# Skinny bitches... **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 14, 2007, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063 "2007-05-14T17:36:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/21 "2007-05-14T19:27:53Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Really “Ew, are you anorexic?!?!” is a moronic thing to say to anyone. Jesus - what would the person do if you said “Yes.”? [/QUOTE] Well, while I’d never ask the question, it would be kinda neat if I could do some good by having the anorexic eat for me whenever I had a noshies attack, and I’d only get to eat when the anorexic actually wanted to eat. We’d both end up with less FUBARed bodies. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/22 "2007-05-14T19:33:16Z")
[QUOTE=Auntbeast] I only gain weight from the elbows in and the knees up. While I am thin and tall, I really don’t carry weight very well. At any recommended weight, I look very thick through the middle. Stick a few toothpicks in a tennis ball and you get the idea. The only time in my life I ever fit on those ideal weight charts when I was, by all accounts, fat. Of course, that was when my husbands mother and sister accepted me the most. Now I have the nerve of being skinny AND recently pregnant. Since you know, you are supposed to keep that baby weight on. [/QUOTE] Are you sure you didn’t get adopted out of my family? The “two toothpicks in a maypop” look is a family trait. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/23 "2007-05-14T19:33:40Z")
[QUOTE=Auntbeast] You don’t get to say shit to me because I’m thin, any more than I get to say shit to you about you being fat. [/QUOTE] You know, I really think that some people need to be told in exactly those words before they get it. ---
**Author:** ![velvetjones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5f9b8f/32.png) [@velvetjones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velvetjones)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/24 "2007-05-14T19:34:35Z")
My husband learned this really nifty phrase at some kind of self-improvment movement he attended back in the 80s. I think it will work perfectly in your case. “Thank you for caring. Fuck you for sharing.” Pretty much sums it up for many situations. I invite you to try it. If you say it often enough to the offending parties you don’t even need to add the second half, a simple “thank you for caring” with a knowing smile and they’ll fill in the rest of the phrase in their minds. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/25 "2007-05-14T19:47:42Z")
Here’s how you should reply to these people. **Them:** Oh, I so wish I was skinny like you! I wish I could eat anything I wanted and look like that! **You:** Oh no no no, I wish _I_ was like _you_! I really wish I had the self-confidence to not care what other people thought of me so I could eat anything I wanted. Seriously, it’s been so long since I had a Big Mac, I can’t even remember all the ingredients! Two all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce…dammit! What comes after the lettuce? Then walk away muttering under your breath. I guarantee you your weight will never be mentioned (to your face) ever again. ---
**Author:** ![Folly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/folly/32/3219_2.png) [@Folly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Folly)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/26 "2007-05-14T19:58:03Z")
[QUOTE=featherlou] How the heck did you make musical notes? [/QUOTE] Ascii 13. Hold down ALT , then 1 and 3 on the keypad. ♪♪♪ ---
**Author:** ![brewha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@brewha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brewha)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/27 "2007-05-14T20:12:48Z")
♪♪♪♪♪ - Just to see if I can. Wheee! As to the OP, I don’t get the comments very often, but it pisses me off when I do. I recently talking to someone about quitting smoking. She said that she is afraid to quit because she might gain weight. Then she gave me an up and down look and said “Not that that is something you have to worry about”. Ok I’m a guy so physical comments don’t bother me too much. She was insinuating that I’m not fat. She’s right, I’m not, but it’s not something I don’t worry about. I spend 3-4 hours a week in at the gym, I watch what I eat. It just pissed me off that she assumed that I am not fat out of pure luck. FWIW, I’ve since quit smoking (32 days!) and I’m up about 5lbs, but a few extra pounds is better than sooty lungs IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/28 "2007-05-14T21:32:52Z")
Hey guys get this too: _“How come you’re so skinny” “You should work out” “you need to gain weight” “Do you play basketball?”_ “No I don’t play golf either”,is my usual response. ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/29 "2007-05-14T22:04:00Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Preach it sister. Really “Ew, are you anorexic?!?!” is a moronic thing to say to anyone. Jesus - what would the person do if you said “Yes.”? [/QUOTE] Just say, “No I’m dying of cancer, how’re you doing?” ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Machine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Ice\_Machine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Machine)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/30 "2007-05-14T22:27:53Z")
Instead of being told she’s too skinny my wife gets told by her family that she’s fat and needs to lose weight all the time. However, she’s something like 5’ 5" and about 120 lbs and a size 4. Oh, we also have an almost 6 month old. She used to be a size 0 or something when we first met. She lets these comments get to her and starts believing them which is the most annoying thing about it. They also say the same about me but I do need to lose about 10 lbs or so (still hardly in the “fat” category and it would still be rude to say if I was). ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [May 14, 2007, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/31 "2007-05-14T22:34:17Z")
[QUOTE=BMalion] Just say, “No I’m dying of cancer, how’re you doing?” [/QUOTE] That’s what my daughter said to a woman at the grocery store. ‘How do you stay so thin?’ ‘I have cancer.’ Shut her right up. But then she felt bad, using cancer as a snap. I don’t mind people telling me I’m thin, because that’s usually all they say. I don’t get the “Why don’t you eat?” or “Are you sick?” crap. I **would** like to tell these folks that it’s **not** easy to buy clothes. Thin usually means hips, butt, and thighs like a little boy, and women’s pants are made for people with 28 inch waists and 36 inch hips. ---
