# So I guess I'm having a threesome **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 29, 2010, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949 "2010-01-29T21:07:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/81 "2010-02-02T14:30:32Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Psst… there are two additional participants in a threesome. > > She’s had sex with one person already, so adding two more is a 200% increase. No, Lunchy’s post was idiotic. And it’s too boring to explain why. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/82 "2010-02-02T14:37:12Z")
> [@Lunchy](#): > > Have fun with your chances of catching STD’s going up 200% in visit. Likewise, enjoy your lifetime free of worry. ---
**Author:** ![enomaj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/59ef9b/32.png) [@enomaj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enomaj)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/83 "2010-02-02T14:51:01Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Likewise, enjoy your lifetime free of worry. Not even jerk store could refute this comeback. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/84 "2010-02-02T15:26:35Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > No, Lunchy’s post was idiotic. And it’s too boring to explain why. I wasn’t expressing agreement with **Lunchy** ’s post - just helping with the mathematical portion. I happen to agree that it was idiotic. > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Likewise, enjoy your lifetime free of worry. _Even late in his career, Sinatra could still churn out the hits._ ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/85 "2010-02-02T15:29:17Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I wasn’t expressing agreement with **Lunchy** ’s post - just helping with the mathematical portion. I happen to agree that it was idiotic. Yeah I kind of guessed your thoughts, but the math was off too. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/86 "2010-02-02T15:32:46Z")
Only in the sense that we have no idea what the relative odds of picking up venereal diseases from her three partners are. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/87 "2010-02-02T16:24:25Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Psst… there are two additional participants in a threesome. > > She’s had sex with one person already, so adding two more is a 200% increase. This is still wrong - there is ONE additional participant in a threesome because for there to be any sex there have to be two people. So increasing from two to three people in a sex act is a 100% increase in the number of people involved, and therefore (in an increadibly simplistic way) one’s chances of getting an STD are increased by 100%, not 200%. But yes, it was still a stupid original sentiment. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/88 "2010-02-02T16:29:49Z")
When I said she’s had sex with one person already, I meant just that: the OP has had sex with exactly _one_ person before. It’s mentioned earlier in the thread. Once she has this threesome, she will have had sex with _three_ people. One to three is a 200% increase. ---
**Author:** ![justrob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9adbd/32.png) [@justrob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/justrob)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/89 "2010-02-02T16:39:22Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > Or maybe she just doesn’t live to tell the internet her personal life? I’m guessing if that were true she probably wouldn’t have started a thread titled “ **So I guess I’m having a threesome** ”. ---
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/90 "2010-02-02T17:14:51Z")
Ok, many apologies for not posting earlier, but my Internet access has been limited to the time when I’m on campus (Tuesdays and Thursdays). I’m touched at all the concern and advice, and I knew y’all would want details, but I didn’t think this would garner 88 replies! 😃 RHPS didn’t work out, as Leia lost her car keys and couldn’t go, so Saturday night, which I spent alone, was kind of a bummer. But Han and I texted each other all weekend, and decided that he would come over by himself a few times first, just so I’m not totally overwhelmed when threesome time comes. We agreed to meet Monday; he walks over to my house at about ten thirty in the morning and strips to his underwear. I’m much calmer at this point than I was the last time I had sex, probably because Han and I aren’t completely infatuated, so it definitely lessens the pressure. I put on a DVD of RHPS, and he starts quoting the audience participation lines while sitting on my bed in his boxers. After a few minutes, he starts undressing me. We had sex twice (yes, while the movie was playing in the background…gives a whole new meaning to the Time Warp song), and holy crap, am I glad I chose to go with it. After we were through, I lay, naked and totally at ease, and chatted with him for another half hour before he had to leave. It’s so much easier to have sex with someone whom you trust but aren’t totally crazy for; you’re not nearly as self-conscious and worried that you’ll screw up. And it confirmed my suspicion that, yes, sex by itself can be great. We both had a hell of a good time, so we tentatively made an agreement to meet once a week or so, and to quote Han, “go wild” together. I trust Han and feel comfortable with him, so I know if I’m ever not okay with something he’s doing, he’ll stop. I do plan to get together with them and have a threesome, but it’s probably best if I take it slow for now. And I have a cool new fuck buddy! 😃 When the threesome actually happens, I’ll bump this thread and let you know how it went. ---
**Author:** ![nicole1912](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9de0a6/32.png) [@nicole1912](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nicole1912)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/91 "2010-02-02T18:30:45Z")
Sounds like a good weekend to me! Glad things went well with Han, and that things are working out more long-term - though you might want to check with Leia (without Han around) after a few weeks to make sure everyone’s still all ok with the situation. In the meantime, have fun! ---
**Author:** ![Arnold\_Winkelried](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Arnold\_Winkelried](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arnold_Winkelried)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/92 "2010-02-02T18:57:57Z")
Glad everything went OK! Are you going to start the tradition of a background movie? If so, next time you should show The Sound of Music and see how creative you can get when they sing the cuckoo song. _And up in the nursery an absurd little bird Is popping out to say “cuckoo”_ ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/93 "2010-02-02T19:15:25Z")
Good for you! ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2010, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/94 "2010-02-02T21:10:12Z")
Excellent, we all love fuckbuddies (well, I do). I echo the sentiment that it might be a good idea to check that Leia is down with all this at a later date, but if what you need now is a good and regular filling then have at it. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/95 "2010-02-03T02:54:59Z")
> [@nicole1912](#): > > though you might want to check with Leia (without Han around) after a few weeks to make sure everyone’s still all ok with the situation. Oh, what would she say? “Look, Ma, no Han…?” 😉 Then again, she’s still breathing, so I’ll bow out of the thread glad of that. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/96 "2010-02-03T04:42:17Z")
Grats on getting laid, but I have to admit I’m disappointed. “Guy and girl have sex” is not nearly as exciting and interesting to a general audience as “MFF Threesome!”. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/97 "2010-02-03T11:02:45Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Oh, what would she say? “Look, Ma, no Han…?” 😉 \ ---
**Author:** ![Tanaqui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3bc359/32.png) [@Tanaqui](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tanaqui)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/98 "2010-02-03T12:26:32Z")
Man I could totally use some no-pressure two-some/three-some/whatever-some action right now, but unless you are in a very special situation like the OP, I feel like it’s pretty difficult to find in a non-sketchy way… so congratulations, OP! ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/99 "2010-02-03T15:21:37Z")
> [@Stauderhorse](#): > > …you’re not nearly as self-conscious and worried that you’ll screw up. There are positions where this is not merely desirable but actually required. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2010, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949/100 "2010-02-03T17:14:26Z")
I can’t tell from the OP; was Leia ever actually aware that Han was seriously purporting to propose a threesome? Or did she think he was joking? And even if so, I also wonder whether Leia knew Han was coming over to the OP by himself. Being willing to participate in a threesome is not necessarily the same as being willing to loan your guy out without you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-guess-im-having-a-threesome/526949.md?page=6)