# So is falling asleep whlie RECIEVING oral really all that bad? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 11, 2005, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093 "2005-09-11T11:50:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/21 "2005-09-11T20:13:24Z")
I’d be mildly insulted, maybe. As long as you did your part to make it up to her, no big deal. Telling her it’s no big deal, as opposed to the enthusiastic making up to part, that’s just never a good plan. ---
**Author:** ![Giant\_Spongess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@Giant\_Spongess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giant_Spongess)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/22 "2005-09-11T20:15:13Z")
I fell asleep once during foreplay–and no, I wasn’t drunk. _That_ got me a good yelling-at. ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/23 "2005-09-11T20:26:26Z")
> [@EarthStone777](#): > > - In fact I wound up proposing to her about a month or two later And was her answer “Let me sleep on it”? ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/24 "2005-09-11T20:37:22Z")
It’s never happened, but even if it did, no, not a big deal. Go to sleep and resume activity in the morning when we’re feeling more awake, if you feel like it. Or whenever the raging hangover has passed (hey, it’s just as rude to demand someone perform with a bloody aching head). And being drunk is pretty much a free ticket out of it in the first place. I’ve been drunk. I get sleepy. You get laid out in a nice comfortable position and feeling pretty good all over, come on. That’s how\* everyone \* should fall asleep! 😉 Female here, FTR. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/25 "2005-09-11T21:42:29Z")
I would be pissed (in the American sense as y’all were already pissed in the English sense). It’s demoralizing to find one’s efforts meet with little appreciation. It’s only natural to be put off. And then, if she was really horny, of course she’d be upset that the games had been called off. I would be pissed, _at the time_, but would then reflect that that can happen if you go to bed with a drunk guy. And I’d get over it. ---
**Author:** ![gfloyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d2c977/32.png) [@gfloyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gfloyd)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/26 "2005-09-11T22:02:33Z")
I wouldn’t care and I’m a girl. The only thing that would bother me is if my boyfriend and I were somewhere where I could just get up and wander off until I got tired (I don’t sleep much or in any regular fashion). And then I wouldn’t blame him, just my lack of an internal clock. Just like I would like to fall asleep in his arms once in awhile, rather then having him fall asleep and me just sort of laying there, waiting to slip into a coma. ---
**Author:** ![manila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@manila](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manila)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/27 "2005-09-12T04:44:40Z")
I find I really have to concentrate if I need to give the required response when receiving oral. it doesnt often do it for me. I remember one time sweet young thing was doing her stuff and my mind drifted off to a very old billy connelly joke. I started to tremble with the thought of my god am going to burst out laughing. She of course took these involuntary twitches as appreciative responses and redoubled her efforts. This made things even worse for me and I had to bite my arm to suppress the rising guffaws that were threatening to erupt. This elicited even further frantic actions from her. By now I was almost convulsing not with the pleasure she thought she was giving but with me desperately trying to suppress the inevitable. I to my shame and despite biting my arm, pillow and sheet! let out the biggest roar of uncontrollable tears down my cheek laughter! Looking down at her completely perplexed, non-plussed puzzled, hurt, pissed expression holding my rapidly diminishing ardour is one thing I will never forget. she didn’t either. didn’t say a word as she dressed and left never to be seen again apart from a leaving very florid farewell on my answer machine. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/28 "2005-09-12T05:17:16Z")
> [@Gorsnak](#): > > Well, if she didn’t suck it wouldn’t be much in the way of oral, now, would it? :dubious: hence my horrible pun which even now I am paying for ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/29 "2005-09-12T05:19:14Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > Well a few problems, but the OP in and of itself is OK. > > 1 - You drank too much, look into AA. Great advice. You should also look into couples therapy, individual psychotherapy for the both of you, a group for sexual addictions because you were doing something _sinful_, and get an MRI to make sure that you don’t have narcolepsy. Or you could relax and not go on the SDMB about it, where you’re going to get “advice” like the above. It’s not that big a deal – if you’d farted during, then that would be a problem. ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 6:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/30 "2005-09-12T06:13:50Z")
