# So, I like this girl....11 years later we start dating.
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [August 18, 2002, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478 "2002-08-18T15:44:53Z")
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### Author:  [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/1 "2002-08-18T15:44:53Z")
Ok, so I’m happy now…very happy.
Way back in 1991, I met this girl. She had the most amazing hair I’d ever seen, was very pretty, and was smart, funny, talented, and just all around fun to be with. Naturally, I had a crush on her, and I let her know about 1/4 of the way through the year. We were in 8th grade.
Essentially, me telling her didn’t have the desired effect, but we still talked to each other, eventually becoming good friends. During high school, I asked her out at the beginning of freshman year, but it was kind of a ‘friend date.’ I still liked her, and we became better and better friends. Eventually, I got to the point where I was afraid to ask her for anything more, mostly because I didn’t want to risk our friendship, and also because she’d rejected me before.
I dated a few people in high school, and there were periods where I forgot about her as a romantic interest…but while I’d like other people for a while, that would always stop, but I would always come back to having an interest in her.
So, high school ends without anything, I go to college, and meet this one girl, who I then date for over 5 years. We lived together, and things were good, but she just wasn’t the one for me, so we broke up. (good decision).
So, now over 10 years has passed, and I invited my friend (the one I liked for so long) to come visit me. I had asked her to visit many times over the last 6 years, but she never came. I thought I had gone to just having her as a friend, so I really didn’t think much about having her visit at any time…nothing was going to happen, right? Well, she came down about a month ago, and we had a great time together, and I realized that my feelings for her were still there.
So, I was thinking that I wasn’t going to let this go by again, and I figured I’d tell her how I felt when I visited for a mutual friend’s wedding…but she beat me to the punch, e-mailed me telling me she feels the same about me, and she hoped that she just didn’t screw our friendship up. I told her that I felt the same way, we talked, and so we’ve now been going out for about two weeks.
I went to her place for our friend’s wedding, and it was amazing. We slipped from friends to a couple with no problem whatsoever. Because we’re such good friends, and we know each other so well, it feels like we’ve been dating for a very long time, even though it’s just been a couple weeks. So, just letting you all know…sometimes those big crushes that never work out, may eventually work out…just wait a decade! 🙂
Jman
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### Author:  [@Bad\_Hat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_Hat)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/2 "2002-08-18T15:52:28Z")
dude. that story makes me smile so hard.
Congrats.
I think thats sort of the perfect scenario, if it works out. And even if it doesn’t, you know eachother well enough that your friendship will likely survive a break-up, assuming you are both grownups about it. But worry about that if it happens.
In the meantime, you are living the dream my friend.
Thanks for making my sunday morning.
Chris
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### Author:  [@Spiritus\_Mundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiritus_Mundi)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/3 "2002-08-18T16:44:36Z")
Great story. My bwife and I friends for more than a decade before we started dating. We never had any “strangeness” from the transition, and since our relationship has never ended, we certainly haven’t had ot worry about “ruining the friendship”.
A decade of shared interest and amity is a great foundation for love. Good luck to both of you.
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### Author:  [@Milossarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Milossarian)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/4 "2002-08-18T16:54:07Z")
Does that mean there’s still hope for me and my eternal love, Amy B?
Ah, those slow-dances at the 7th-grade dance, to Little River Band ballads …
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### Author:  [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/5 "2002-08-18T17:21:58Z")
Great story! Here’s to the two young lovers - cheers. 🙂
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### Author:  [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/6 "2002-08-18T20:27:06Z")
Congrats,
My hubby and I have a similar story. Met in high school, when we were dating other people, but felt some attraction. Became friends Never were single at the same time. I married someone else and divorced. We became really good friends. Ten years after we met we said to each other “why haven’t we ever dated?” Turns out, we just never had the opportunity (and he thought I would turn him down so he never asked). Been happily married for eight years.
When we got together, our friend all said “about time.”
Hope everything works out for you.
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### Author:  [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/7 "2002-08-18T23:13:39Z")
Thanks everyone for your positive comments. Kind of neat to hear that **Dangerosa** and **Spiritus Mundi** have similar stories. Dangerosa, all of our friends also said “It’s about time.”
When we were juniors in HS, our mutual friend who got married last week was her best friend, and my point of contact to ask for advice about her. She wrote in my yearbook that year, “Keep trying for ‘her’ and things will eventually work out.” I guess so…it happened 7 years after that, but better late than never!
