# So, My Bladder's Falling Out (possibly TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2009, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860 "2009-10-15T02:17:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![gallows\_fodder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8c91f0/32.png) [@gallows\_fodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gallows_fodder)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/41 "2009-10-16T16:58:45Z")
My mind is blown. How do you…I mean…does your bladder still fill up as usual? Do you have to pee every five minutes? _Kegeling as I type_ ETA: Wait, I’m not done boggling. _How_ would you have sex with it the way it is? Wouldn’t it get all compressed up by your cervix? I mean, hypothetically. You don’t have to speak from experience, and this is the most TMI I have ever gotten and I feel ashamed but I’m also curious. ---
**Author:** ![PandaMom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d2c977/32.png) [@PandaMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaMom)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/42 "2009-10-16T17:16:45Z")
So sorry to hear your troubles Alice! I have walked that walk, almost exactly! (my bladder wasn’t poking out… but damn close!) I had a partial hysterctomy 10 years ago (when I was 36) as part of the repair for the bladder (a sling was used to lasso that bad bladder to it’s proper location) The reason for the partial hysterectomy was that my uterus was shot (falling out of the vagina), and was so messed up that I probably couldn’t conceive again if I tried. I saw it as a bonus! NO MORE PERIODS!! I kept my ovaries though. Last year, I had a posterior vaginal repair done. My rectum was starting to bulge into the vagina. NOT FUN. The doc had said that many women just deal with this. They wear a tampon 100%, or just put their fingers…welll nevermind. TMI for sure. I was appalled! There was NO WAY I was wearing a tampon every day just to have a bowel movement!!! NOT HAPPENING. I highly recommend getting both procedures done ASAP. The toll this is taking on your emotional well being, and your femininity are VERY worth it! No longer do I have to walk around feeling was I was feeling, has just made me a totally new person. DO IT. DO IT. DO IT!!! ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/43 "2009-10-16T17:27:43Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Yes, you can touch it. Boing, boing. It actually rubs against my panties and irritates. This is so gross!! Ho boy. ---
**Author:** ![Nan\_Sequitur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e36b37/32.png) [@Nan\_Sequitur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nan_Sequitur)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/44 "2009-10-16T17:59:25Z")
My mom had one of the early sling surgeries when she was in her 50’s. It lasted about 20 years, and while her doctor is pushing her to have another procedure done, she’s not all that cracked up over the idea. She has been fitted with a pessary, which is sort of a doughnut shaped device inserted in her vagina to hold the bladder back in place. It is a pain, but much preferable to dragging her entrails behind her. She was complaining to her gyn about having to use one and feeling a little freakish about it, but the doctor told her that she would be shocked at the number of younger women who use them — especially those who have had premature hysterectomies as she did. So sorry you are having to go through this, hope things get better for you soon. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/45 "2009-10-16T18:15:18Z")
I’m confused. I can’t figure out where that bladder is coming out. The urethra seems way to small to accommodate this. Is that where it’s protruding out of? ---
**Author:** ![Nan\_Sequitur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e36b37/32.png) [@Nan\_Sequitur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nan_Sequitur)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/46 "2009-10-16T18:30:50Z")
[here’s a schematic](http://64.143.176.9/library/healthguide/en-us/support/topic.asp?hwid=zm5066) If I understand it correctly, it’s actually the bladder pushing the vaginal wall through the vaginal opening. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/47 "2009-10-16T19:03:43Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > I will need to have surgery, although, scarily enough, you don’t \*have \* to. The doctor suggested a total hysterectomy with fixing those prolapses, plus building up my perineum. After full healment, I will actually be as good as new, “down there”. Yahoo. Doesn’t really make me feel better right now, but maybe someday it will. I started this job a couple months ago, so I don’t have insurance yet, which means I get to walk around like this for a while. Maybe it’ll get so bad I’ll have to wear skirts everyday? :eek: > Now for the good news: my doctor is actually my boss, and she is a gynecological surgeon. Who knew that working for one would come in so handy so soon? > > Somebody, please to console me. My mother in law has had a prolapsed uterus for about 10 years now. She doesn’t give a shit. I told her the doctor could do a drive-by exam, seeing as it’s practically between her knees at this point. She’s not hearing of it. The problem is that she gets UTIs fairly frequently, and the doctor seems to think this has a lot to do with it. She still doesn’t give a shit. Good luck with your surgery. I cannot imagine NOT doing it, though I suppose if I was a surly 86 year old, I might not give a shit, either. ---
