# Single straight women: If an Average Man in a Bar... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 10, 2010, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402 "2010-01-10T17:17:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/21 "2010-01-11T14:29:41Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > Have you ever been to a bar? I know the answer to that question: “No.” ---
**Author:** ![Gustav](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/919ad9/32.png) [@Gustav](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gustav)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/22 "2010-01-11T14:57:37Z")
> [@cuauhtemoc](#): > > There will be a difference in responses I’m sure. I think it’s because there’s a tendency for men to show more bravado, like “I’m brave and brash enough to do this crazy thing! Vulnerability? What’s that? I laugh in the face of danger! Ha!” > > Whereas there’s more of a tendency for women to advertise their restraint and discretion, and non-desperateness. But both the polls are anonymous 😕 ---
**Author:** ![dhkendall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a9adbd/32.png) [@dhkendall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dhkendall)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/23 "2010-01-11T15:19:34Z")
> [@cuauhtemoc](#): > > There will be a difference in responses I’m sure. I think it’s because there’s a tendency for men to show more bravado, like “I’m brave and brash enough to do this crazy thing! Vulnerability? What’s that? I laugh in the face of danger! Ha!” > > Whereas there’s more of a tendency for women to advertise their restraint and discretion, and non-desperateness. Wish I’d figured this out a while ago, my wife is the kind of woman who rarely comes out and says “I want sex” when she’s in the mood. She’d prefer to say that she’s not in the mood and let me figure out if she actually isn’t in the mood or not (I think part of the thrill of it for her is being “taken” when she said “no”. _Shrug_, beats me why some women want that but she isn’t the first woman I’ve encountered like that.) Can’t tell you how many years it toook me to figure out that “no” doesn’t always mean “no”, but it sometimes does mean “no”. (Disclaimer: in no way am I one of those boorish males who actually believe that “no doesn’t mean no”, if I don’t know a woman well enough (and I mean so well that I know her about as well as I know myself), I _always_ take “no” to mean “no”. If you’re a woman that actually wants to play that game, save it for when you can trust the person you’re with implicitly.) ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/24 "2010-01-11T22:22:34Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Can’t answer. I have no clue what an average man looks like or if I’m attracted to him. Probably not. What’s attractive about average? I don’t either. Plus one gal’s average is another’s, “Holy smokes.” Maybe this average man that some girls are turning down is like…my holy grail of men! ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/25 "2010-01-11T22:37:24Z")
> [@dhkendall](#): > > Can’t tell you how many years it toook me to figure out that “no” doesn’t always mean “no”, but it sometimes does mean “no”. Benny Hill as interviewer: “Is it true that when women say no, they really mean yes?” Woman: \ “No” ---
**Author:** ![Nancarrow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@Nancarrow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nancarrow)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402/26 "2010-01-11T23:04:19Z")
I see four women have voted Yes. So, which bars do you hang out at? Any in London? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/single-straight-women-if-an-average-man-in-a-bar/524402.md?page=1)