# So, did I pop her cherry or not? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 14, 2003, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558 "2003-04-14T04:45:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Phax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Phax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phax)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/1 "2003-04-14T04:45:00Z")
I met a girl when I was 16. We went out a few times, nothing much happened. About a year later, we ran into each other by accident. We started talking; one thing led to another and we ended up spending most of the day together. I was the only kid still living at home and my parents were out of town for the weekend. We had a rather old dog who couldn’t hold his bladder more than about six hours, so I had to get home to let him out. I invited her to the house and she accepted. I swear, I had no intentions of doing anything but letting the dog out. Anyway, after the dog did his thing, it was mid-evening and we decided to watch TV. It wasn’t too long before we were making out; and she was actually being much more agressive than me. We eventually went to my bedroom, had alot of foreplay, then had sex. When we were done, I was shocked to see a lot of blood all over the sheets. Being 17, I was really classless and just blurted out something like “Jeez, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize you were a virgin.” At that point, she was obviously embarrased, but denied that she was a virgin, though she never offered an explaination for the blood. She went on to say that she had had sex with her previous boyfriend several times. We dated about a month and had intercourse about a dozen times. Never again did she bleed. I’m sure she wasn’t having her period, as she wasn’t wearing a tampon and there was no blood on my hands, even though we did a fair amount of foreplay. I guess I’ve always assumed I popped her cherry and she denied it because of my rather classless way of asking her. I guess my question is - is it possible that she was not a virgin, but had not had her cherry popped yet? Or, would there be any other reason that a woman would bleed down there? (besides giving birth or surgery, etc; which obviously wasn’t happening). ---
**Author:** ![Spacegirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@Spacegirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spacegirl)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/2 "2003-04-14T04:58:43Z")
Yes, it is possible that she was not a virgin, yet had not had her “cherry popped.” The hymen does not always break the first time a girl has sex. ---
**Author:** ![Lissa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lissa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissa)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/3 "2003-04-14T05:08:24Z")
Some women’s hymens never break, only stretch to accomodate the penis. In talking to a few women about this, a couple have told me that they never bled. ---
**Author:** ![zoogirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b9bd4f/32.png) [@zoogirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoogirl)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/4 "2003-04-14T05:27:06Z")
If she’d only had sex a couple of times, and it was fairly recent, it’s possible that the torn hyman might bleed again if it wasn’t fully healed. I seem to remember bleeding the first few times. Unexplained vaginal bleeding could be serious. Do you know where/how she is now? I believe it can be a sign of some cancers, but my medical knowledge mostly comes from the Reader’s Digest. Still, I wouldn’t mess around with something like that. ---
**Author:** ![sivispacem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b19c9b/32.png) [@sivispacem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sivispacem)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/5 "2003-04-14T06:22:11Z")
Back in high school my health teacher tried to convince us that hymens don’t bleed - when a girl has sex for the first time she’s usually unprepared/nervous and therefor not lubricated enough, so the blood is actually just from vaginal chafage. Since sex is so mental for women (guess you could read that a few ways), unless they’re psychologically into it things don’t come together right. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/6 "2003-04-14T16:37:41Z")
It’s also possible that she started her period while you were having sex. It’s happened to me (to be exact, my partner) several times. ---
**Author:** ![roadrunner70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e19b73/32.png) [@roadrunner70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roadrunner70)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/7 "2003-04-14T16:46:52Z")
I’ve started a _bunch_ of my wife’s periods that way. Did you look down and say “I’ve been shot!”? They always like that… ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/8 "2003-04-14T16:59:03Z")
I knew a lady who still had a hymen after having two children. Not to be confused with Hymen. ---
**Author:** ![Thinks2Much](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Thinks2Much](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thinks2Much)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/9 "2003-04-14T17:09:21Z")
I have bled for no particular reason from intercourse every once in a while - maybe every 6 months or so. I have a very sensitive cervix. I also sometimes have what is called break-through bleeding - 7 days before a woman’s period is due, progesterone levels dip (which is the hormone that keeps a period from coming), and if you don’t have a whole lot of it to begin with, you can get breakthrough bleeding. Sex definitely brings on my period and makes breakthrough bleeding worse. Not sure why… So I would say no, I don’t think you popped her cherry. ---
**Author:** ![IrishRideGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b4bc9f/32.png) [@IrishRideGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IrishRideGirl)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/10 "2003-04-14T18:04:37Z")
Sometimes excellent sex will start my period. Perhaps that is what happened. ---
**Author:** ![In\_Conceivable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/4bbf92/32.png) [@In\_Conceivable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/In_Conceivable)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/11 "2003-04-14T18:11:37Z")
Sex will sometimes start my period too. If there was a lot of blood that is probably what happened. She was probably too embarassed to talk about it. At 17 with a new guy I would have been. ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2003, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-did-i-pop-her-cherry-or-not/168558/12 "2003-04-14T19:35:29Z")
She also could have had a cervical cyst. That’s a cyst that forms on the cervix and, during sex, can get um…knocked around and start to bleed. I speak from experience (the guys side).