# Single Straight Men - would you sleep with your female friends if they asked you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 11, 2010, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562 "2010-01-11T21:44:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/41 "2010-01-13T02:39:46Z")
Seriously? Of course. Not _all of them_, but most of them. ---
**Author:** ![ExTank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/35a633/32.png) [@ExTank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ExTank)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/42 "2010-01-13T03:02:14Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > I was just thinking how all my close male friends are gay! 😉 You need better friends. ---
**Author:** ![FordTaurusSHO94](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f07891/32.png) [@FordTaurusSHO94](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FordTaurusSHO94)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/43 "2010-01-13T03:25:47Z")
I’ve at least made out with most of mine. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/44 "2010-01-13T14:52:16Z")
Those of you who said not all of them, what’s stopping you from the others? ---
**Author:** ![yojimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yojimbo/32/232_2.png) [@yojimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yojimbo)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/45 "2010-01-13T16:57:12Z")
I’m with the vast majority of males in this thread. Yep. Happened once and I did. She said she was as horny as fuck and just needed the stress relieved 😃 Assuming they’re single\* or not the unrequited love of a male friend of mine (then I probably would as well but try to keep it quiet 😉 ) \*Not married to or going with a friend. If the partner was a stranger then I probably would once I was sure it was a “just sex” thing. ---
**Author:** ![Freddy\_the\_Pig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Freddy\_the\_Pig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freddy_the_Pig)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/46 "2010-01-13T17:03:40Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > My question was not so much, “Is it feasible that you would do such a thing?” But more like, “Don’t you consider them friends mainly because you have already set their ‘attractive’ quotient at a lower level?” No, most of my female friends are only friends because they’ve set _their_ attractive quotient for _me_ at a lower level. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/47 "2010-01-13T19:13:51Z")
Yes, and I have. But not when I’m in a relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/48 "2010-01-13T19:26:43Z")
Yes, assuming she’s single; if she’s not, then almost certainly not. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/49 "2010-01-13T19:39:56Z")
> [@Freddy\_the\_Pig](#): > > No, most of my female friends are only friends because they’ve set _their_ attractive quotient for _me_ at a lower level. Firstly, this. > [@Anaamika](#): > > Those of you who said not all of them, what’s stopping you from the others? In the cases I can think of, I have several friends who are (both genders but we’re discussing the) women who are nice enough to hang out with but also batshit crazy and/or drama prone. Given that if I was going to be doing this, they’d have to cope with my wife and open relationship, just no. Of course, the ones who are crazy in ways that would cause drama are also the ones most willing to return the “Yeah, I’d sleep with you” feeling. ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/50 "2010-01-13T19:59:10Z")
Absolutely. Most of my female friends are hot. ---
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/51 "2010-01-13T20:14:38Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Those of you who said not all of them, what’s stopping you from the others? Some of my female friends, even the hotter ones, are solidly in the “like a sister” zone, and it would be just creepy to sleep with them. I’ve even seen one of them naked, and while I was aware that I was seeing an attractive, stacked woman with nearly nothing on, I was also entirely confused by the fact that there wasn’t even a though of sexuality involved there. That was the first time I consciously aware that I could have attractive, even gorgeous, female friends and after a while there just wasn’t anything there. So, it’d be, for me at least, an issue of sexual attraction. Whether because I see them as family or they’re not physically to my liking, it’s a matter of sexual attraction. Before someone says “that’s not how you should think of women (in regards to physically to my liking)” – this is about _sex_, not a relationship. ETA: And anyone who’d pass up on the crazies/drama prone, doesn’t know what they’re missing. A screw loose in the head is a killer in the bed. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/52 "2010-01-13T20:39:56Z")
Back in college, I played the field, so I knew a few men who went back and forth between “friend” and “lover.” There was little distinction between the two beyond the obvious except as it related to MY circumstances. If I was in an exclusive relationship, they remained friends. If I wasn’t, then I was fine with physical intimacy. Of course, there were other guys who always remained friends because I simply wasn’t attracted to them in that way. Thinking to my current male friends, most of whom are husbands of my girlfriends, I’d say that if circumstances allowed it (e.g we were both single), I’d be fine sleeping with most of them. Generally speaking, if I like them well enough to hang out with, then I like them well enough to sleep with them. Attraction is attraction. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/53 "2010-01-13T21:22:45Z")
If it’s a girl I’d wanna screw without already being friends, then being friends would be no problem. ---
**Author:** ![dba\_Fred](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c37758/32.png) [@dba\_Fred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dba_Fred)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2010, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/54 "2010-01-13T21:47:35Z")
Yes and maybe even a few who are enemies 😉 ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/55 "2010-01-14T00:12:45Z")
This poll is why I don’t have straight male friends. I’m just not comfortable being ‘friends’ with someone who desires me sexually. A friendship to me is a relationship totally void of any sexual tension. Obviously (comparing myself to all the people I know) I’m way outside the norm on this one. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/56 "2010-01-14T00:22:47Z")
Never. ---
**Author:** ![Starving\_Artist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Starving\_Artist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starving_Artist)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/57 "2010-01-14T01:37:52Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > This poll is why I don’t have straight male friends. I’m just not comfortable being ‘friends’ with someone who desires me sexually. A friendship to me is a relationship totally void of any sexual tension. I don’t think that for most guys there’s all that much tension. More like if the chance arose they’d do it, but in the same way that they’d like to do any moderately appealing woman they see at the grocery store or sitting in traffic. Generally speaking, guys just want to do most of the women they see. Which reminds me of a song… _My eyes keep me in trouble, Want every woman I see…_ ~ r.l. burnside, _Wish I Was In Heaven Sitting Down_ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/58 "2010-01-14T04:26:42Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > This poll is why I don’t have straight male friends. I’m just not comfortable being ‘friends’ with someone who desires me sexually. A friendship to me is a relationship totally void of any sexual tension. > > Obviously (comparing myself to all the people I know) I’m way outside the norm on this one. 😉 I have plenty of straight females as friends, and there’s no sexual tension between us, even the ones I would sleep with. I don’t think men and women define sexual tension the same way, frankly. Or, at least you and I don’t define it the same way. ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/59 "2010-01-14T05:54:41Z")
> [@Todderbob](#): > > ETA: And anyone who’d pass up on the crazies/drama prone, doesn’t know what they’re missing. A screw loose in the head is a killer in the bed. 😛 Preach it! ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2010, 8:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562/60 "2010-01-14T08:44:18Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > This poll is why I don’t have straight male friends. I’m just not comfortable being ‘friends’ with someone who desires me sexually. You’re missing out. I don’t desire my female friends sexually. I wouldn’t ask any of them to sleep with me; but I wouldn’t pass up the opportunity if they asked to sleep with me. That the female is the initiator is the key difference. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-men-would-you-sleep-with-your-female-friends-if-they-asked-you/524562.md?page=4)