# So I had a date- with a sub **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 5, 2010, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087 "2010-10-05T04:50:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/21 "2010-10-06T01:31:34Z")
> [@astro](#): > > What a coincidence! I also had a date with a sub this evening. I met her at Ponzetti’s on RT 13, but I don’t think I’ll be seeing her again. Well, you will, briefly, but she won’t look as pretty. ---
**Author:** ![gonzomax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e8c25b/32.png) [@gonzomax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gonzomax)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/22 "2010-10-06T02:20:47Z")
Don’t put so much pressure and stock in a new relationship. Give it air and room. You could smother this relationship in a hurry. ---
**Author:** ![sleestak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/919ad9/32.png) [@sleestak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sleestak)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/23 "2010-10-06T02:49:31Z")
> [@gonzomax](#): > > Don’t put so much pressure and stock in a new relationship. Give it air and room. You could smother this relationship in a hurry. Yep, you are right. At the same time we will have to figure out the whole thing as we go. On the bright side, we are going out Thursday and staying at my place again. Yay. Did I mention she is freaking hot. Slee ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/24 "2010-10-06T02:52:53Z")
I thought it meant 20,000 sailors had been through her. Kidding, good luck Slee. ---
**Author:** ![Hoopy\_Frood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hoopy_frood/32/8452_2.png) [@Hoopy\_Frood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hoopy_Frood)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/25 "2010-10-06T03:05:23Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > I thought it meant 20,000 sailors had been through her. In which case she’s no doubt had her fill of seamen. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 5:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/26 "2010-10-06T05:06:36Z")
> [@sleestak](#): > > \*Insert dom/sub joke here. Psst… in the BDSM world Dom _always_ gets capitalized. As does Master. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/27 "2010-10-06T11:08:33Z")
Good luck with the new relationship. Please tell me you aren’t going to be that guy who has to mention his sexual preferences every chance he gets - who was that doper? I think they even made a special rule for him. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/28 "2010-10-06T13:55:56Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > > [@tdn](#): > > > > And I feel your pain. After a year and a half of dating Meh, I’m walking around these last few days with a big grin on my face. > > Woohoo! Congrats. Yeah, I’m very happy with her. But I think I need to listen to **gonzomax**. If it’s even half as amazing as it feels, things will survive going at half-speed. ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/29 "2010-10-06T15:23:13Z")
> [@Hoopy\_Frood](#): > > > [@Isamu](#): > > > > I thought it meant 20,000 sailors had been through her. > > In which case she’s no doubt had her fill of seamen. [smithers]I don’t think women and seamen mix.[/smithers] ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/30 "2010-10-06T15:24:44Z")
I have just one question: Is she SDMB hot or really hot? ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/31 "2010-10-06T15:48:18Z")
dominance and submission can exist without what is commonly thought of as BDSM. however and whatever is very customizable. what are your and her experience and desires? ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [October 6, 2010, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/32 "2010-10-06T23:07:59Z")
> [@sleestak](#): > > We’ve already had some discussion of what to expect in the relationship and I am suffering any illusions about it. It will be work on my part, which I actually think is cool. It is also going to require me to be really in touch with what she is feeling. So it ought to be an interesting learning experience. [This questionnaire might be of help.](http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/bdsm_questionnaire.htm) ---
**Author:** ![sleestak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/919ad9/32.png) [@sleestak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sleestak)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/33 "2010-10-07T02:13:45Z")
> [@Yeticus\_Rex](#): > > > [@sleestak](#): > > > > We’ve already had some discussion of what to expect in the relationship and I am suffering any illusions about it. It will be work on my part, which I actually think is cool. It is also going to require me to be really in touch with what she is feeling. So it ought to be an interesting learning experience. > > [This questionnaire might be of help.](http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/docs/bdsm_questionnaire.htm) Thanks for the link. We are talking a lot about this so that we are both on the same page. She has a habit of distracting me at work though. She has been sending pics to my personal cell phone. NSFW pics. Makes the day a lot nicer. Slee ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/34 "2010-10-07T04:21:32Z")
> [@Shark](#): > > I honestly thought he made a date with one girl online, and when it came time for the face to face date, she sent someone else in her place. Sometimes I enjoy the posts I make up in my mind based only on the thread title better than the ones I read. Word. I guess we can just hang out over here in the Dork Corner and watch what happens. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/35 "2010-10-07T04:48:07Z")
> [@astro](#): > > What a coincidence! I also had a date with a sub this evening. I met her at Ponzetti’s on RT 13, but I don’t think I’ll be seeing her again. You’ll be seeing her in a few hours. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/36 "2010-10-07T04:58:09Z")
> [@sleestak](#): > > Then, just to add another complication to the situation, a woman at work has been hitting on me rather hard. Isn’t that always the way? ---
**Author:** ![The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/37 "2010-10-07T17:34:44Z")
> [@Shark](#): > > I honestly thought he made a date with one girl online, and when it came time for the face to face date, she sent someone else in her place. Sometimes I enjoy the posts I make up in my mind based only on the thread title better than the ones I read. Me too! I kept waiting for the part where another girl stepped in, and when I got to the end of the OP I was so confused that I read it all over again. ---
**Author:** ![robert\_columbia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e79b87/32.png) [@robert\_columbia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robert_columbia)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2010, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/38 "2010-10-07T19:41:34Z")
> [@Hoopy\_Frood](#): > > > [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > > > This thread is in the Game Room. I took that to mean that she loses on purpose when they play checkers. > > I took it to mean he’s into women who play LARPs based on _Battleship_. > > So does foreplay involve calling out C-4 and such? You sunk my battleship! ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2010, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/39 "2010-10-08T08:17:46Z")
> [@robert\_andrews](#): > > > [@Hoopy\_Frood](#): > > > > I took it to mean he’s into women who play LARPs based on _Battleship_. > > > > So does foreplay involve calling out C-4 and such? > > You sunk my battleship! With your pink torpedooooooo! ---
**Author:** ![Khaki\_Campbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Khaki\_Campbell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khaki_Campbell)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2010, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087/40 "2010-10-08T12:22:51Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > Psst… in the BDSM world Dom _always_ gets capitalized. As does Master. Yeah, it’s so _ **important** _. Muhahaha. The BDSM world and its silly little stupid jargon. Even more ridiculous than puritans. In fact, BDSM and polyamorous people are the puritans of the XXIst century. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-had-a-date-with-a-sub/556087.md?page=3)