# So my father's worried I might be gay, and I'm not sure I'll bother to disabuse him of the notion. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 6, 2009, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827 "2009-10-06T17:01:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Martini\_Enfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/martini_enfield/32/11123_2.png) [@Martini\_Enfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martini_Enfield)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2009, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/81 "2009-10-11T07:59:55Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > As usual, Oak states my point more succinctly than I would have. > > If I had been having such a pseudo-discussion with a casual acquaintance, I’d have let fly with the multiple ways the Bible contradicts itself on, oh, everything. But with my dad? I can’t see a reason to bother; it will just be hurtful to him with no real possibility of enlightening him. I realise you have a somewhat strained relationship with your Dad, **Skald** , but have you thought of just saying to him “No, Dad, I’m not Gay. I appreciate your concern for my spiritual well-being, though.”? That would appear to avoid a lot of the drama from the situation… or at least one would think so. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2009, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/82 "2009-10-11T19:19:12Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I’d also tell him that you are straight, and you know in your heart (or “know that you know that you know”) that nobody can convert you. That’s a lie, though, as long as Taye Diggs isn’t dead. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2009, 8:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/83 "2009-10-11T20:05:59Z")
It occurs to me that I should point out that, as much as I appreciate the sentiment behind the advice (both jovial and serious), I don’t really need it. I’m way past the point of doing anything but nodding and doing math in my head when my father gives his opinions. He’d express similar concerns at the thought of me drinking an alcoholic beverage. ---
**Author:** ![crazyjoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f14d63/32.png) [@crazyjoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crazyjoe)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2009, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/84 "2009-10-12T18:15:03Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Fool of a Took! That would involve giving up one of my theatre tickets. Unless the play is The Lion King, that’s not gonna happen. If you have extra tickets to the Lion King, I’d love to go and bring my 6 year-old with me. It’s a great show for 6 year-olds. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2009, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/85 "2009-10-12T18:59:13Z")
> [@crazyjoe](#): > > If you have extra tickets to the Lion King, I’d love to go and bring my 6 year-old with me. It’s a great show for 6 year-olds. 😉 One of my brothers thought I was kidding about my irrational loathing of all things Disney and bought tickets for me and my favorite nice for our shared birthday. (The three of us have birthdays within a week of one another.) I went to be polite, but I seem to recall that the show lasted, like, four years, and they had to strap my hands down to keep my from clawing out and off my own eyes and ears. Actually it was very good, but I’m not going to admit that because of the aforementioned irrational hatred of Disney. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2009, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/86 "2009-10-13T00:56:48Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > One of my brothers thought I was kidding about my irrational loathing of all things Disney and bought tickets for me and my favorite nice for our shared birthday. (The three of us have birthdays within a week of one another.) I went to be polite, but I seem to recall that the show lasted, like, four years, and they had to strap my hands down to keep my from clawing out and off my own eyes and ears. > > Actually it was very good, but I’m not going to admit that because of the aforementioned irrational hatred of Disney. You should hang out with **Ms. Attack** sometime. She’s another big fan of Hiassen’s _Team Rodent_. Until they ate Pixar, we were pretty much a Disney Free Zone. ---
**Author:** ![Imasquare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Imasquare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Imasquare)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2009, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/87 "2009-10-15T08:22:53Z")
> [@Shirley\_Ujest](#): > > I think that for Halloween you need to dress up as either the Indian or the Bike Guy from The Village People and trick or treat at your Dad’s. Or in drag. Assure him that you’re not gay but that you are a woman trapped in a man’s body. That should set his mind at ease. > [@Shirley\_Ujest](#): > > If Praying Cures Diabetes and other assorted diseases, then why do we have doctor’s? I think they believe that prayer only works if you have enough faith. If you can’t be cured by prayer then it’s your fault, ye of little faith… :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Imasquare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Imasquare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Imasquare)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2009, 10:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827/88 "2009-10-15T10:25:48Z")
> [@Imasquare](#): > > Or in drag. Assure him that you’re not gay but that you are a woman trapped in a man’s body. That should set his mind at ease. My previous post is a little insensitive considering he doesn’t wasn’t to upset his Dad. Sorry about that **Scald** [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-fathers-worried-i-might-be-gay-and-im-not-sure-ill-bother-to-disabuse-him-of-the-notion/512827.md?page=4)