You’d had too much to drink, I don’t think it’s unreasonable that you passed out. Even if you’d fallen asleep from sheer exhaustion, and had had nothing to drink, I don’t see where it would be such a big deal. Your lady friend needs to possibly be reassured that it had absolutely NOTHING to do with your interest in her, nor her skills at oral, but other than that, I think she’s being a bit silly. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 11:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/31 "2005-09-12T11:19:13Z")
> [@Speaker for the Dead](#): > > I note the emphasis you put on _receiving,_ **SHAKES**. Have you fallen asleep while _giving_? Not giving oral. I did fall asleep once while I was on top. I stoped to take a breather and wound up falling asleep. Conversly, I’ve been in a dead sleep only to wake up and realize I’m full on throtle “F’n” my GF. Which freaks me out when this happens because I don’t remember how I got from point A to point B. It’s kind of like sleepwalking only with sex instead. Has anybody else ever done that? ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/32 "2005-09-12T12:43:39Z")
Come to think of it, I’ve fallen asleep during foreplay, too. I wonder if the girlfriend in the OP was so pissed off because he fell asleep during sex, or whether it was specifically because she was giving him a blowjob. Some women don’t really like giving oral sex, so maybe they feel that giving a bj is some sort of special treat instead of, well, an everyday sort of treat. So if she felt like she was really putting herself out by doing it, then it would make more sense that she was upset. Perhaps people’s feelings on whether falling asleep during a blowjob is a horrible thing to do reflects their feelings on blowjobs in general. As I stated above, I wouldn’t see it as a particularly big deal. But in my household, blowjobs would fall into the “everyday treat” category. **bornslippy** –hilarious! I’d love to know what a “florid” answering machine message encompasses. And welcome to the SDMB. ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/33 "2005-09-12T13:27:02Z")
I once told my girlfriend to stop so I could fall asleep. ---
**Author:** ![Silentgoldfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Silentgoldfish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silentgoldfish)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/34 "2005-09-12T13:27:44Z")
> [@SolGrundy](#): > > Great advice. You should also look into couples therapy, individual psychotherapy for the both of you, a group for sexual addictions because you were doing something _sinful_, and get an MRI to make sure that you don’t have narcolepsy. And counseling. Because apparantly that cures all of life’s ills! ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/35 "2005-09-12T21:39:13Z")
Huh. Well, I don’t know if I’d be pissed exactly, but I probably wouldn’t be that anxious to do it again - I would think that you didn’t enjoy it when I did it, and that makes it rather unfun to do, if ya know what I mean. ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/36 "2005-09-12T21:53:39Z")
> [@SHAKES](#): > > Conversly, I’ve been in a dead sleep only to wake up and realize I’m full on throtle “F’n” my GF. Which freaks me out when this happens because I don’t remember how I got from point A to point B. > […] > Has anybody else ever done that? Well now that you mention it, damndest thing, but I _have_ been in a dead sleep only to wake up full on throttle F’n your girlfriend. Oh, come on. You can’t just let a joke set-up like that one go unused. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/37 "2005-09-12T22:08:28Z")
> [@SolGrundy](#): > > Well now that you mention it, damndest thing, but I _have_ been in a dead sleep only to wake up full on throttle F’n your girlfriend. “What the…how did I ge…Eeeeeew!” ---
**Author:** ![Ghanima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2005, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/38 "2005-09-12T22:22:25Z")
Just out of curiosity, were you still fully erect after you had drifted off? Because the only time I’ve had a guy fall asleep during foreplay he totally lost his erection. (I’d think she would have noticed that before the snoring began?) BTW, I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t take it personally. It had been a long hard night of intense partying. ---
**Author:** ![Janicole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Janicole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Janicole)\ **Post date:** [February 27, 2021, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/39 "2021-02-27T02:00:43Z")
No… Its not a bad thing… You may have made her feel insecure(Hurt her fellings) about her skills… Like she was boring you… But in actuality it may felt so great that it relaxed you… She just needs that reassurance that she’s great at what she does and that you were totally relaxed because it felt so good. ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [February 27, 2021, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093/40 "2021-02-27T02:57:28Z")
Hi Janicole, and welcome to the Straight Dope! Just a heads-up that the OP you responded to is over fifteen years old, and presumably the OP and his lady friend have resolved their disagreement by this time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-is-falling-asleep-whlie-recieving-oral-really-all-that-bad/321093.md?page=1)