# Smoking after sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 26, 2017, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817 "2017-11-26T23:37:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/21 "2017-11-27T07:54:44Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > God yes! I quit smoking years ago and this is the only time I still miss it. > It’s like a bonding experience. It promotes communal exchange, where as otherwise (unless you are a new couple) you’re more likely to turn on the TV and fall asleep shortly afterwords. > The cigarette helps promote “pillow talk”. Only except the pillow talk in this case tends to be more sincere. YMMV. Seconded although I was the lone smoker in some of the relationships. ---
**Author:** ![standingwave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de0a6/32.png) [@standingwave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/standingwave)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/22 "2017-11-27T08:14:51Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > It is not unusual for one partner of either sex to suggest the other partner lay back and have a smoke while enjoying some oral sex. “Mind if I smoke while you’re eating?” ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/23 "2017-11-27T08:45:00Z")
> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#): > > It is not unusual for one partner of either sex to suggest the other partner lay back and have a smoke while enjoying some oral sex. > [@standingwave](#): > > “Mind if I smoke while you’re eating?” And true to **Joey P** ’s supposition, Miss Sharp _did_ look bored. ---
**Author:** ![Les\_Espaces\_Du\_Sommeil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/les_espaces_du_sommeil/32/308_2.png) [@Les\_Espaces\_Du\_Sommeil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Les_Espaces_Du_Sommeil)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/24 "2017-11-27T12:11:38Z")
> [@SamuelA](#): > > Well, in _my_ experience, it’s simply that smokers need a hit every hourly (or even more often), and by the time all the stages of sex are complete, it’s about time for a smoke. (I don’t smoke, but sometimes my partner has smoked) On the other hand, while I’ve never smoked, I used to crave salty food after sex. Chorizo, for instance. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/25 "2017-11-27T12:17:13Z")
Billy Collins’ poem, [_The Best Cigarrette_](https://www.poemhunter.com/poem/the-best-cigarette/) is a must-read accompaniement to this thread. Here’s a taste: > [@](#): > > There are many that I miss > having sent my last one out a car window > sparking along the road one night, years ago. > > The heralded one, of course: > after sex, the two glowing tips > now the lights of a single ship; > at the end of a long dinner > with more wine to come > and a smoke ring coasting into the chandelier; > or on a white beach, > holding one with fingers still wet from a swim. > > … ---
**Author:** ![filmstar-en](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/50afbb/32.png) [@filmstar-en](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/filmstar-en)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/26 "2017-11-27T12:30:10Z")
Slang in this area could lead to some unfortunate misunderstandings. In the UK the slang for a cigarette is a ‘fag’. It is quite common to for people to casually discuss their smoking habit in these terms. ‘How many fags a day do you smoke’ is a perfectly innocent question in polite conversation. However, this does not translate well to a New York restaurant. In the other direction hearing an American worrying about the tipping custom and how to avoid ‘stiffing the waiter’ sounds like a very peculiar custom to British ears. The countries separated by a common language.😃 ---
**Author:** ![CastletonSnob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ea924/32.png) [@CastletonSnob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CastletonSnob)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/27 "2017-11-27T14:16:13Z")
> [@Spoons](#): > > This exactly. > > You finished the yardwork? You had a smoke. > You had a swim? You had a smoke. > You dropped the kids off at school? You had a smoke. > You bought something at the mall? You had a smoke. > You just had sex? You had a smoke. > > Smoking was the norm in those days. Smoking was more socially acceptable back then. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/28 "2017-11-27T16:53:17Z")
> [@filmstar-en](#): > > However, this does not translate well to a New York restaurant. True, but pretty much everyone is aware, I think, that “fag” = “cigarette,” especially if heard in an English accent, and especially in New York. The one that tripped me up was “I could murder a fag.” (Mean, I’m really jonesing for a smoke.) ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/29 "2017-11-27T19:13:36Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Billy Collins’ poem, [_The Best Cigarrette_](https://www.poemhunter.com/poem/the-best-cigarette/) is a must-read accompaniement to this thread. One good poem deserves another: Forough Farrokhzad’s poem “[Another Birth](http://poemsintranslation.blogspot.com/2010/02/forugh-farrokhzad-rebirth-from-persian.html)” has the line زندگی شاید افروختن سیگاری باشد ، در فاصلهء رخوتناک دو همآغوشی _Life may be a cigarette lighting Up in the narcotic pause between two lovemakings_ Her poem “Couple” goes: شب میآید و پس از شب، تاریکی پس از تاریکی چشمها دستها و نفسها و نفسها و نفسها … … بعد دو نقطه سرخ از دو سیگار روشن … _Evening comes And after evening – the dark And after the dark Eyes Hands And breathing and breathing and breathing … Then two red points Of two lit cigarettes_ … ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/30 "2017-11-27T19:44:44Z")
