# So I caught my Step-brother comparing his penis with another boy...should I tell? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 29, 2005, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029 "2005-05-29T22:21:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2005, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/1 "2005-05-29T22:21:55Z")
I’m asking this because I usually get good advice from the SDMB. This OP could be considered graphic but that’s not the purpose of it so instead I’m going to try making this short. I have watched my Step-Bro before and it is a very easy job because I’m only asked to watch him for 2-3 hours, I get paid well for it and he is easy to watch. All the kid does is play video games and eat cereal. He could literally be so into a game that he won’t even know that his Mom is gone and I’m watching him. When he has a friend over it’s the same thing, they will get a box of cereal and plop down somewhere and play games. The other night (May 28) I was in charge of my SB and his friend. They appeared to be doing the usual routine. After about an hour of near silence coming from their direction I decided I should check up on them. My SB and his friend were in our bedroom and when I opened the door they were standing face to face about 2 feet apart with their “weiners” popping out of their pants. I asked “what is going on?” and my SB casually responded; “We were just seeing who had the biggest boner.” Neither one seemed to be embarassed about being caught the only thing they said was that they were scared _at first_ because they thought I was Dad or Mom. I left the room and after a few minutes decided that “Tommy” should go home but when I went in the 2nd time they were innocently playing video games like nothing ever happened, so I didn’t do anything. My Questions; Does this mean that they don’t respect me since they didn’t seem to be embarassed after getting caught? and Should I tell what happpened just to cover my a$$? Just to set things straight I didn’t particpate with them or encourage them to compare penis size, I just happened to catch them in progress. ---
**Author:** ![KGS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/90ced4/32.png) [@KGS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KGS)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2005, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/2 "2005-05-29T22:34:49Z")
They’re about the same age, right? If so, don’t worry about it. It’s normal little boy stuff. (And for goodness sake, ignore all the future posts demanding that you call CPS right away…) ---
**Author:** ![Dark\_Side\_of\_the\_Floyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bb73d2/32.png) [@Dark\_Side\_of\_the\_Floyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dark_Side_of_the_Floyd)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2005, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/3 "2005-05-29T22:35:06Z")
I don’t really think it’s anything to be up in arms about. It depends on how old these boys are. Often, boys like to find out more about their bodies and compare. You might want to tell them both that it’s inappropriate to do this sort of thing in public, though 😛 ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [May 29, 2005, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/4 "2005-05-29T22:54:16Z")
I wouldn’t sweat it. And I expect they weren’t embarrassed because they figured you wouldn’t freak out on them - I don’t think respect had anything to do with it. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/5 "2005-05-30T00:09:40Z")
> [@KGS](#): > > It’s normal little boy stuff… Yeah I thought so, I was doing similar stuff when I was 10 but I didn’t want for all his friends to think that whenever I was home alone they could just whip their dicks out. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/6 "2005-05-30T01:21:24Z")
You should have told them to put there pricks back in there pants at least. If it were me I would have been “What the hell’s wrong with you guys? Put those things away for COL!.” I wouldn’t of said it in an angry tone but more of a half assed “I’m laughing at you/ dubious kind of tone.” ---
**Author:** ![VarlosZ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d78d45/32.png) [@VarlosZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VarlosZ)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/7 "2005-05-30T01:54:36Z")
1. How old are the boys? 2. Assuming they’re pre-pubescent (and probably even if they’re not), yes, you should tell. It’s not a big deal, but it’s still noteworthy, and if I were a parent in this case I’d want to hear it. ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/8 "2005-05-30T02:48:42Z")
> [@VarlosZ](#): > > It’s not a big deal, but it’s still noteworthy, and if I were a parent in this case I’d want to hear it. I agree. You don’t want the parents comming back to you because they were caught again. But this time, the kids said “ **START** didn’t have a problem with it last time we got caught!” ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/9 "2005-05-30T02:51:28Z")
> [@START](#): > > Does this mean that they don’t respect me since they didn’t seem to be embarassed after getting caught? You want them to tremble with fear because you saw their dicks? Dude, it was harmless and normal, just forget about it. > [@START](#): > > Should I tell what happpened just to cover my a$$? Nope. Telling won’t help a thing, but it _will_ stat a load of crap completely out of proportion to what they did. ---
**Author:** ![stinkyuk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7993a0/32.png) [@stinkyuk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stinkyuk)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/10 "2005-05-30T03:30:53Z")
Whatever you do keep it to yourself and ignore advise that would maybe cause grief with his folks, kids do all manner of things that are perfectly normal, and perfectly innocent at least untill an uninformed parent goes over the roof about it which generally leads to some sort issue to arise in the poor kid :smack: ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/11 "2005-05-30T03:41:20Z")
The incident you describe is totally minor and insignificant. Unless, that is, you choose to attempt to curry favor by mentioning it. Then it could blow up into something. Me, I’d forget it, or certainly never mention it. You want him squealing on you when he catches you boinkin’ your girlfriend? Remember, what goes around comes around. ---
