eh… what do you mean?”, then just looked at me, and I looked at him and smiled. He then uttered the immortal words “Are you after a bit of action?”, and when I smiled again and nodded, he didn’t pause before saying “Aye! Why not?” We’re still very good friends, and are both now in relationships. It can work. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/31 "2010-01-12T19:22:13Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Oh, ok. > > My question was not so much, “Is it feasible that you would do such a thing?” But more like, “Don’t you consider them friends mainly because you have already set their ‘attractive’ quotient at a lower level?” Honestly, this is kinda bass-ackwards. My female friends are my friends because they’re my friends. The fact that I’d sleep with many of them if the offer was on the table is relevant only in that, like many men, I find a fairly high percentage (2/3ish, on the average day, but that might be skewed due to living in a college town) of the cohort of “every female” attractive enough that I wouldn’t turn 'em down. I’m in the same boat as many–most of my female friends are very married, and unfortunately they all seem to consider that a barrier. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/32 "2010-01-12T19:38:15Z")
To turn the tables around, yes, I’d probably sleep with most of my male friends if I & they were single; I think they are attractive at least somewhat and besides, they’re my friends because I already like their personalities, as Zeriel says. And I don’t have a problem with NSA sex. I was just wondering about the other side of it. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/33 "2010-01-12T19:42:58Z")
Tough question. The libido would be up for it with some of them (not all by any means) in a second, but the potential awkardness after the fact is really kind of off putting. “Some rain we’re having eh? By the way your pussy is so wet and tasty!” ---
**Author:** ![Noone\_Special](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/noone_special/32/2863_2.png) [@Noone\_Special](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noone_Special)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/34 "2010-01-12T19:45:35Z")
Assuming I were single…? Oh, YEAH!! Not single…? Um, I’ll take the Fifth. :o ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/35 "2010-01-12T20:09:42Z")
Assuming I was single I would probably sleep with any of my (unmarried) female friends if they asked, even if I didn’t find them particularly attractive. I have slept with a few friends over the years and haven’t regretted one yet. I’ve also said no a couple of times when I was otherwise attached and it didn’t seem right. Sex with friends is awesome, that’s why I married one. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/36 "2010-01-12T20:29:53Z")
In my single days… oh hell yes. These days, besides the fact that I’m married, most of my women friends are more shall we say matronly. ---
**Author:** ![Sanity\_Challenged](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de053/32.png) [@Sanity\_Challenged](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sanity_Challenged)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/37 "2010-01-12T23:32:30Z")
Would say yes to most. Have said yes once. There was some awkwardness shortly after, but we got beyond that quickly. We’ve hooked up a few more times since, and the friendship is still going strong. Have said no a few times. In all cases, the rejection brought a good amount of resentment and awkwardness into the friendship, and they ended up drifting away as friends. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2010, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/38 "2010-01-12T23:56:20Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > Hah. I was just thinking while reading this thread that most of my guy friends have tried to sleep with me at some point. I was just thinking how all my close male friends are gay! ---
**Author:** ![sjc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@sjc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sjc)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/39 "2010-01-13T02:13:03Z")
Yes? No? I’m not really sure. Depends I guess. Not every friend in every situation, that’s for certain, but definitely not a blanket prohibition either. It’s an interesting question. I tend to find my female friends attractive to one extent or another. It’s not always (or even usually?) sexual. Or maybe it’s better to say that it’s very rarely (if ever) a primarily sexual attraction with my friends. But still, for most of my female friends some level of attraction is there and if they asked I would consider it. Sometimes I think it would be an easy yes or no, sometimes a bit harder. ---
**Author:** ![kidneyfailure](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9f8e36/32.png) [@kidneyfailure](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidneyfailure)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/40 "2010-01-13T02:37:02Z")
If I wasn’t married? Yes, yes, and more yes (I have some good-looking female friends) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562.md?page=3)