# So, How great was your Threesome? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 16, 2001, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257 "2001-03-16T17:38:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![cerebrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3da27b/32.png) [@cerebrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerebrum)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/1 "2001-03-16T17:38:21Z")
Its story time… btw I didnt have one yet…just curious 😃 ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/2 "2001-03-16T17:45:22Z")
Met a Scandinavian couple at Orient Beach in St. Martin. They spoke very little English, I spoke very little Swedish/Norwegian/whatever. Didn’t seem to matter much. A good time as had by all. That’s enough of that story. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/3 "2001-03-16T17:51:26Z")
The one I made up in my head featuring Hugh Jackman and Gary Sinise? Or an actual one? jarbaby ---
**Author:** ![cerebrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3da27b/32.png) [@cerebrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerebrum)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/4 "2001-03-16T18:01:03Z")
/pad a real one please Jarbaby 😃 /endpad ---
**Author:** ![Gravity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gravity/32/14322_2.png) [@Gravity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gravity)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/5 "2001-03-16T18:01:12Z")
If you’re not planning to do it as a one night stand, I don’t reccomend it. I slept with my best friend of 4 years and his wife, and it ended very badly. It was absolutely in no way worth it. And when it was over he claimed that I’d never been his friend in the first place, I’d just been pretending for 7 years. Of course, that’s probably more of a caution against sleeping with friends than threesomes, specifically. The biggest thing was that I don’t loosen up easily, and I was pretty much terrified that I’d do something wrong. I’m just not a good candidate for adveturous sex, I guess. K. ---
**Author:** ![Who\_me\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/958977/32.png) [@Who\_me\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Who_me_1)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/6 "2001-03-16T19:31:02Z")
Well, I’ve had several 3-somes. They’ve all been 2 girls and me. I used to share a house with a lesbian couple and I became friends with a number of females who visited. My first 3-some was totally unexpected (at least on my part). A bisexual female was trying to get a “straight” female naked. Since the "straght female was nervous about having sex with another female, she called me into the room and things happened that were very pleasurable for all involved. Afterwards, that same bisexual female found it was much easier to get a “straight” girl into bed when I was involved. So I became a willing participant and enjoyed myself. ---
**Author:** ![Sofa\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58956e/32.png) [@Sofa\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sofa_King)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/7 "2001-03-16T20:32:56Z")
My jealousy burns with the wrath of a thousand green suns. ---
**Author:** ![Tequila\_Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/41988e/32.png) [@Tequila\_Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tequila_Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/8 "2001-03-16T20:56:01Z")
My first one wasn’t too much fun, mainly because I suspect my at the time boyfriend talked me into it just so he could watch his friend. After several years, I decided to try it again. Almost all subsequent have been great, especially those involving friends. ---
**Author:** ![Sofa\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58956e/32.png) [@Sofa\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sofa_King)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/9 "2001-03-16T21:16:41Z")
This is sooo unfair. That’s it, I’m outa here. _Stamp_ _Stamp_ _Stamp_ _Stamp_ **SLAM** ---
**Author:** ![Rally\_Vincent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c37758/32.png) [@Rally\_Vincent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rally_Vincent)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/10 "2001-03-16T21:41:19Z")
Ok, please explain the logistics of how a threesome works. BTW, since I’ve been with my husband all these years, it’s not likely we’ll ever be in a threesome (of any gender combination). But I have always wondered how it works, like who does what to whom first, etc. Please enlighten me, I am totally serious. ---
**Author:** ![Eutychus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Eutychus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eutychus)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/11 "2001-03-16T21:58:07Z")
I’m lucky if I get a onesome nowadays. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/12 "2001-03-16T22:08:22Z")
Spoken like a parent, **Euty**! It was more a foursome (three guys, one girl), and didn’t go quite all the way, but I got disgusted with myself for having subjected my ex-girlfriend to it, although she was happy to go along with it. If one of the guys, whom I didn’t particularly like, had not been there I would have been happier. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/13 "2001-03-16T22:18:57Z")
