# So I'm Going To CoAbode, And I'm Going To Die **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 1, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006 "2011-01-01T00:36:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![slumtrimpet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@slumtrimpet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slumtrimpet)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/21 "2012-10-14T15:23:55Z")
Wow. I was going respond to your OP > [@](#): > > I’m being very optimistic that it won’t be like that now, though- at 42 (as she is, too) I like to think I can handle my own shit and other people’s shit with infinitely more patience, grace, and understanding than way back when, and that with mature and reasonable communication, we will be able to work through any issue that might come up. Bwahahaha? with my usual pessimistic way by saying “Bwahahaha indeed. More likely you’ll end up scratching your head and wondering how a 42yr old can by so amazingly immature and dysfunctional”, but continued reading the thread instead and quickly realized it was a zombie. Skipped to the end and saw your update - decided my input wasn’t needed. posted anyway (hope - and assume - you’ve found a better place to live in the interim …?) ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/22 "2012-10-14T15:33:45Z")
> [@slumtrimpet](#): > > Wow. > > I was going respond to your OP > > with my usual pessimistic way by saying “Bwahahaha indeed. More likely you’ll end up scratching your head and wondering how a 42yr old can by so amazingly immature and dysfunctional”, but continued reading the thread instead and quickly realized it was a zombie. Skipped to the end and saw your update - decided my input wasn’t needed. > posted anyway > > (hope - and assume - you’ve found a better place to live in the interim …?) Yes- spent a year in an apartment in the same city, just my son and I, and then moved across the country to be with more of my family, but still it’s just my son and I in the house, and most likely going to stay that way, after that experience. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/23 "2012-10-14T17:30:08Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > I think you saw a lot of evidence of that. I don’t normally defend Christians, but that was kind of a cheap shot. I thinks she saw lots of evidence of a really messed-up hypocrite, not a great example of a Christian. ---
**Author:** ![Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curiosity_Kills_Her)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/24 "2012-10-14T19:30:39Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I don’t normally defend Christians, but that was kind of a cheap shot. I thinks she saw lots of evidence of a really messed-up hypocrite, not a great example of a Christian. Perhaps, but I had the same immediate reaction. My experience with people that make sure to tell you they are Christian is often not positive. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2012, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/25 "2012-10-14T19:55:03Z")
> [@Curiosity\_Kills\_Her](#): > > Perhaps, but I had the same immediate reaction. My experience with people that make sure to tell you they are Christian is often not positive. Mine too. I’ve known some good people who are Christian, and they rarely will just come out and say that they’re Christian. They seem to prefer to lead a Christlike life, in hopes of inspiring others to do the same. I admire this sort of Christian. They don’t make me want to convert, but they do help to remind me that not all Christians picket the funerals of dead soldiers. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/26 "2012-10-15T16:11:43Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I don’t get why houses have to have different sized bedrooms in the first place. :smack: The difference a couple years make. Obviously, it’s because houses are designed for families, where one bedroom will likely house two people: the mother and father. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/27 "2012-10-15T19:00:39Z")
Thank goodness she was a Christian. Imagine how much _worse_ she might have behaved if not for the fear of God. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/28 "2012-10-15T19:32:04Z")
Anybody care to explain how, “How often do you drink alcohol?”, is _ **not** _ at the very top of any check list for cohabiting with someone? Especially if you have a child? Maybe it’s just me? ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/29 "2012-10-15T19:46:15Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Anybody care to explain how, “How often do you drink alcohol?”, is _ **not** _ at the very top of any check list for cohabiting with someone? Especially if you have a child? > > Maybe it’s just me? What do you think the odds are that anyone will ever honestly check the “50-90 drinks/week” box? ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2012, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/30 "2012-10-15T21:31:45Z")
I know you’re right, of course. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2012, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/31 "2012-10-16T00:24:34Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > she would go nuts with the drinking and bring men home from the bar in the middle of the night, etc. > She claimed to be a Christian but I didn’t see any evidence of that. Not see, but hear? I bet she was bringing those men back to pray, as evidenced by all of the “Oh God! Oh GodOhGodOhGod!'s” she kept repeating with them. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2012, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/32 "2012-10-16T01:05:35Z")
> [@Spiderman](#): > > Not see, but hear? I bet she was bringing those men back to pray, as evidenced by all of the “Oh God! Oh GodOhGodOhGod!'s” she kept repeating with them. :rolleyes: Once again, my trusty box fan came in very handy and shielded me from bad noises while I was sleeping. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2012, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006/33 "2012-10-16T07:16:56Z")
> [@Fried\_Dough\_Ho](#): > > Usually the person with the large master bedroom pays more. Bring it up now and clear the air or it will fester get to you – causing resentment later (even for potentially the most minor of things). This. This arrangement will only work if you are honest from the get go. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-im-going-to-coabode-and-im-going-to-die/566006.md?page=1)