# So my mom is on her death bed **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 13, 2008, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770 "2008-06-13T04:13:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/61 "2008-06-16T01:06:50Z")
[QUOTE=Soapbox Monkey] I was able to visit my mom in the hospital in full cap and gown so that my mom could see me and we got some pictures together. And then she got to see me cross the stage on the broadband broadcast of my graduation. \ Then afterwards I went back to the hospital so that she could see my degree, because she rightly deserves just as much credit for it as I do. I needed her to see it and so that I could tell her that it simply would not have been possible without her. [/QUOTE] A little bit of happy amid the sad. How awesome that she got to see you in your regalia, degree in hand, and you could tell her about her part in it. Good on both of you. ---
**Author:** ![newcrasher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b3f665/32.png) [@newcrasher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/newcrasher)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/62 "2008-06-16T01:58:50Z")
My God she is blessed to be so loved. Peabe be upon you. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/63 "2008-06-16T14:15:45Z")
I have no great words other than I am moved by what you are going through and you are in my thoughts right now. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/64 "2008-06-16T14:30:03Z")
[QUOTE=Soapbox Monkey] Fortunately I have three weeks before I start my job [/QUOTE] You might want to advise your new employer if she’s likely to last until near then: the last thing they’ll want is for a new employee to suddenly disappear a few days in. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/65 "2008-06-16T14:51:51Z")
I just wanted to say I’m sorry, Soapbox Monkey. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [June 16, 2008, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/66 "2008-06-16T19:37:45Z")
She was there at the hour of your birth so it seems fitting that you’ll be with her at the hour of her death. It’s staggeringly beautiful and sad all at the same time. Good luck to you in the next few days. Cancer sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/67 "2008-06-17T21:14:51Z")
She passed this morning. My aunt stayed the night, leaving at 7am, and I got the call at home at 8am. So it seems like my mom was holding on until everyone left so that she could pass alone and in peace. The head nurse that we had met with had been telling us that often times mothers will protect their children by holding on until the children aren’t around to see the moment of death. While I’ve shed my tears, there is also an overwhelming sense of relief that any pain she was enduring is over, and that now we can begin healing. I had called the pastor from the church we attended while growing up and he was able to come by on short notice yesterday to pray over my mother. I meet with him tomorrow about presiding over her memorial service. She’ll be cremated, either late today or tomorrow and then we’ll wait a week to a week and a half to give anyone not in the immediate area time to make their travel plans. Thank you to everyone who has kept my mother and our family in their thoughts and prayers over these last few days. You guys are awesome. ---
**Author:** ![Geek\_Mecha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecae2f/32.png) [@Geek\_Mecha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geek_Mecha)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/68 "2008-06-17T21:29:04Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![si\_blakely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@si\_blakely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/si_blakely)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/69 "2008-06-17T21:46:46Z")
**{{{Soapbox Monkey and family}}}** Si ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/70 "2008-06-17T22:06:05Z")
{{ **Soapbox Monkey** }} ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/71 "2008-06-17T22:10:30Z")
My most sincere condolences on your loss! ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/72 "2008-06-17T22:12:10Z")
You and your family are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/73 "2008-06-17T22:13:06Z")
_“Give to the departed eternal rest. Let light perpetual shine upon them.”_ Keep on taking care of yourself too. with the rest and meals. You’re still going to need it for a while. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/74 "2008-06-17T22:31:29Z")
My heartfelt condolences. Her name should be written, and will be. She sounds quite remarkable. Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/75 "2008-06-17T22:55:15Z")
Bless. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/76 "2008-06-17T22:58:31Z")
[QUOTE=Soapbox Monkey] She passed this morning. My aunt stayed the night, leaving at 7am, and I got the call at home at 8am. So it seems like my mom was holding on until everyone left so that she could pass alone and in peace. The head nurse that we had met with had been telling us that often times mothers will protect their children by holding on until the children aren’t around to see the moment of death. While I’ve shed my tears, there is also an overwhelming sense of relief that any pain she was enduring is over, and that now we can begin healing. I had called the pastor from the church we attended while growing up and he was able to come by on short notice yesterday to pray over my mother. I meet with him tomorrow about presiding over her memorial service. She’ll be cremated, either late today or tomorrow and then we’ll wait a week to a week and a half to give anyone not in the immediate area time to make their travel plans. Thank you to everyone who has kept my mother and our family in their thoughts and prayers over these last few days. You guys are awesome. [/QUOTE] Sweetie, I’m so sorry. I don’t know what to say. Your mom sounds awesome…and you’re a good kid. She did a good job on you. Hugs and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [June 17, 2008, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/77 "2008-06-17T23:01:03Z")
**Soapbox Monkey** I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom, sister, brother, you and the rest of your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2008, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/78 "2008-06-18T00:01:56Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. ☹☹☹ ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2008, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/79 "2008-06-18T00:18:11Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. [QUOTE=Soapbox Monkey] . . . The head nurse that we had met with had been telling us that often times mothers will protect their children by holding on until the children aren’t around to see the moment of death. . . [/QUOTE] My Mom used to be an LVN, and this was one of the things she often commented on. Not parents protecting children, but spouses protecting spouses and/or other friends and relatives. ---
**Author:** ![newcrasher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b3f665/32.png) [@newcrasher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/newcrasher)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2008, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/so-my-mom-is-on-her-death-bed/452770/80 "2008-06-18T00:37:39Z")
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