Does it count as a threesome if the dog watches? (Or in MY recent pathetic past, a dog and a cat?) And I heard some recent talk about this on the radio, a threesome involves three people all having sex with one another (typical heterosexual version is girl, girl, guy, like **Who\_me?** ,[sub]the f\*cking BASTARD![/sub] Similarly, a guy, guy, girl threesome would include sexual engagement of the two guys together to qualify. The heterosexual guy, guy, girl is more properly defined as a “Gang Bang”. Is this clear, **Rally?** If not, and you are female, would you care for a demonstration of the girl, girl, guy version? ---
**Author:** ![Survey1215](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecb155/32.png) [@Survey1215](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Survey1215)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/14 "2001-03-16T22:19:48Z")
Cool, a thread where I can contribute! I was the sports editor of my college newspaper my junior year in college in Illinois. I got to know many of the members of our women’s swim team. One in particular caught my eye but I’d heard she was serious about her boyfriend back home. Anyhooo, one night my three roomies and I are throwing darts at a bar and in walks the aforementioned swimmer and a teammate (I should mention here that they were both six feet tall, while I’m barely 5-10. I have a major thing about tall women). We exchanged hellos and I would say something flirty everytime I went to get new drinks. Those two, meanwhile, are pounding Long Island Ice Teas, served in Mason Jars, like there is no tommorrow. About two hours after they got to the bar, the one I had my eye on (Jen) says to me “we want to have a kissing contest.” Hmmmmmmmmm. Ok, says I, but how? She then kisses me, all Frenchy and stuff, and says “how was that?” I, of course, was thrilled, and said it was great. So her friend says “my turn” and she kisses me. My head is spinning, I am losing my mind. My roommates are flipping out, having observed all this from the dart area. Jen then takes her turn on me again. I was hoping she would kiss Dana instead, making things real interesting, but that didn’t happen til later. The kissing contest goes on for maybe 20 minutes and, following a little dancing and shot-drinking, procedes to my apartment, with me chaining the door shut so my roomies couldn’t come in. What followed was the most religious, mind-numbing experience of my life, sullied only by having to do everything in one of those dorm-sized single beds (on-campus apartment). Jen and Dana had as much fun with each other as me (which, being a small-town devotee of the Penthouse Forum, was the realization of a life-long dream). I found out later they’d done that with a couple other guys, and a couple more down the road. I couldn’t care less. The sex with my wife is amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything, but that threesome will always be the most memorable “adult” experience of my life. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Pinky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/848f3c/32.png) [@Dr.Pinky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Pinky)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/15 "2001-03-16T22:34:52Z")
About 90% of the threesomes I’ve been in were with a particularly adventurous girl and fill-in the blank: her boyfriend, my girlfriend, her husband, “our” girlfriend… the first one was a little un-nerving, but the subsequent ones were fun. It is unfortunate that triangles tend to be unstable. Or maybe its just me. ---
**Author:** ![Grok](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/96bed5/32.png) [@Grok](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grok)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/16 "2001-03-16T22:40:04Z")
I’ve been in a few threesomes and one foursome. All but one were very nice indeed, and were conducted with good friends. The one that wasn’t so great was because I was young, and a bit ill at ease. But as Woody Allen says, as empty experiences go, it’s one of the best. ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/17 "2001-03-16T22:52:54Z")
Oh, goody! Mine most recent one was a birthday present from the Significantly Younger Lover and one of our friends, who happened to be a former lover of mine. It was a guy, guy, girl thing, but **UncleBill** , I was under the impression that a gang bang involved 4 or more. The girl, girl, guy ones are damned fun too. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/18 "2001-03-16T22:57:56Z")
My ex-boyfriend suggested it and said he knew a “cute, heterosexual” girl that would be the second…um…third person. Anyway, the one night I got loose (read: drunk and high) enough, to say “okay” she didn’t answer her phone (Ha! You should have seen how many times he pressed "re-dial). Anyway, after that he could never get me drunk enough to agree to it again. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/19 "2001-03-16T23:04:18Z")
I enjoyed this thread until I got to the posts where people’s experiences _were_ really great. Now I’m just bitter. ---
**Author:** ![robgruver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@robgruver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robgruver)\ **Post date:** [March 16, 2001, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257/20 "2001-03-16T23:27:06Z")
My wife and I had a live in (female) lover for about 4 months. It was quite interesting and fun, although the dynamics are not easy in a relationship like that. Mrs. robgruver and I have had 5 other threesomes (4 with an extra female, 1 with an extra male) and not a single one of them were bad. I have had (outside of my wife with permission) a foursome, a fivesome, and a sevensome (by the time you get that high you should prolly just break down and call it an orgy). [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-how-great-was-your-threesome/58257.md?page=2)