# So I guess I'm having a threesome **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 29, 2010, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949 "2010-01-29T21:07:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/21 "2010-01-30T02:10:19Z")
> [@MitzeKatze](#): > > …but having been there, done that (more than once) I can say it wasn’t the end-all, be-all that I had hoped it would be. Word. And I tried it more than once, with different combos just to be sure. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/22 "2010-01-30T02:15:14Z")
> [@statsman1982](#): > > Something tells me it’s about to get real preachy in here… Only if you’re looking to antagonize people who think differently than you do. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/23 "2010-01-30T02:46:24Z")
I don’t think I could be an orgy guy. I don’t think I’d look good with a moustache, and I sure as heck don’t want to drive a van. ---
**Author:** ![statsman1982](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e79b87/32.png) [@statsman1982](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/statsman1982)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/24 "2010-01-30T03:04:52Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Only if you’re looking to antagonize people who think differently than you do. Yeah, maybe I should take a cold shower before I post to threads like this. 😛 But in my defense, I didn’t read the OP as seeking advice on whether or not she should go through with it, but just wanting to share something interesting. I thought I caught a whiff of threadshit, but I was mistaken. Apologies to **MPB** and anyone else who was put off by what I said. Not everyone is into threesomes, I know. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/25 "2010-01-30T03:06:42Z")
Good luck, and have fun! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/26 "2010-01-30T03:10:27Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > I don’t think I could be an orgy guy. I don’t think I’d look good with a moustache, and I sure as heck don’t want to drive a van. Or write all those thank you notes. ---
**Author:** ![MitzeKatze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ad7895/32.png) [@MitzeKatze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MitzeKatze)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/27 "2010-01-30T03:18:27Z")
> [@freckafree](#): > > Or write all those thank you notes. Do you think individual thank you notes would be in order? Probably one inclusive Thank You…you know like “To whom it may concern…” should suffice, but I would hate to be impolite. There is a glaring lack of orgy-etiquette books on today’s market. 😉 Dear Miss Manners… ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/28 "2010-01-30T03:45:32Z")
Not to mention having to get orgy friends, fancy silk robes, and exotic scents and oils. Those alone could add hundreds of dollars to your monthly expenses! So I hear. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/29 "2010-01-30T04:58:07Z")
Han is my new hero. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/30 "2010-01-30T06:15:02Z")
> [@MitzeKatze](#): > > Do you think individual thank you notes would be in order? Probably one inclusive Thank You…you know like “To whom it may concern…” should suffice, but I would hate to be impolite. > > There is a glaring lack of orgy-etiquette books on today’s market. 😉 > > Dear Miss Manners… I think since we’re talking about a college here, just tacking the “To whom it may concern…” thank you note on a bulletin board oughta do the trick. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/31 "2010-01-30T06:22:08Z")
> [@MitzeKatze](#): > > But also way in the back of your mind be careful (not physically, but that too). In my experience threesomes are a lot more fun to think about than to participate in and can create awkward situations afterward. I’ve heard this too, though I’ve heard it’s much easier on the guest star than the regular cast. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/32 "2010-01-30T07:07:32Z")
> [@toofs](#): > > Han is my new hero. I’m not quite sure what Han’s doing in a threesome. He usually plays it solo. ---
**Author:** ![MitzeKatze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ad7895/32.png) [@MitzeKatze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MitzeKatze)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/33 "2010-01-30T07:18:19Z")
> [@appleciders](#): > > I’ve heard this too, though I’ve heard it’s much easier on the guest star than the regular cast. Eh…I’ve been both…still wasn’t all that impressed. To each their own though, I know my then-SO enjoyed it much more than I did (and we did the MFM variety so all the attention was on me ;)) and some people are more into that kind of thing than I am… I guess you never know until you try. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 8:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/34 "2010-01-30T08:34:37Z")
I wonder if Han will shoot first. ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/35 "2010-01-30T08:38:15Z")
Are you the same **Autolycus** on the THR forum? ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/36 "2010-01-30T15:02:01Z")
> [@Argent\_Towers](#): > > Are you the same **Autolycus** on the THR forum? Is this a come on? - “Don’t I know you from somewhere?” “Hey, babe, hang out in the threesome thread often?” 😃 Just kidding AT. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/37 "2010-01-30T16:15:45Z")
Have fun! My only suggestion would be to arrange a “safe word” before hand, just in case things get uncomfortable for you. I know most people associate those with BDSM kinks, but they can work in any new situation. ---
**Author:** ![BorgHunter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@BorgHunter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BorgHunter)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/38 "2010-01-30T16:39:11Z")
> [@Avarie537](#): > > Have fun! My only suggestion would be to arrange a “safe word” before hand, just in case things get uncomfortable for you. I know most people associate those with BDSM kinks, but they can work in any new situation. What’s wrong with “Stop”? It’s simple, easy to remember, and has the advantage of not needing to be worked out beforehand. Safe words are important in BDSM roleplaying because “stop” is a word that a bottom, while roleplaying, could conceivably say quite a bit without actually desiring a cessation of activities. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/39 "2010-01-30T16:44:31Z")
> [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](#): > > Ummm…risk factor? > > _Maybe_ these people have ulterior motives? It’s a possibility. If it were me in that situation (it wouldn’t be, but if it were), I would arrange with a trusted friend that you will phone them at a certain time and if they don’t hear from you, they phone, and if you don’t pick up, they arrive with the cavalry. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2010, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/40 "2010-01-30T16:49:16Z")
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