So… you’re saying she’s single now??? 
Hey she was arrested in the past for hitting her boyfriend in the head with a hammer during an argument (which in retrospect probably accounts for such a high bail this time around), she’s all yours if you can get her out of my house.
Uh, no man. I figured I’d just crash on your couch.
Don’t worry, Dude. The dogs are really cool and mostly house-trained.
The same boyfriend? The head injury might explain why he thinks you might pay up.
Why is she in your house to begin with? Just because she’s your sister does not oblige you to give her shelter.
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Exactly so.
Sounds like on average you and the dogs joining the OP’s household would be a net improvement. Besides, that reduces the odds on the OP being the next hammering victim. There is more safety when you’re part of a larger herd of targets.
[/humorous sarcasm] in case that wasn’t obvious.
Seriously there @Asuka, you need to get this problem out of your life for good. It’s painful to do, but it’s even more painful to put up with.
And you are comfortable with her living in your home? Serious question. I’ve known some people with anger management issues and cannot imagine being able to sleep at night with them in my house.
The line the OP took is exactly the one I’d take I think. Absolutely my sibling with substance abuse problems (hypothetically, I don’t have a sibling with substance abuse problems) can stay in my house (there is no way being homeless with an alcohol problem will improve anything for them). But no effing way am I paying their bail.
I agree with other posters there is absolutely nothing, zip, bubkiss, the OP owes the ex, legally or morally. But a bail bondsman could show up at your door and try and convince you otherwise.
Just a friendly heads-up that the way you snipped SmartAleq’s quote makes it come across as the complete opposite of what they intended to post.
I have edited the quote.
Good advice. I speak from experience. Substance abusers will use you up emotionally and financially, and steal from you on top of it. They will make promises they never intend to keep and then blame you for their situation. You don’t have to cut her out of your life, but you can just say “no” to being used.
I was wondering the same thing. I think I’d house my penniless drug-abusing sibling, but not if they were violent. I’d be afraid to.
Did she show up for trial/hearing? If so, the ex got back the $4000 less the bondsman’s vigorish.
I hope “vigorish” isn’t offensive, but perhaps the “Vigors” or “Vigorians” will take issue.
That’s not how it works. Either:
Ex puts up the whole $40k and then gets it back when she shows up.
or
Ex pays bondsman $4k, the bondsman puts up $40k and the bondsman gets it back when she shows up. The ex doesn’t get anything. This is how the bondsman makes money.
If the OP is not dead certain that all terms of the bond have been performed and the bondsman has gotten his $40K back from the court, the OP really needs to a) get Sis out of his house, and b) ensure Big Bad Bob of Big Bad Bob’s Bail Bonds knows that she doesn’t live there anymore.
Otherwise a pissed-off ex-boyfriend with brain damage may be the least of his challenges.
Regarding the question of him suing: presumably he will need a lawyer, at least to file the initial paperwork for him. A lawyer will ask him what documentation he has that you agreed to pay. He has none. The lawyer should advise him at that point that he has no chance of winning and to drop it.
Not all lawyers are scrupulously honest of course, but most won’t take a case they know is a loser if there is no money in it. Doesn’t sound like he has unlimited funds to pursue frivolous court actions.
My mistake. the $4k is the non-refundable insurance policy premium paid to the bailbondsman.