# Singles who want to marry; settle or wait for The One (or someone close)?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [May 17, 2013, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570 "2013-05-17T00:18:03Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\
**Post date:** [May 17, 2013, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570/21 "2013-05-17T14:41:54Z")

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It should be somewhere between settle and the right one. The right one is a pipe dream for most people. Simply settling is stupid and won’t last. Find a good one, then love the one you’re with.

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**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\
**Post date:** [May 17, 2013, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570/22 "2013-05-17T15:49:56Z")

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True love is at least as much _being_ the right person as _finding_ the right person.

Regards,  
Shodan

PS - In six days is our 31st anniversary.

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**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\
**Post date:** [May 17, 2013, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570/23 "2013-05-17T16:34:33Z")

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> [@Shodan](#):
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> True love is at least as much _being_ the right person as _finding_ the right person.
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> Regards,  
> Shodan
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> PS - In six days is our 31st anniversary.

Thank you and very well put. And after you find the right person you have to work even harder at being the right person. Sometimes it takes a bit of work, but it is worth it.

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**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\
**Post date:** [May 17, 2013, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/singles-who-want-to-marry-settle-or-wait-for-the-one-or-someone-close/658570/24 "2013-05-17T16:39:50Z")

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Congrats, Shodan.

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