# So I found out the girl I just started dating used to do porn **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 19, 2025, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481 "2025-02-19T03:04:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2025, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/141 "2025-03-01T18:08:24Z")
Please, with that last. This is a very uncomfortable thread to read. ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2025, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/142 "2025-03-01T18:52:47Z")
Moderating: > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > You poor sweet men. > > So…clueless. Don’t slam the men posting in this thread. You’re in MPSIMS, not the Pit. If you’ve nothing helpful to offer with a post, best to say nothing at all. ETA: @Moriarty, I, too, am going to caution you to refrain from getting too Penthouse in this thread. You’re already at the limit of what is allowable in MPSIMS. I think you’ve resolved your concerns re your relationship and if more flags are thrown on this thread, I will close it. ---
**Author:** ![Al128](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/al128/32/16541_2.png) [@Al128](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al128)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2025, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/143 "2025-03-01T21:18:02Z")
I don’t know but I picked up a fairly wellmeaning vibe in this thread. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2025, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/144 "2025-03-01T22:41:21Z")
Moderating: > [@LSLGuy](#): > > Clearly your mother is a tiresome bluenose with severe hang-ups whose antiquated and noxious opinions should be consigned to the dustheap of history. No need to insult the mothers of posters, please. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2025, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/145 "2025-03-01T22:58:18Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > I’m guessing that casually suggesting an exchange of comprehensive blood test results would be a relationship deal-breaker? What am I missing here?? It’s freaking 2025. I’d be proactive and be ready with test results IN HAND before being intimate with someone new. If they shy away from returning that act, well…that tells me things right there. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/146 "2025-03-02T00:57:35Z")
> [@Cartooniverse](#): > > I’d be proactive and be ready with test results IN HAND before being intimate with someone new. If they shy away from returning that act, well…that tells me things right there. IMO it’s usually when you agree to be exclusive and ditch the condoms but yeah. Pretty much standard practice. ---
**Author:** ![markn\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@markn\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/markn_1)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/147 "2025-03-02T03:06:40Z")
I started dating again after my wife died in 2014. Exchanging STD test results before sexual contact was standard procedure, and I did it with every one of the women I had sex with until I remarried. I never had anyone balk at that, but I would have discontinued contact with anyone who did. ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/148 "2025-03-02T03:17:25Z")
I have an app on my phone that tests me for STDs. My partner should too or no-go. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/149 "2025-03-02T06:19:22Z")
There’s an app for that? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![nate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nate/32/13085_2.png) [@nate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nate)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/150 "2025-03-02T07:12:13Z")
I can’t tell if this thread’s participants are role-playing as 7th graders or if the SDMB is just this sad. Icing on the cake is the guy who exchanged STD test results before any sexual contact with every woman he had sex with. Which I’m guessing is 0. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/151 "2025-03-02T08:37:55Z")
Is porn star, code for olden day divorcee? All the men wanted to date her. (And he couldn’t wait to tell all) All the office chaps wanted to hear the latest. All men wanted her to move next door and sunbathe. All the wives hated her. Yeah, I can see an episode of _Bewitched_ with this plot. ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/152 "2025-03-02T13:33:36Z")
> [@Whack-a-Mole](#): > > I hope your next report is that you two had a great day together. No need for details. We’ve been having a great weekend together. She’s getting ready right now as i sit on the bed. We’re going to breakfast shortly. She’s my girlfriend. Her past is the least interesting thing about her. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/153 "2025-03-02T15:28:36Z")
Porn star is not code for so. The woman in question used to be employed to have sex on film. We can argue whether she was just a porn actress or a star. But again there is no code or euphemism involved ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/154 "2025-03-02T15:28:54Z")
Wonderful! ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/155 "2025-03-02T17:00:14Z")
Moderating: > [@nate](#): > > I can’t tell if this thread’s participants are role-playing as 7th graders or if the SDMB is just this sad. Icing on the cake is the guy who exchanged STD test results before any sexual contact with every woman he had sex with. Which I’m guessing is 0. This is a Warning for engaging in insults outside the Pit and threadshitting. There is no excuse for someone who has been a poster for as long as you have to make such a post in this forum. Do it again and we’ll be discussing your future posting privileges. ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/156 "2025-03-02T17:06:43Z")
Moderating: As previously promised, since more flags were thrown, this is now closed. ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2025, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-found-out-the-girl-i-just-started-dating-used-to-do-porn/1014481/157 "2025-03-02T17:06:55Z")
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