One does wonder who was the first to think “We’re in bed, naked, after great sex. Now let’s light a fire or two and hold them such that the red hot embers can fall gently on our nether regions. Fun!”. Maybe it was the same person who said “I’m so hungry I’m going to eat the next thing that comes out of that chicken’s butt.” ---
**Author:** ![Sparky812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb9ed0/32.png) [@Sparky812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky812)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/31 "2017-11-27T19:55:12Z")
As a former smoker, I’d also agree that the post-coital smoke was pretty satisfying especially shared with your partner, just don’t have the ashtray on your chest when you butt it out. :eek: > [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Maybe it was the same person who said “I’m so hungry I’m going to eat the next thing that comes out of that chicken’s butt.” ???😕 If you mean an egg, you’ve weren’t paying attention in biology class. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/32 "2017-11-27T19:56:01Z")
> [@Johanna](#): > > One good poem deserves another: Thank you! And Shine on! ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/33 "2017-11-27T20:54:36Z")
I haven’t smoked indoors for 30 years, so I don’t associate smoking with post coital bliss – not directly – but the truth is by the time we’ve prepped the set and ground it out and cleaned up the mess, I’m about due for a smoke, out on the deck. ---
**Author:** ![StrTrkr777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@StrTrkr777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StrTrkr777)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2017, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/34 "2017-11-27T21:03:37Z")
This topic reminds me of a scene in a movie called “Real Men”. It starred John Ritter and Jim Belushi. In it, Jim is a CIA agent and John is just a regular Joe. John gets ropped into spy stuff and both are getting shot at by a Russian agent. Jim says he knows her and is going to try to work it out. They go into another room and Jim comes out smoking a cigarette. John says “I did not know you smoked. Those things will kill you.” Jim replies “I only smoke after sex.” John says “Oh ok, not that often then.” Jim says “Only about a pack a day.” ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/35 "2017-11-28T16:40:58Z")
> [@Sparky812](#): > > ???😕 If you mean an egg, you’ve weren’t paying attention in biology class. It’s called “humor” and has no basis in biological correctness. Of course, I doubt the Neanderthal that first discovered eggs were good eating knew of a cloaca either. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Gary\_T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_T)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/36 "2017-11-28T17:07:13Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Maybe it was the same person who said “I’m so hungry I’m going to eat the next thing that comes out of that chicken’s butt.” > [@Sparky812](#): > > ???😕 If you mean an egg, you’ve weren’t paying attention in biology class. Now I’m confused. Unless I’m sadly mistaken, eggs and poop come out of the same opening. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb9ed0/32.png) [@Sparky812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky812)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/37 "2017-11-28T19:47:15Z")
> [@Gary\_T](#): > > Now I’m confused. Unless I’m sadly mistaken, eggs and poop come out of the same opening. Well, yes and no. Here’s a [good illustration](https://badscidebunked.files.wordpress.com/2014/11/untitled.jpg) Here’s the [straight dope](https://badscidebunked.wordpress.com/category/hoaxes/) on it: > [@](#): > > Chicken Eggs > Most people don’t like to think about this one. Eggs don’t come out of the chicken’s butt, but, “geographically”, it’s close. Fortunately, the end result is a sterile egg: (1) The hen has one hole exposed to the outside world, known as the vent. (2) Both poop and the egg must exit this hole. (3) But when the hen lays an egg, the oviduct extends outside of the hole–like a glove–shielding the egg from poop. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/38 "2017-11-28T19:53:22Z")
> [@Sparky812](#): > > Well, yes and no. > > Here’s a [good illustration](https://badscidebunked.files.wordpress.com/2014/11/untitled.jpg) > > Here’s the [straight dope](https://badscidebunked.wordpress.com/category/hoaxes/) on it: Wow. Lifelong learning at the Straight Dope. Good post. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2017, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817/39 "2017-11-28T21:09:16Z")
I’ve collected poopy eggs, though, so it’s not a perfect system. Snakes and other reptiles also have a vent. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/smoking-after-sex/802817.md?page=1)