# So do people just blindly ask for friends on Myspace? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 7, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270 "2009-01-07T19:53:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/1 "2009-01-07T19:53:00Z")
I’m fairly new to Myspace. What I don’t get is why do some people ask to be my friend even tho’ they have absolutely nothing in common with me? I get that some of these people are “models” just looking to get clicks on their webpage. Some aren’t tho. For instance; click the link below. This girl asked to be my friend. She’s an attractive 18yo and I’m a 38yo with kids. Why is she making this request? This isn’t an isolated incident either. I get several similar request like this. [http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=264931605](http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=264931605) ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2009, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/2 "2009-01-07T20:17:19Z")
Most of that is spam. ---
**Author:** ![Elyanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b5ac83/32.png) [@Elyanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elyanna)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/3 "2009-01-07T20:22:41Z")
If she’s real, it’s for the friend count. “Look at me! I’m popular!” But she’s probably fake. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2009, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/4 "2009-01-07T21:02:42Z")
Yes, so much spam on there I found that I had to enable the setting that a person friending me had to know my name. ---
**Author:** ![susan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/susan/32/17537_2.png) [@susan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/susan)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/5 "2009-01-08T02:00:00Z")
Many are “friend collectors.” They don’t care who you are-you’re just a notch on the bedpost, so to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/6 "2009-01-08T02:58:47Z")
I’ve gotten a few of these. Sometimes I go ahead and accept them and then just forget about them unless they get annoying. One that stood out, though, was a guy who friended me a couple of months ago. It was some Japanese guy I’d never heard of, but I though maybe he was a co-worker of somebody I knew or perhaps one of our clients, so I accepted him. A few days later I received a notice that he’d also friended an old classmate of mine who’s now semi-famous in Japan. A couple of weeks later I hear my wife scream from the computer room. She’d been looking at my Facebook page and saw I was friends with this guy, who turned out to be a pretty well-known singer and pianist (he’s performed a few times in the big New Year’s Eve concert on TV here). At this point I looked at just who else was on his friend list, and very quickly a pattern emerged. Almost everyone on his list (like 95%+) met the following criteria: A)located in Japan, and B)networked with either a top-level university or a top-level company. He was using Facebook as a free advertising strategy: he’s periodically post a video of one of his performances to his page, and Facebook would automatically send out a notice to the 400-odd people he’d selected as most likely to be well-connected. Sneaky, but clever. I’d feel used except the guy’s a pretty good musician. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/7 "2009-01-08T03:41:49Z")
There was a Wally story years ago that’s appropriate for this thread. Turns out he didn’t really write it, but funny nonetheless. And then the poor guy got cacked on the head with a steam shovel, or something. ---
**Author:** ![Leiko](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Leiko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leiko)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/8 "2009-01-08T03:56:46Z")
I’ve noticed that besides the random classmates I barely remember, the spam girls, the bands, and the tshirt makers, I sometimes get requests from people who know my friends. This happens especially through friends who are semi-well-known, mostly my friend Colin, aka Raven Digitalis. I’m not in his top 40 displayed on his profile, and he has something like 4500 MySpace friends, but I still get friends request that seem to have found me through him. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2009, 7:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-do-people-just-blindly-ask-for-friends-on-myspace/480270/9 "2009-01-08T07:20:37Z")
Hey, it’s your choice not to Friend her but you’re missing out on knowing someone who is friends with both “Ellie:) LovesFred.” _and_ “BaybiiKirstyLovesRonnieBaybiieSoMuch…”