**Author:** ![ccwaterback](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@ccwaterback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ccwaterback)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/12 "2005-05-30T04:46:30Z")
Well, considering your choice of location … 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Acetylsalicylic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Acetylsalicylic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acetylsalicylic)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/13 "2005-05-30T04:53:37Z")
> [@](#): > > I asked “what is going on?” and my SB casually responded; “We were just seeing who had the biggest boner.” You have GOT to put a stop to this right now. If you don’t, the next thing you know, they’ll be buying sports cars and pickup trucks. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/14 "2005-05-30T05:21:22Z")
> [@VarlosZ](#): > > 1. How old are the boys? > > 2. Assuming they’re pre-pubescent (and probably even if they’re not), yes, you should tell. It’s not a big deal, but it’s still noteworthy, and if I were a parent in this case I’d want to hear it. As the parent of a pre-pubescent boy (about 10 years ago), I would _not_ have wanted to know this tidbit of information. IMO, it’s perfectly normal behavior and frankly, parents don’t need to know everything. If the boys were behaving inappropriately like touching each other, then absolutely go to the parents but just comparing body parts ain’t no thang. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/15 "2005-05-30T05:33:36Z")
**START** 1. I think you should look at their lack of fear more as a sign that they _trust_ you and feel comfortable with you than as a sign of disrespect. 2. It’s completely normal for boys to do stuff like that. It’s really nothing to be concerned about, and there’s no reason to tell your parents…especially if its the kind of thing you think they might freak out or get overly dramatic about. ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/16 "2005-05-30T06:20:18Z")
> [@Diogenes the Cynic](#): > > It’s completely normal for boys to do stuff like that. Y’all are wierd. As a boy, the last thing I have ever wanted to see in the world was some other dude’s dick. Of course porn kind of negates that. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/17 "2005-05-30T06:41:19Z")
> [@Diogenes the Cynic](#): > > **START** > > 1. I think you should look at their lack of fear more as a sign that they _trust_ you and feel comfortable with you than as a sign of disrespect. > > 2. It’s completely normal for boys to do stuff like that. It’s really nothing to be concerned about, and there’s no reason to tell your parents…especially if its the kind of thing you think they might freak out or get overly dramatic about. Well considering I played “Truth or Dare” a lot in Elementary School and it usually involved someone showing a “naughty” part I understand about it being normal but I could also see it being blown out of proportion. " …In other news a teenaged boy was arrested for letting 10 year olds play sex games while under his care… what a sick, sad world we live in… back to you in the studio." I’m Glad they trust me and I personally don’t care if they want to compare boners but I hope it doesn’t become a habit. Yes I do know that both boys parents especially my Step-Mom would freak out and that is a huge understatement. > [@SHAKES](#): > > You should have told them to put there pricks back in there pants at least. Didn’t have to they did on their own but not fast like I would have expected. I think that shocked me almost as much as the incident because if it was me when I was 10 I would have been moving so fast if someone caught me. > [@Acetylsalicylic](#): > > You have GOT to put a stop to this right now. If you don’t, the next thing you know, they’ll be buying sports cars and pickup trucks. The insurance is so high on sports cars, maybe I should tell. > [@Uvula Donor](#): > > You want them to tremble with fear because you saw their dicks? Dude, it was harmless and normal, just forget about it. It’s just not the reaction I would have expected because like I said if it was me I would have jumped 10 feet in the air but they were cool and casual, not that it’s a bad thing just seems unusual to me. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/18 "2005-05-30T07:04:44Z")
> [@ParentalAdvisory](#): > > I agree. You don’t want the parents comming back to you because they were caught again. But this time, the kids said “ **START** didn’t have a problem with it last time we got caught!” I overlooked this response… I know for sure that both parents would go crazy, my Step-mom is a really nice lady but she is so against any form of Homosexuality. I could only imagine what she would do if she knew her son was doing something she would perceive as “gay”. Do you think if I talked to them rather than getting parents involved I could still “cover my butt”? ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 7:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/19 "2005-05-30T07:21:59Z")
Homosexuality? I’m no pickle fuffin poopy poker and had many many whip it out and compare episodes and with plenty of girls as witnesses. last one was 1987 when I was 29! ---
**Author:** ![fifty-six](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@fifty-six](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fifty-six)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2005, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029/20 "2005-05-30T07:28:54Z")
The fact that they did not jump or move quickly meant that they are pure evil. Comparing body parts with another person at a young age is a sexual act. If you compaire them with someone of the same sex it is gay. Knowing the size of another boys genitals is gay unless you accidently get a glance in a locker room. Accual comparing is well lets just say very bad. Gay is bad. Almost gay is bad. Both parants should know because that way they can scold him real good and make him shamefull of his body like everyone should be. I just cant belive that a young boy his age isnt shamefull of himself yet. Something must be done. because who knows what could happen they could look at each others bodies again. What a fucking shame. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-caught-my-step-brother-comparing-his-penis-with-another-boy-should-i-tell/306029.md?page=2)