**Author:** ![stretch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a6a055/32.png) [@stretch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stretch)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/32 "2007-05-15T00:22:59Z")
I used to feel your pain. After I had two kids, but before I left my first husband, I was 5’ 7" and 106 pounds. Some people thought I looked bad, but mostly I got the “you’re so skinny” stuff. Now at 5’ 6 1/2" (I shrank) and 150 pounds, I still get people saying I’m skinny. WTF? I wear a 14. I’m not skinny at all. As I always say, people are assholes. ---
**Author:** ![Rubystreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Rubystreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rubystreak)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/33 "2007-05-15T00:38:08Z")
I’m sorry people commented rudely on your appearance on Mother’s Day. Fucking jerks. I don’t know if it comforts you any, but most of the people commenting on your body shape are jealous. That’s really what it comes down to-- they wish they were a skinny bitch (but one out of two ain’t bad, right?). Just for the sake of perspective: when people comment on fat people’s weight, they generally actually are disgusted, not jealous. It’s mean and wrong to comment on someone’s appearance regardless of the motivation, but at least you can reassure yourself that you are healthy, you can wear normal clothes and look decent. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be pissed off when assholes are rude to you, but I do think fat people have it worse, overall. ---
**Author:** ![kidchameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/34 "2007-05-15T00:46:03Z")
Just be thankful you aren’t an actress. Then you’d get comments about how you’re a poor role model, have a pre-pubecent body and aren’t attractive. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/35 "2007-05-15T01:57:27Z")
Every time I see someone here, or elsewhere, comment towards someone who is thin something along the lines of “Eat a sandwich!” I think to myself how these same people would never be caught dead saying “Lose some weight!” to anybody. Somehow, being offensive to the overweight is not tolerated, even tangentially, while being similarly offensive to the underweight is perfectly acceptable. ---
**Author:** ![shamrock227](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@shamrock227](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shamrock227)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/36 "2007-05-15T02:00:10Z")
You’re just bitchy because you’re hungry. Go eat a sandwich or something and drag your skinny ass outta here. 😉 [QUOTE=AuntiePam] I **would** like to tell these folks that it’s **not** easy to buy clothes. Thin usually means hips, butt, and thighs like a little boy, and women’s pants are made for people with 28 inch waists and 36 inch hips. [/QUOTE] Where do you shop? Absolutely every single pair of pants I try, if they fit my hips they are HUGE in the waist. I am so god damned tired of walking around with a gap I could smuggle a DVD player in (or getting everything tailored). (If you think skinny is hard to fit trying being 5 feet tall with a big chest, butt to match, and a tiny waist - THAT is a bitch to find clothes for). ---
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/37 "2007-05-15T02:03:25Z")
[QUOTE=GuanoLad] Somehow, being offensive to the overweight is not tolerated, even tangentially… [/QUOTE] Dude, that is so not my experience. I’ve had complete strangers calling me “Shamu.” Honestly, I think there are a lot of small-minded people of all sizes who like to knock people down who appear different than the norm. Too large, too small, too anything is all fair game to these people. They may not always be the same people, but they’re all siblings under the skin. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/38 "2007-05-15T02:53:28Z")
[QUOTE=OtakuLoki] Dude, that is so not my experience. I’ve had complete strangers calling me “Shamu.” [/QUOTE] But people will get upset about that kind of thing, and stand up and shout how awful it is that such a thing would happen. The same does not happen for the skinny, and in fact those people who would stand up and support the larger person will often be the same ones who turn around and insult the thin. That’s where the double standard lies - that too many people think it’s perfectly fine to loudly comment on what a skinny person does or does not eat, and they don’t realise it can be rude and insulting to do that. ---
**Author:** ![Rhubarb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/59ef9b/32.png) [@Rhubarb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhubarb)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/39 "2007-05-15T02:59:27Z")
And for an almost completely, but not quite non-sequitur, “skinny bitches” is what my BIL calls hot dogs (of the frankfurter variety). Although, more _en pointe_, he never (to my knowledge) calls women that, because he’s married to one. Except for the bitch part. Most of the time. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2007, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063/40 "2007-05-15T04:31:48Z")
[QUOTE=kidchameleon] Just be thankful you aren’t an actress. Then you’d get comments about how you’re a poor role model, have a pre-pubecent body and aren’t attractive. :rolleyes: [/QUOTE] Nah, that’s how much sexier she’d be than Marilyn Monroe. (For those who don’t know **kidchameleon** is referencing a past thread that was a rant about how someone allegedly characterized MM as fat and Nicole Kidman as ideal.) Someone has to take another side here. Sure it was rude of family to make those comments but hey that’s what family does. Don’t worry, they’ll soon move on to telling you about how you are parenting all wrong. And telling you that your kids eat too much or too little and are out of control. [Phoney smile]"Why thank you for the concern dear![/Phoney smile and turn away] No matter how thin you are (or not) you need a thick hide at family gatherings! And you are stuck with them now. Could be jealousy. Could be they are a bit ignorant and see your loss of post-partum weight to your usual baseline as a bigger change than that and are honestly worried that you _might_ be anorectic or otherwise ill. If so, would there _be_ an accpetable way to express that? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/skinny-bitches/404063.md?page=3)