**Author:** ![Chicken\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Chicken\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicken_Fingers)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/48 "2009-10-16T19:34:00Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > My aunt’s fell out last year while she was golfing. kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel **This thread is like the scariest Halloween story ever.** kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/49 "2009-10-16T20:33:07Z")
Bodies are always doing inconvenient things like this. I hope all goes well for you, **Alice.** ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/50 "2009-10-16T21:04:28Z")
> [@Nan\_Sequitur](#): > > [here’s a schematic](http://64.143.176.9/library/healthguide/en-us/support/topic.asp?hwid=zm5066) > > If I understand it correctly, it’s actually the bladder pushing the vaginal wall through the vaginal opening. Ah, thanks for the link! I was afraid to search for what I might find. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Weird\_One](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@The\_Weird\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Weird_One)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/51 "2009-10-16T21:28:32Z")
_whimper_ kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/52 "2009-10-16T22:08:15Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Yes, you can touch it. Boing, boing. It actually rubs against my panties and irritates. This is so gross!! in a word, pessary. think of it as sort of a vaginal butt plug. You insert it and it presses the organs back up inside. It will keep the bladder from getting infected from the rubbing. I cant believe she dodnt suggest it as a measure until you can get something done?! > **[Pessary](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pessary)** > > A pessary is a prosthetic device inserted into the vagina for structural and pharmaceutical purposes. It is most commonly used to treat stress urinary incontinence to stop urinary leakage and to treat pelvic organ prolapse to maintain the location of organs in the pelvic region. It can also be used to administer medications locally in the vagina or as a method of contraception. > Pessaries come in different shapes and sizes, so it is important that individuals be fitted for them by health care pr... ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/53 "2009-10-16T22:12:00Z")
think of this thread as the girly equivalent to the bashed in the nuts threads for guys and I have kegelled ever since I heard about it back in my early 20s … ---
**Author:** ![Nan\_Sequitur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e36b37/32.png) [@Nan\_Sequitur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nan_Sequitur)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/54 "2009-10-16T22:22:56Z")
> [@The\_Weird\_One](#): > > _whimper_ kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel kegel [Mushroom!Mushroom!](http://www.badgerbadgerbadger.com/) ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/55 "2009-10-16T23:14:44Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > in a word, pessary. think of it as sort of a vaginal butt plug. You insert it and it presses the organs back up inside. It will keep the bladder from getting infected from the rubbing. I cant believe she dodnt suggest it as a measure until you can get something done?! > > [Pessary - Wikipedia](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pessary) For some reason, I thought a pessary ring was inserted by the doctor, and possibly it’s stitched in? That might be old school… ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/56 "2009-10-16T23:39:04Z")
Maybe we should (kegel) take turns posting (kegel) a thread every couple of (kegel) weeks reminding us of (kegel) prolapse etc. (kegel) ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2009, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/57 "2009-10-17T01:29:32Z")
I know about pessaries- we have exactly ONE very old patient with one in. She comes in every month or so and we take it out, wash it, slather it with estrogen cream, and put it back in. It’s gross, too, and huge. I don’t see how people go around with one of _those_! I don’t really leak urine- about the only trouble I’ve had is when I think I’m done and I stand up, sometimes I’m not really done. That has taught me to just sit there for a minute. I have no bladder symptoms other than that. This is like a horror movie, I know. When I first found about it could happen, I was shocked. When I found out it happened to me, I was devastated. People don’t tell you these things when you’re young. How many of us would even have children if we were warned that our insides could fall out because of them? ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2009, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/58 "2009-10-17T01:32:44Z")
I feel for ya, Alice, but at least there’s a remedy. I cannot possibly imagine going through life without the fix (Ma, I’m lookin’ at you!!). ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2009, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/59 "2009-10-17T01:38:35Z")
Yes, at least there’s a remedy. Sometimes our fear of pain or of the unknown keeps us from making the best decisions, but I for one am looking forward to it now. As much as I cried and bitched about having to have it at first (I hate pain and needles), now I’m visualizing my new youthful rejuvenated vagina and looking forward to it. ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2009, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860/60 "2009-10-17T01:44:05Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > Yes, at least there’s a remedy. Sometimes our fear of pain or of the unknown keeps us from making the best decisions, but I for one am looking forward to it now. As much as I cried and bitched about having to have it at first (I hate pain and needles), now I’m visualizing my new youthful rejuvenated vagina and looking forward to it. A vaginal tune-up…you’ll be the envy of the neighborhood! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-bladders-falling-out-possibly-tmi/513860.md?page=4)