# So a married woman............ **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 28, 2009, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634 "2009-04-28T16:56:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/21 "2009-04-29T14:54:56Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > I pay zero attention to a ring on that finger. Dude, if you can work your mojo with women while you’re covered in bees, I would say you have gotten way past their marriage status in terms of overcoming obstacles. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/22 "2009-04-29T15:59:25Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > Back in my younger days, I used to get a reasonable amount of action when I was single. But if I had taken the ladies up on the offers I got when I was married and wearing a ring, the skin on my johnson would have been charred from friction. > > What is so special about a married guy to the single wimminz? It happens to a lot of people. There’s even a song from a musical about it… > [@The Last Five Years](#): > > Everyone tells you that the minute you get married > Every other woman in the world > Suddenly finds you attractive > Well, that’s not true > It only affects the kind of women > You always wanted to sleeep with > But they wouldn’t give you the time of day before > And now they’re banging down your door > And falling to their knees > At least that’s what it feels like because you > Can > Not > Touch > Them > In fact, you can’t even look at them > Close your eyes, close your eyes, close your eyes > Except you’re sitting there > Eating your corned beef sandwich > And all of a sudden, this pair of breasts walks by > And smiles at you > And you’re like “That’s not fair!” ---
**Author:** ![buttonjockey308](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@buttonjockey308](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buttonjockey308)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/23 "2009-04-29T16:27:11Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > She’s not concerned with whether or not it’s right or wrong for her to have sex with someone she picks up in a bar, and she’s being very plain about the fact that she’s not going to hide her married status, which by extension means she’s looking for someone else to whom that also doesn’t matter. Yep. The question is whether or not you care. If you don’t, hit that shit like a car crash. If you do care, say no thanks and move on. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/24 "2009-04-29T16:29:46Z")
> [@drastic\_quench](#): > > Eh, the promises that come with a wedding ring are between the husband and wife - they don’t spill over into the general population. I disagree completely. I felt bad for months after I found out that a guy I’d gone to dinner with was married. I found out from another woman in the bathroom of the restaurant, and just left by the side door. I wanted to apologize to the wife but a friend convinced me that since there was no sex, there was no point in telling her. Still wish I’d told her what that scum was up to. > [@](#): > > Why? To prove that they could, of course: they had no interest in the guy, just in getting their trophy by making him break up with his gf or have a huge public row with the wife This is in line with my experience. Though I really don’t hang out with the type of women who do this, I have known a few peripherally. They are into the whole competition and status thing. It’s this imaginary world where it’s hard to get a man to have sex with you, and only those women who are extremely attractive can convince a man to do it with them - more so if he’s in a committed relationship. In this universe (which, come to think of it, would make a GREAT comic book genre) if you get a married man to have sex with you then you are de facto more attractive than his wife, and have “Won”. These women spend enormous amounts of time on hair and makeup in order to be first in line to be used by some lying SOB at the bar on Saturday night. It’s a sad existence, but then so is any existence based on the achievement of physical sensation. Bravo AK! It’s nice to hear there are still men of integrity out there! ---
**Author:** ![Cisco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Cisco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cisco)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/25 "2009-04-29T16:44:52Z")
> [@KneadToKnow](#): > > I can’t believe I’m the first person to mention the possibility of an open marriage. Read the very first response. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/26 "2009-04-29T16:46:01Z")
Also, have you considered the possibility that she was a professional? ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2009, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/27 "2009-04-29T16:48:36Z")
She’s a grown woman, it’s not your responsibility to be looking out for her relationship decisions. Who knows what her situation is - for all you know her husband is gay. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 10:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/28 "2009-04-30T10:27:02Z")
[QUOTE=drastic\_quench] I’m with a crowd that appreciates the honestly with which this women conducted her deception. It’s so rare and forward to have all those cards on the table, and if anything I’d think more of her for it. Here’s a women who chooses only to lie to one man - call it the lesser evil, but there’s an ironic integrity there that I dig. [/QUOTE] _Honesty_ with which she conducted her _deception_? ---
**Author:** ![Lust4Life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecc23a/32.png) [@Lust4Life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lust4Life)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2009, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634/29 "2009-04-30T13:11:49Z")
Its not uncommon for “working women” to work London hotels,they tend to be at the upper end of the spectrum of call girls and usually make a connection with a guest and then when it gets close to fun time they reveal that they are businesswomen. You may be surprised to find that most of the punters dont get upset and walk away because the women themselves are personable,well spoken and intelligent. If this woman was a WG the ring would be to deter those men looking for a relationship at the very outset to save wasting time(is money). If you were working at the hotel then this woman would have been someone for real just looking for strings free sex as if you haven’t got money then the WGs wont touch you with a bargepole. Before anyone asks do I/have I enjoyed the company of these women? The answer is on the pittance I earn most definitely no though I have from time to time passed the time of day with them with both of us knowing that I wasn’t a potential customer. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-a-married-woman/494634.md?page=1)