I’d agree with this. Seems like you are an enabler for her alcoholic & anger-issues lifestyle. Unless you are making sure that she is receiving counseling or treatment for these issues while in your house, she’d probably be better off in prison, where there is treatment offered.
And on a lawsuit against you, you should easily win in court. Even a small-claims court. But if she gets back together with that ex-boyfriend (which is pretty common), she might tell the Judge that you did agree to pay the bail. You should still win, but that could make it harder.
Addiction is hard. I had an alcoholic relative. The family did what they could, but addiction issues meant she couldn’t be trusted in the house. She moved in with various men, but as her addiction took its course, the kind of men who would provide her a home decreased in quality until she was homeless. She died on the streets in her 40s.
Enabling the sister will come at a great cost, but may provide a buffer from the worst of the addiction until it can take its physical toll in its own course.
No good options, but sometimes making the sacrifice for your own conscience, while technically enabling the addiction, isn’t the wrong choice. I don’t think my family’s choice to let my cousin’s own choices take her life was wrong, either, though it’s very sad (and all sorts of support was offered to help fight the addiction). Some people recover from addiction, but many do not.
In this case, we don’t even know that the sister’s DUIs are in that category, though it’s a fair guess given what’s been said.
What? He’s not keeping his sister out of prison, he’s presumably keeping her from sleeping under a bridge, or having to accept abuse and exploitation in return for a place to sleep. The alternative is not some safe, dry protected place with treatment.
This is just not a decision that we can possibly second-guess.
“Dear Sister’s ex-Boyfriend,
You should consider yourself lucky. Sometimes the School of Hard Knocks charges far higher tuition than that.
Sincerely,
Asuka”
I watch a few YouTube video channels by attorneys who show crazy court moments. I’m really impressed with how thick-skinned many of the judges are and I’m confident that I would send most of these people off to jail for contempt. It was definitely not the career for me.
You develop the ability to essentially go into suspended animation - ignoring all of the irrelevant and potentially irritating blather, yet alert enough to ay/do what absolutely needs to be done/said. A thick skin, a strong bladder, and a tolerance for tedium - perhaps the 3 greatest requirements for being a judge.
It also helps to be secure in the knowledge that at the end of the day, Your Word is Law. Theirs is just noise. And you’ve got the dudes with the guns standing there nearby.