Unfortunately, I’m living in Virginia now, and she lives about 500 miles away, but I’ll be visiting regularly…Labor day weekend, Columbus day, and for about 2 weeks a little after that. Kinda sucks to finally be going out, but have it be a long distance relationship…but I’ll certainly take it. 🙂
Jman
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### Author:  [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)
#### Post date: [August 18, 2002, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/8 "2002-08-18T23:21:37Z")
Actually, looking at my yearbooks, I see that the quote from my friend was actually written our _freshman_ year, not our junior year…that was in 1993…
Jman
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### Author:  [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)
#### Post date: [August 19, 2002, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/9 "2002-08-19T12:50:28Z")
That’s really wonderful, **Jman**! Best wishes to you both. 🙂
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### Author:  [@Alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice)
#### Post date: [August 19, 2002, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/10 "2002-08-19T13:31:02Z")
5 years ago I went to Cairo for a week. I had a boyfriend at the time (so no funny business). I did, however, quite like one of the men (we’ll call him Mr. X) working in the hotel I stayed in. He also liked me, and swore undying love. He actually asked me to marry him. I thought he was nuts, and said so. We didn’t keep in touch, but I didn’t forget him.
2 years ago, one of my friends married an Egyptian and moved to Egypt. I went to visit her. She had a party on a boat on the Nile, and Mr. X was there. (By this time I was single). He told me he was still in love with me, had never forgotten me, had been waiting for me, and wanted me to meet his family. I went with him to meet his family and the freakiest thing was that they all knew me! They had all been waiting to meet me.
Well, to cut a long story short, we have been together ever since, and are getting married in September. So I guess he wasn’t nuts after all!
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### Author:  [@Tiburon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiburon)
#### Post date: [August 19, 2002, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/11 "2002-08-19T14:33:53Z")
Whoa.
Pretty wild stories!
Congrats, Jman!
Tibs.
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### Author:  [@Grelby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grelby)
#### Post date: [August 19, 2002, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/12 "2002-08-19T21:25:19Z")
Well, perhaps I still have hope after all!
[sub]Wait, hope with who?[/sub]
Well, I suppose there are maybe one or two girls from my old school I wouldn’t mind seeing again… but mostly in the interest of where they’ve gone and what they’ve done in the last… more than 4 years now, whoah.
Hey, that’s really awesome Jman! Congrats and other such comments.
[sub]My goodness…[/sub’]
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### Author:  [@Jman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jman)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/13 "2013-07-22T14:06:29Z")
So, I just thought I’d give an update on this story (I was going through some old threads of mine). Not that anyone has been hanging off the edge of their seat for 11 years (and I know I’ve mentioned some of this off and on), but still…now it’s been 22 years since I first liked that girl, and:
She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month. I guess you could say things worked out. I love her more and more every day that goes by.
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### Author:  [@Reeses\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reeses_Monkey)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/14 "2013-07-22T14:14:06Z")
I knew this shy guy in college. I was a freshman, he was a senior. He was smart and funny but dating someone else. This was back in 1987. He graduated and went on his merry way.
FFWD 20 years, I’m at Homecoming and run into him again. He’s smart, funny and not dating anybody. We clicked. Our wedding was on St. Patrick’s Day this year. 😃
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### Author:  [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/15 "2013-07-22T17:27:03Z")
> [@Jman](#):
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> So, I just thought I’d give an update on this story (I was going through some old threads of mine). Not that anyone has been hanging off the edge of their seat for 11 years (and I know I’ve mentioned some of this off and on), but still…now it’s been 22 years since I first liked that girl, and:
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> She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month. I guess you could say things worked out. I love her more and more every day that goes by.
I’m on a similar quest (except the gap is 30 years). Your success emboldens me, so thanks. 🆒
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### Author:  [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/16 "2013-07-22T18:00:49Z")
> [@Jman](#):
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> She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month. I guess you could say things worked out. I love her more and more every day that goes by.
Yay and congratulations!
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### Author:  [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/17 "2013-07-22T18:05:54Z")
> [@Jman](#):
>
> So, I just thought I’d give an update on this story (I was going through some old threads of mine). Not that anyone has been hanging off the edge of their seat for 11 years (and I know I’ve mentioned some of this off and on), but still…now it’s been 22 years since I first liked that girl, and:
>
> She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month. I guess you could say things worked out. I love her more and more every day that goes by.
I love happy endings.
_Sniff_
Is it dusty in here?
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### Author:  [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/18 "2013-07-22T18:08:52Z")
> [@Jman](#):
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> She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month.
Fantastic!
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### Author:  [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/19 "2013-07-22T19:20:24Z")
> [@Jman](#):
>
> So, I just thought I’d give an update on this story (I was going through some old threads of mine). Not that anyone has been hanging off the edge of their seat for 11 years (and I know I’ve mentioned some of this off and on), but still…now it’s been 22 years since I first liked that girl, and:
>
> She and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this month, and welcomed our second child into the world last month. I guess you could say things worked out. I love her more and more every day that goes by.
Congrats.
I’m still married to mine, our kids are almost 14 and almost 15!
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### Author:  [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2013, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-i-like-this-girl-11-years-later-we-start-dating/124478/20 "2013-07-22T19:54:13Z")
> [@Baker](#):
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> I love happy endings.
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> _Sniff_
>
> Is it dusty in here?
Yeah. And my allergies are actin’ up too.
CONGRATULATIONS, Jman - I’m raising a glass to you and your wife!
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